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So... I need some new advice.
However, it's not for the cat. Some of you know I recently got my new Highlander Lynx Girl, Vitanni. (There she is Below).
She and I are bonding slowly. It's been 3 weeks I believe? And (at least with me) she's blooming BEAUTIFULLY! We have a schedule. We get up at a certain time, get fed, lounge around the room and watch Indiana Jones (haven't found her favorite yet but the boys love watching that movie) her and the boys have bonded without a hitch. They love playing, and cuddling and they have really become a key part in her understanding she is safe.
Now we get to the part where I need the advice. It's my Boyfriend.
She is... well to put it bluntly TERRIFIED of him. He tries very very hard to show her that she doesn't need to be afraid. Gives her treats, plays with her, sits quietly and tries to patiently wait for her... but he's also rather... pushy.
He enjoys holding her and he wants her to know she is his little princess, but no matter how hard I try to remind him that HER personality ISNT like the boys, it's like he doesn't want to listen. I keep trying to tell him 'Don't pick her up, Don't pursue her, Let her come to you Don't move so quickly, Try not to get excited, IGNORE HER AND LET HER COME TO YOU,' but nothing I say he will listen to. Since Day 1 he has pushed her boundaries, she has scratched him SEVERAL times, to the point I had to clip her claws so she wasn't gauging out his skin everytime she scratches him. (DONT MISUNDERSTAND I WOULD NEVER EVER DECLAW MY BABIES) But I'm at a loss at what to do. She will let me pet her, and she has even slept next to my side when he isn't home, but when he is she hides, and constantly tries to escape from him and it's just... I don't know what to do to convince him to stop. I know he loves her and I know he wants to be part of her life but he just doesn't get that he's pushing her to hard and to fast. How do I get him to understand that everytime he pushes her boundaries and makes her scratch him he takes 10 steps back from what little trust she STARTS to build with him?
However, it's not for the cat. Some of you know I recently got my new Highlander Lynx Girl, Vitanni. (There she is Below).
She and I are bonding slowly. It's been 3 weeks I believe? And (at least with me) she's blooming BEAUTIFULLY! We have a schedule. We get up at a certain time, get fed, lounge around the room and watch Indiana Jones (haven't found her favorite yet but the boys love watching that movie) her and the boys have bonded without a hitch. They love playing, and cuddling and they have really become a key part in her understanding she is safe.
Now we get to the part where I need the advice. It's my Boyfriend.
She is... well to put it bluntly TERRIFIED of him. He tries very very hard to show her that she doesn't need to be afraid. Gives her treats, plays with her, sits quietly and tries to patiently wait for her... but he's also rather... pushy.
He enjoys holding her and he wants her to know she is his little princess, but no matter how hard I try to remind him that HER personality ISNT like the boys, it's like he doesn't want to listen. I keep trying to tell him 'Don't pick her up, Don't pursue her, Let her come to you Don't move so quickly, Try not to get excited, IGNORE HER AND LET HER COME TO YOU,' but nothing I say he will listen to. Since Day 1 he has pushed her boundaries, she has scratched him SEVERAL times, to the point I had to clip her claws so she wasn't gauging out his skin everytime she scratches him. (DONT MISUNDERSTAND I WOULD NEVER EVER DECLAW MY BABIES) But I'm at a loss at what to do. She will let me pet her, and she has even slept next to my side when he isn't home, but when he is she hides, and constantly tries to escape from him and it's just... I don't know what to do to convince him to stop. I know he loves her and I know he wants to be part of her life but he just doesn't get that he's pushing her to hard and to fast. How do I get him to understand that everytime he pushes her boundaries and makes her scratch him he takes 10 steps back from what little trust she STARTS to build with him?
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