I need some advice on dealing with a very friendly, obviously socialized stray who has taken up residence on my deck.
We first noticed kitty about 5 days ago wandering around our backyard. The first couple of times, he bolted away into the woods. (I say he because I *think* I see boy bits, but I am far from positive). Two days ago he suddenly appeared on our deck and has been there ever since. He has literally left the deck twice in two days, and both times he reappeared within an hour. He sleeps on a chair on the deck, if we go out there he rubs up on our ankles and "talks" to us. My husband went out there to grill one evening and kitty just laid there, mellow and watching, not the least bit afraid. Kitty has tried to enter our house several times, but we have managed to keep him outside so far. This is definitely not a true feral cat because he is quite comfortable with people.
I have given him some dry food and water because he is quite skinny, and I have posted pictures up on various social media sites and spoken to neighbors. Nobody has stepped forward to claim this cat, so I don't think he is anyone's beloved lost pet.
We do have a TNR program in our community and I have reached out to them, because I am clueless. He *might* be a TNR cat because part of his ear is missing, but it does not look neat at all-it looks ragged and possibly infected. And there are also the potential boy bits that may still be present. I do plan to take him today to be scanned for a microchip and hopefully the vet will have some insights, but I am pretty sure that he will not have owners who are looking for him.
Here is my problem/dilemma: I love cats and so do my kids and husband, and obviously this cat has "chosen" us in some way, but I am not sure our home is the right place for him. For one thing, we have 2 female (spayed) indoor kitties now who are not pleased by his presence on the deck. Both of them are high-strung and I think bringing in a new cat would be hard on them. I am also unsure about this deck cat and my kids. He is friendly, but he does nip at me occasionally and has scratched my 8 year old because she stopped petting him, and now my 8 yr old won't go near him. For another, I grew up with a neutered boy-cat who regularly marked his scent on EVERYTHING and it drove my parents insane. (I do know not all boy cats do this, BTW). A spraying boy cat would be a deal-breaker for my husband, and we would end up having to surrender him, which would break my kids hearts and mine too. Keeping him as an outside cat is also not a good option because he chases my neighbor's indoor/outdoor cat (who my kids adore) and I am afraid they would end up hurting each other.
There is a no-kill shelter here, but it is always at capacity so IDK if that is even a good option. I have another neighbor who has expressed interest, but she also has young kids (even younger than mine) and with this cat's behavior toward kids, I don't know if that would work out either.
I guess I am just needing some insights. Will a cat who is unsure about kids have a good outcome in a shelter? What would you do in this situation? And again, he is very friendly to me (adult female). Would his occasional nipping/scratching settle down if he were in a loving home?
I'm attaching a picture. He's a handsome boy. Please advise!
We first noticed kitty about 5 days ago wandering around our backyard. The first couple of times, he bolted away into the woods. (I say he because I *think* I see boy bits, but I am far from positive). Two days ago he suddenly appeared on our deck and has been there ever since. He has literally left the deck twice in two days, and both times he reappeared within an hour. He sleeps on a chair on the deck, if we go out there he rubs up on our ankles and "talks" to us. My husband went out there to grill one evening and kitty just laid there, mellow and watching, not the least bit afraid. Kitty has tried to enter our house several times, but we have managed to keep him outside so far. This is definitely not a true feral cat because he is quite comfortable with people.
I have given him some dry food and water because he is quite skinny, and I have posted pictures up on various social media sites and spoken to neighbors. Nobody has stepped forward to claim this cat, so I don't think he is anyone's beloved lost pet.
We do have a TNR program in our community and I have reached out to them, because I am clueless. He *might* be a TNR cat because part of his ear is missing, but it does not look neat at all-it looks ragged and possibly infected. And there are also the potential boy bits that may still be present. I do plan to take him today to be scanned for a microchip and hopefully the vet will have some insights, but I am pretty sure that he will not have owners who are looking for him.
Here is my problem/dilemma: I love cats and so do my kids and husband, and obviously this cat has "chosen" us in some way, but I am not sure our home is the right place for him. For one thing, we have 2 female (spayed) indoor kitties now who are not pleased by his presence on the deck. Both of them are high-strung and I think bringing in a new cat would be hard on them. I am also unsure about this deck cat and my kids. He is friendly, but he does nip at me occasionally and has scratched my 8 year old because she stopped petting him, and now my 8 yr old won't go near him. For another, I grew up with a neutered boy-cat who regularly marked his scent on EVERYTHING and it drove my parents insane. (I do know not all boy cats do this, BTW). A spraying boy cat would be a deal-breaker for my husband, and we would end up having to surrender him, which would break my kids hearts and mine too. Keeping him as an outside cat is also not a good option because he chases my neighbor's indoor/outdoor cat (who my kids adore) and I am afraid they would end up hurting each other.
There is a no-kill shelter here, but it is always at capacity so IDK if that is even a good option. I have another neighbor who has expressed interest, but she also has young kids (even younger than mine) and with this cat's behavior toward kids, I don't know if that would work out either.
I guess I am just needing some insights. Will a cat who is unsure about kids have a good outcome in a shelter? What would you do in this situation? And again, he is very friendly to me (adult female). Would his occasional nipping/scratching settle down if he were in a loving home?
I'm attaching a picture. He's a handsome boy. Please advise!
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