Ok, I have been fuming about this for a few days. Ok...I promise I will try to keep this short!
When Jessie was sick, I pretty much cut off my friends. NOT to be mean but I just couldn't talk, I was so consumed with what was going on and such. Anyway, I explained to them that I needed so time. Ya know how you read your friends and just know which ones you can talk about certain things with? Well, one of my friends isn't the most empathetic person. So, I didn't talk to her for 2 weeks. Once I did, she was pretty good about understanding. Well when Punkin passed last Wednesday, I decided to give my friend a chance to be empathetic to me. I answered the phone when she called and told her (through my bawling) that I lost punkin. Mind you, Tuesday evening I met with her for coffee and told her that I was going to get a friend for punkin soon. After some punkin stories and pics, she was telling me about her new kitten (clover). Ok, back to Wednesday. When I told her that punkin had passed, she said, "is that your new cat??" I thought, what the (bleep)? Is she serious? I just talked about her last night!!! Plus, I expect my friends to call my kitties by their names (personal pet peeve). That started my temper flaring. I maintained. She said, "sorry to hear that" then went on to ask questions like, "what happened?", "was she stiff?" WAS SHE STIFF???????????????????????? ARE YOU KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW I THOUGHT???? I am getting madder by the second. I finally cut her off after a few more stupid questions like that. I should say, insensitive! Ugh, I was sooooo mad. So, I have not talked to her since. She has called a few times and left messages. On top of it, I am soooo mad at myself for being away from home that night and especially with her! I didn't know it was my last night with punkin and now I am so guilt ridden inside. Although when I got home that night, punkin seemed fine. She wanted her roast beef and belly rub so I had no idea anything was wrong. Ok, I'm getting off track again. So, here I am mad again. I am trying to get myself to call my friend and explain why I am ticked at her but I just can't do it! I just don't even want to talk to her. My mom says that I need to explain why I am upset and tell her that if she cannot be understanding about how I feel then maybe we cannot be friends. But I feel that she should know how I am since she has known me for years! Then my mom's rebuttle is, "people aren't mind readers and even so, you are hard to read! plus, they haven't ever experienced this with you"
Any opinions on this?
So much for keeping it short! Sorry.
Thanks, thanks, thanks for listening. I hope everyone does not mind me venting.
When Jessie was sick, I pretty much cut off my friends. NOT to be mean but I just couldn't talk, I was so consumed with what was going on and such. Anyway, I explained to them that I needed so time. Ya know how you read your friends and just know which ones you can talk about certain things with? Well, one of my friends isn't the most empathetic person. So, I didn't talk to her for 2 weeks. Once I did, she was pretty good about understanding. Well when Punkin passed last Wednesday, I decided to give my friend a chance to be empathetic to me. I answered the phone when she called and told her (through my bawling) that I lost punkin. Mind you, Tuesday evening I met with her for coffee and told her that I was going to get a friend for punkin soon. After some punkin stories and pics, she was telling me about her new kitten (clover). Ok, back to Wednesday. When I told her that punkin had passed, she said, "is that your new cat??" I thought, what the (bleep)? Is she serious? I just talked about her last night!!! Plus, I expect my friends to call my kitties by their names (personal pet peeve). That started my temper flaring. I maintained. She said, "sorry to hear that" then went on to ask questions like, "what happened?", "was she stiff?" WAS SHE STIFF???????????????????????? ARE YOU KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW I THOUGHT???? I am getting madder by the second. I finally cut her off after a few more stupid questions like that. I should say, insensitive! Ugh, I was sooooo mad. So, I have not talked to her since. She has called a few times and left messages. On top of it, I am soooo mad at myself for being away from home that night and especially with her! I didn't know it was my last night with punkin and now I am so guilt ridden inside. Although when I got home that night, punkin seemed fine. She wanted her roast beef and belly rub so I had no idea anything was wrong. Ok, I'm getting off track again. So, here I am mad again. I am trying to get myself to call my friend and explain why I am ticked at her but I just can't do it! I just don't even want to talk to her. My mom says that I need to explain why I am upset and tell her that if she cannot be understanding about how I feel then maybe we cannot be friends. But I feel that she should know how I am since she has known me for years! Then my mom's rebuttle is, "people aren't mind readers and even so, you are hard to read! plus, they haven't ever experienced this with you"
Any opinions on this?
So much for keeping it short! Sorry.
Thanks, thanks, thanks for listening. I hope everyone does not mind me venting.