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I’m beginning to think getting a second cat was a mistake but one I have to live with (kitten too darn cute to give up).
my issue being my elder cat (13y in a few months) just simply refuses to accept him. Part of it might be my fault. I didn’t get to do a grace period of introduction with toys and bedding. He was the last kitten from a co-worker of a little a stay mamma brought to their place. The kitten had thus been with their own cats (and dogs) and was a sociable kitten. So much so that the room I set up for him he would constantly cry from (even with regular visits from me) and thus the elder cat knew he was around (and she saw me bring him home as she greets me at the door often. In spite of my efforts, the kitten did escape when I tried to enter the room one day in the first week. The elder had investigated the door and hissed as I expecte. Guess I should add she up to this point has been an only cat and might be part of the problem there. So...meeting went with him running up to her (I couldn’t catch him fast enough)(he was use to being and playing with other cats) and she naturally hissed and tried to fend him off. I separated them as fast as possible but the damage might of been done. He wants to play (though I suspect now he might be trying to claim dominance at 9 months and he’s neutered) but she always grows and hisses at him.
I have set up a baby gate system with him (as I suspect his energy lvs were high from a small confinement) and have locked the elder in my room while he explores and have given him free reign when I go visit home (with the elder with me) of the apartment so sent is not an issue. But I have given them supervised interactions and even have him be out when she’s not locked up but even with the gates and being able to always hear and smell she just always goes into defense mode with growing when he’s near and hissing when he gets too close and they’ve had a few scuffles with her usually running to hide (and even if he’s being submissive). I’m...just not sure what to do. I’ve done area swapping and she hangs out near the gate most of the time though and hisses when he goes to investigate.
the vet says it may not be til he’s a year old before she may start to accept him as his kitten behavior will be lessened and be more adult in nature but I fear she may never accept him with the few years she has left (and...I fear I may have shorten it with possible stress). What should I do? Impossible to really start from scratch at this point. I has hopped she’d like having a companion but her personality might not be suitable for that. And I have tried treat time together. Maybe feeding at the gate might help...
my issue being my elder cat (13y in a few months) just simply refuses to accept him. Part of it might be my fault. I didn’t get to do a grace period of introduction with toys and bedding. He was the last kitten from a co-worker of a little a stay mamma brought to their place. The kitten had thus been with their own cats (and dogs) and was a sociable kitten. So much so that the room I set up for him he would constantly cry from (even with regular visits from me) and thus the elder cat knew he was around (and she saw me bring him home as she greets me at the door often. In spite of my efforts, the kitten did escape when I tried to enter the room one day in the first week. The elder had investigated the door and hissed as I expecte. Guess I should add she up to this point has been an only cat and might be part of the problem there. So...meeting went with him running up to her (I couldn’t catch him fast enough)(he was use to being and playing with other cats) and she naturally hissed and tried to fend him off. I separated them as fast as possible but the damage might of been done. He wants to play (though I suspect now he might be trying to claim dominance at 9 months and he’s neutered) but she always grows and hisses at him.
I have set up a baby gate system with him (as I suspect his energy lvs were high from a small confinement) and have locked the elder in my room while he explores and have given him free reign when I go visit home (with the elder with me) of the apartment so sent is not an issue. But I have given them supervised interactions and even have him be out when she’s not locked up but even with the gates and being able to always hear and smell she just always goes into defense mode with growing when he’s near and hissing when he gets too close and they’ve had a few scuffles with her usually running to hide (and even if he’s being submissive). I’m...just not sure what to do. I’ve done area swapping and she hangs out near the gate most of the time though and hisses when he goes to investigate.
the vet says it may not be til he’s a year old before she may start to accept him as his kitten behavior will be lessened and be more adult in nature but I fear she may never accept him with the few years she has left (and...I fear I may have shorten it with possible stress). What should I do? Impossible to really start from scratch at this point. I has hopped she’d like having a companion but her personality might not be suitable for that. And I have tried treat time together. Maybe feeding at the gate might help...