I posted a week or so ago about adopting a second kitten as a companion to our current kitten (Pia, 19 weeks). We adopted Oliver (10 weeks) a week ago and, while still early on in a process that I know can take time, does not seem to be going well considering how young they both are. The rescue we got Oliver from recommended an introduction the next day (Saturday) since the cats are both young and should be reasonably flexible in adapting. We tried on Saturday and Sunday and both cats were clearly upset, Pia was hissing and growling, both of them had arched backs, etc.
We decided we needed to slow down and not introduce them again until Pia stopped hissing at him under the door. Come Tuesday, she had stopped hissing/growing under the door and they were actually playing under the door! We brought out the towel that he's been sleeping on in his cat bed and she attacked it like she does with her toys after sniffing for a bit but then curled up and slept on the towel, which we saw as a good sign. She also started meowing by his door a lot so we thought that maybe she's curious and ready to see him again. We introduced them again on Wednesday and all meetings since have been the same, she stalks him around, manages to corner him, and then hisses, growls and swats him on the head with her paw. He's now basically terrified of her and will sometimes freeze in place when she's in the room. I don't know if we should continue to let her assert her dominance or if we basically need to start from scratch again.
I'm a bit worried because we have Oliver in his sanctuary room (our guest bedroom) but now he's meowing all the time to get out even though it's a spacious room with toys, his litterbox and food, etc. plus we try to spend as much time as we can with him (although whenever Pia sees one of us go in there she gets really upset and starts meowing and whining).
I had a few questions that I was hoping to get input on -
1) is this normal or do all the signs above imply that this introduction is not going well?
2) can cats become good friends after a bad introduction or are we basically doomed?
3) This probably wasn't right on our part, but we adopted Oliver for Pia's sake as we thought she would do well with a friend based on everything we read about kittens. Based on this past week alone, it does seem that she might be a happy only cat and prefers to have all our attention. Should we wait things out? Would it be terrible if we took Oliver back? He came from a no-kill rescue and is an absolutely sweet and adorable kitten so I don't think he'll have any trouble getting adopted again although the thought of taking him back makes me feel terrible . If we do take him back we definitely won't be getting a second and will just be a single cat home.
Thanks in advance for any responses, input, etc. We are getting to the point where we'd like to make a decision in the next day or so on whether it's worth it to continue trying for both cats' sakes or whether Oliver might do better elsewhere.
We decided we needed to slow down and not introduce them again until Pia stopped hissing at him under the door. Come Tuesday, she had stopped hissing/growing under the door and they were actually playing under the door! We brought out the towel that he's been sleeping on in his cat bed and she attacked it like she does with her toys after sniffing for a bit but then curled up and slept on the towel, which we saw as a good sign. She also started meowing by his door a lot so we thought that maybe she's curious and ready to see him again. We introduced them again on Wednesday and all meetings since have been the same, she stalks him around, manages to corner him, and then hisses, growls and swats him on the head with her paw. He's now basically terrified of her and will sometimes freeze in place when she's in the room. I don't know if we should continue to let her assert her dominance or if we basically need to start from scratch again.
I'm a bit worried because we have Oliver in his sanctuary room (our guest bedroom) but now he's meowing all the time to get out even though it's a spacious room with toys, his litterbox and food, etc. plus we try to spend as much time as we can with him (although whenever Pia sees one of us go in there she gets really upset and starts meowing and whining).
I had a few questions that I was hoping to get input on -
1) is this normal or do all the signs above imply that this introduction is not going well?
2) can cats become good friends after a bad introduction or are we basically doomed?
3) This probably wasn't right on our part, but we adopted Oliver for Pia's sake as we thought she would do well with a friend based on everything we read about kittens. Based on this past week alone, it does seem that she might be a happy only cat and prefers to have all our attention. Should we wait things out? Would it be terrible if we took Oliver back? He came from a no-kill rescue and is an absolutely sweet and adorable kitten so I don't think he'll have any trouble getting adopted again although the thought of taking him back makes me feel terrible . If we do take him back we definitely won't be getting a second and will just be a single cat home.
Thanks in advance for any responses, input, etc. We are getting to the point where we'd like to make a decision in the next day or so on whether it's worth it to continue trying for both cats' sakes or whether Oliver might do better elsewhere.