One of our two cats died fairly suddenly a several weeks ago, and we're trying to decide if it makes sense to add another one to our household. We wouldn't be doing this for another few weeks (after the holidays) at the earliest, but have started thinking about the logistics. As much as I'd love to adopt a sweet, cuddly cat who enjoys spending time with us, I'm just not sure it makes sense.
Our current cat and our cat who died never totally got along, even though we'd had them both for about seven years. Current cat is large (14 pounds of pure muscle), somewhat dominant and territorial, and occasionally aggressive when anxious (he was a rescue and, while much improved, I think his early life was very stressful). He is generally sweet with us, though mostly keeps to himself, but I suspect living with him for our other cat was like living with a large, drunk man who wanted to wrestle all the time.
We also have a two-year-old toddler, and as strict as we are about treating our current cat appropriately, she's unfortunately at that age where she's just not a good listener. Our current cat seems able to cope with her behavior, but I worry that a sweeter or more mellow animal might find her stressful. She doesn't hit or pull fur, but she tries to give hugs a lot and is bad about leaving him alone when he's had his fill of attention.
My fear at this point is that we're just not a good family for an older, sweet, lap-cat like we would want. What are your thoughts?
Our current cat and our cat who died never totally got along, even though we'd had them both for about seven years. Current cat is large (14 pounds of pure muscle), somewhat dominant and territorial, and occasionally aggressive when anxious (he was a rescue and, while much improved, I think his early life was very stressful). He is generally sweet with us, though mostly keeps to himself, but I suspect living with him for our other cat was like living with a large, drunk man who wanted to wrestle all the time.
We also have a two-year-old toddler, and as strict as we are about treating our current cat appropriately, she's unfortunately at that age where she's just not a good listener. Our current cat seems able to cope with her behavior, but I worry that a sweeter or more mellow animal might find her stressful. She doesn't hit or pull fur, but she tries to give hugs a lot and is bad about leaving him alone when he's had his fill of attention.
My fear at this point is that we're just not a good family for an older, sweet, lap-cat like we would want. What are your thoughts?