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Hi guys,
I'm new to the forum and I really need help with this situation. I had two cats, a female Siamese, Lilo (1 yr 9 mo old), and a male ginger cat, Freddie (1 yr 3 mo old). Freddie passed away 2 weeks ago. He was run over and Lilo and I are absolutely gutted. He was my baby and her partner in crime. He was not supposed to be an outdoor cat, but when he started going to my neighbors' yards I thought it should be alright since he was not on the street and the neighbors were cool with him there (I asked). I never realized he could make it down to the street on the other side. Had I known I would've put fences all over my house and avoided this tragedy.
Anyway, he is gone and we are depressed (the word doesn't even encompass how bad I am feeling). I was going to get a new kitten anyway because Lilo is an extremely social cat and as much as we try to play with her and fill those hours she spent with Freddie, she has let us known we are an inadequate substitute. I already have a kitten in mind, but they are very small still and we don't want to separate them from their mom just yet. However, two friends sent me a post on Facebook where a couple is looking to rehome their 2-year-old male cat because one of them is extremely allergic and no treatments have worked for them so coexisting with the cat has become too difficult. Now, I am not one to adopt adult cats because I really like bonding with them since they are little, but I thought, what the heck, I could take him. I know that especially where I live, getting older cats adopted is extremely difficult, and I just feel bad for this cat. He is another ginger male like my late Freddie so he just tugs at my heartstrings.
I am not sure how good of an idea this is though. I've tried to look for information on how this cat is going to deal with going to a completely different family/home when he already had a loving one but have not found anything useful. I have heard of cats running away from wherever they are to go back to their previous home. I also expect that Lilo would not be a problem, like I said, she is really social (she took to Freddie right away. We originally adopted him as a kitten after my elderly cat passed away and Lilo was also depressed. Poor soul had to go through this twice), but I worry about the other cat not liking her and not being able to co-exist with her. I've already talked with my family about cat-proofing the walls around my house. It's going to take some money investment on my part but that is preferable to more heartache and I am willing to do it. It is just not going to happen immediately, so I would have to really be vigilant about the cat not getting out. I am home most of the time (I work from home) but I do go out for a couple of hours most days. I would also get the other kitten I mentioned but that would be further down the road, like in a month or so. I also know how the introduction process goes so I wouldn't just put them in a room together, but I am scared it will still not work out even after that. I guess I am just looking for tips or any idea on how to go about this, or if I even should.
TL;DR I want to adopt an adult cat from people who can no longer keep him and I am worried he will not adapt to the new house/current cat/new kitten. If you have any input or tips it would be greatly appreciated!
I'm new to the forum and I really need help with this situation. I had two cats, a female Siamese, Lilo (1 yr 9 mo old), and a male ginger cat, Freddie (1 yr 3 mo old). Freddie passed away 2 weeks ago. He was run over and Lilo and I are absolutely gutted. He was my baby and her partner in crime. He was not supposed to be an outdoor cat, but when he started going to my neighbors' yards I thought it should be alright since he was not on the street and the neighbors were cool with him there (I asked). I never realized he could make it down to the street on the other side. Had I known I would've put fences all over my house and avoided this tragedy.
Anyway, he is gone and we are depressed (the word doesn't even encompass how bad I am feeling). I was going to get a new kitten anyway because Lilo is an extremely social cat and as much as we try to play with her and fill those hours she spent with Freddie, she has let us known we are an inadequate substitute. I already have a kitten in mind, but they are very small still and we don't want to separate them from their mom just yet. However, two friends sent me a post on Facebook where a couple is looking to rehome their 2-year-old male cat because one of them is extremely allergic and no treatments have worked for them so coexisting with the cat has become too difficult. Now, I am not one to adopt adult cats because I really like bonding with them since they are little, but I thought, what the heck, I could take him. I know that especially where I live, getting older cats adopted is extremely difficult, and I just feel bad for this cat. He is another ginger male like my late Freddie so he just tugs at my heartstrings.
I am not sure how good of an idea this is though. I've tried to look for information on how this cat is going to deal with going to a completely different family/home when he already had a loving one but have not found anything useful. I have heard of cats running away from wherever they are to go back to their previous home. I also expect that Lilo would not be a problem, like I said, she is really social (she took to Freddie right away. We originally adopted him as a kitten after my elderly cat passed away and Lilo was also depressed. Poor soul had to go through this twice), but I worry about the other cat not liking her and not being able to co-exist with her. I've already talked with my family about cat-proofing the walls around my house. It's going to take some money investment on my part but that is preferable to more heartache and I am willing to do it. It is just not going to happen immediately, so I would have to really be vigilant about the cat not getting out. I am home most of the time (I work from home) but I do go out for a couple of hours most days. I would also get the other kitten I mentioned but that would be further down the road, like in a month or so. I also know how the introduction process goes so I wouldn't just put them in a room together, but I am scared it will still not work out even after that. I guess I am just looking for tips or any idea on how to go about this, or if I even should.
TL;DR I want to adopt an adult cat from people who can no longer keep him and I am worried he will not adapt to the new house/current cat/new kitten. If you have any input or tips it would be greatly appreciated!