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I need some advise on friends, so I thought the catsite was the place to go!
Ok, I have this one friend. We have been friends for about 4 years, I wouldn't call us best friends but I would say we aren't just casual friends either. Well she cancels a lot on events. I mean more than anyone I have known in recent history. At first I just chocked it up to new friendship and sort of adjusting to it. Plus I felt I was sort of the one who instigated our friendship so I feel like you kind of have to cut someone some slack if you are the one being the force. But lately it's gone too far. For instance we had plans to go to the movies recently. Well I looked forward to it and then low and behold, THE DAY we were suppose to go, she cancels with just "I am really tired". I mean I offered to drive and it was just a movie-you sit there. I am to where I don't want to make plans with her anymore. It's becoming like Lucy and Charlie Brown with the football, I get egg on my face. Plus to be honest I think she's a decent person but she is also kind of snobby. I often feel sort of patronized. I almost didn't realize that was going on, cause I didn't see in any way she is better off than myself. but I think her ego approaches all relationships that way.
My question is, my instinct doesn't want to bother to confront her. I know that I *should*, but I just want to take care of myself and not stress and cause a scene. So I am hoping to just drift away. Like she mentioned last week we do something tonight. I said I wasn't sure but would get back to her. I just haven't gotten back to her and hope to just forget the whole thing.
Am I doing the right thing? I don't feel this person has made enough effort for me to make effort in return. So I just want to blow her off. I mean I know that sounds cold, but I swear men are so much better about this. They just walk away when someone is treating them disrespectfully.
I need some advise on friends, so I thought the catsite was the place to go!
Ok, I have this one friend. We have been friends for about 4 years, I wouldn't call us best friends but I would say we aren't just casual friends either. Well she cancels a lot on events. I mean more than anyone I have known in recent history. At first I just chocked it up to new friendship and sort of adjusting to it. Plus I felt I was sort of the one who instigated our friendship so I feel like you kind of have to cut someone some slack if you are the one being the force. But lately it's gone too far. For instance we had plans to go to the movies recently. Well I looked forward to it and then low and behold, THE DAY we were suppose to go, she cancels with just "I am really tired". I mean I offered to drive and it was just a movie-you sit there. I am to where I don't want to make plans with her anymore. It's becoming like Lucy and Charlie Brown with the football, I get egg on my face. Plus to be honest I think she's a decent person but she is also kind of snobby. I often feel sort of patronized. I almost didn't realize that was going on, cause I didn't see in any way she is better off than myself. but I think her ego approaches all relationships that way.
My question is, my instinct doesn't want to bother to confront her. I know that I *should*, but I just want to take care of myself and not stress and cause a scene. So I am hoping to just drift away. Like she mentioned last week we do something tonight. I said I wasn't sure but would get back to her. I just haven't gotten back to her and hope to just forget the whole thing.
Am I doing the right thing? I don't feel this person has made enough effort for me to make effort in return. So I just want to blow her off. I mean I know that sounds cold, but I swear men are so much better about this. They just walk away when someone is treating them disrespectfully.