We're having trouble with Miaka, and I need some advice. For those of you who haven't seen my other posts, Miaka has been living with my fiancÃ[emoji]169[/emoji] for over 2 years now, since she was a little kitten, and she has been spayed.
I have recently moved in with my fiancÃ[emoji]169[/emoji] and Miaka is still adjusting to my presence, so I'll speak only of her relationship with him. This has been happening ever since she was a small kitten, and has nothing to do with my appearance on the scene.
Miaka will seek out attention, to the point of jumping up in my fiancÃ[emoji]169[/emoji]'s lap when she wants to be petted. She'll rub her face up against his hands and under his chin and purr, just like any other sociable cat. After a varying length of time- sometimes 30 seconds, sometimes 30 minutes, and anywhere in between- she'd start showing signs of aggression (ears lowered back, eyes widening, etc) and she'd attack him. There is no connection between when she does this and where or in what way he's petting her or interacting with her at the time. His reaction is simply to put her down and ignore her.
In recent months, her "warning signs" have decreased to the point that the past few times, she's been purring and rubbing against him, then *immediately* she starts hissing and swatting at his face, claws out, with both front feet. Before, we could ignore this as an odd quirk and let her have her way- but now it's getting dangerous to him and me, and we've got to figure out something that can be done.
We've stayed up late at night the past few nights trying to figure out what might be causing it or what might trigger it. There just aren't any similarities or common triggers that either of us can notice that might incite her to act like this. She's always been taken good care of and never hit or abused in any way. We're getting desperate here; we just don't know how to handle her. I have read the "stopping cat aggression" post, but I'd like to hear your opinions as well. Help!
I have recently moved in with my fiancÃ[emoji]169[/emoji] and Miaka is still adjusting to my presence, so I'll speak only of her relationship with him. This has been happening ever since she was a small kitten, and has nothing to do with my appearance on the scene.
Miaka will seek out attention, to the point of jumping up in my fiancÃ[emoji]169[/emoji]'s lap when she wants to be petted. She'll rub her face up against his hands and under his chin and purr, just like any other sociable cat. After a varying length of time- sometimes 30 seconds, sometimes 30 minutes, and anywhere in between- she'd start showing signs of aggression (ears lowered back, eyes widening, etc) and she'd attack him. There is no connection between when she does this and where or in what way he's petting her or interacting with her at the time. His reaction is simply to put her down and ignore her.
In recent months, her "warning signs" have decreased to the point that the past few times, she's been purring and rubbing against him, then *immediately* she starts hissing and swatting at his face, claws out, with both front feet. Before, we could ignore this as an odd quirk and let her have her way- but now it's getting dangerous to him and me, and we've got to figure out something that can be done.
We've stayed up late at night the past few nights trying to figure out what might be causing it or what might trigger it. There just aren't any similarities or common triggers that either of us can notice that might incite her to act like this. She's always been taken good care of and never hit or abused in any way. We're getting desperate here; we just don't know how to handle her. I have read the "stopping cat aggression" post, but I'd like to hear your opinions as well. Help!