Ok..lets see if I can give enough background to not make this confusing, but be able to let you know the issue.
My sister has been dating this guy for three years this year. Shes 18, about to be 19, and hes 20. They had kinda known eachother, and they start dating. I have pretty good perceptions of people and when I first met him, my first thought was he is so not her type, and looked very dishonest. But, I didnt want to judge. So, I shook off my feelings of distrust and moved along. I was still living at home at the time, and working full time and going to school part time. She starts this drama about how awful his parents treat him (and this started after my dad won his court case and got money) and how he should be able to stay at the house. My parents said no on numerous occassions. Then, I dont even remember how, he ends up staying there. Slowly but surely he starts leaving things there: clothes, a stereo, a tv, all sorts of things. He is rude, has no respect, and really is ignorant. He is angry at everyone all the time and he tries to prove that hes a know it all.
I cant stand him.
Sunday night, after we left all of the family get togethers and dinners, my husband and I went over to my parents house. Well, my father had gone to his sisters house and taken the momma cat and four kittens that are only 1½ weeks old so that the momma could go to the vet for her eyes, which were glued shut by puss. My aunt couldnt afford to take care of them, and she was a pregnant stray my grandmother took in before she died in January. So, my parents knew I was bringing my dog Bjourne, because I always do. I am walking up the steps and my husband was getting him out of the seatbelt harness and my sisters boyfriend (who now lives there
) blocks the door and demands to know if I brought the dog. I was like "Yeah, I brought the dog" And hes like, well, he cant come in here, because the momma cat is in here, and shes afraid. I told him I was not leaving Bjourne outside and he very angrily jerked away from the door and let me pass. So, I went into the den where the momma cat was and coaxed her out of the carrier and into the box my Dad made up for her to lay in with her kittens. In the meantime, Bjourne wanted in the den, and my sisters boyfriend in blocking the door, AND ELBOWED MY DOG IN THE FACE REPEATEDLY. Well, I wasnt quite paying attention until I heard Bjourne whimper. Bjourne has been around kittens, I have 3 new ones at home. He thinks hes an 80 pound cat, for goodness sakes.
So, I say "What are you doing to my dog??" And he tells me hes not letting him in. Now, my father has told him numerous times that this cat has been around dogs. My aunt has a pitbull mix, and the cats and kittens had been around them. He lets Bjourne in the room, while saying "Well, when precious had her kittens, bowzer got in her face, and it ended with his face torn open and he had to get 30 some stitches...dont blame me when Bjourne gets his face ripped off....blah, blah, blah," I had had it. I said "LOOK!!!!!!!
Bjourne is not your stupid Bowzer. And this cat is not your precious. This is a totally different situation and a totally different environment. And if you elbow my dog one more time, I will break your arm." Well, he stormed out then. So, he comes back and sees Bjourne walk up to the box where just the kittens were, sniff them, look at my Dad kinda inquisitvely, and then look inside the cat carrier, and gave me a very sad look, and then laid his head on my lap, and stayed there. Here comes the know it all back into the room. And he starts again. My dad tells him for the upteenth time she had been around dogs before. He goes "Oh, that changes everything...had I known that..." How many times does he have to tell you? "I was just saying what happened to Bowzer.." I tell him again Bjourne is not Bowzer!!! And I said some not so pretty adjectives along with it.
Well, last night, he wants to act like nothing happened. I am sorry, but I let go of him getting in my face and screaming at me, I let go of him basically calling my mother a liar, I let go of him trying to get my sister to move out, and so forth. But I really dont want to let this one go. He elbowed my dog.
Am wrong??? He has never apologized to me for anything. I dont want to apologize because I am not sorry. I am just sorry my sister cant see what a loser he really is, and see that she deserves better.
I dont know. What do you do when you just dont like somebody, and you just dont want to try anymore??
My sister has been dating this guy for three years this year. Shes 18, about to be 19, and hes 20. They had kinda known eachother, and they start dating. I have pretty good perceptions of people and when I first met him, my first thought was he is so not her type, and looked very dishonest. But, I didnt want to judge. So, I shook off my feelings of distrust and moved along. I was still living at home at the time, and working full time and going to school part time. She starts this drama about how awful his parents treat him (and this started after my dad won his court case and got money) and how he should be able to stay at the house. My parents said no on numerous occassions. Then, I dont even remember how, he ends up staying there. Slowly but surely he starts leaving things there: clothes, a stereo, a tv, all sorts of things. He is rude, has no respect, and really is ignorant. He is angry at everyone all the time and he tries to prove that hes a know it all.
I cant stand him.
Sunday night, after we left all of the family get togethers and dinners, my husband and I went over to my parents house. Well, my father had gone to his sisters house and taken the momma cat and four kittens that are only 1½ weeks old so that the momma could go to the vet for her eyes, which were glued shut by puss. My aunt couldnt afford to take care of them, and she was a pregnant stray my grandmother took in before she died in January. So, my parents knew I was bringing my dog Bjourne, because I always do. I am walking up the steps and my husband was getting him out of the seatbelt harness and my sisters boyfriend (who now lives there
So, I say "What are you doing to my dog??" And he tells me hes not letting him in. Now, my father has told him numerous times that this cat has been around dogs. My aunt has a pitbull mix, and the cats and kittens had been around them. He lets Bjourne in the room, while saying "Well, when precious had her kittens, bowzer got in her face, and it ended with his face torn open and he had to get 30 some stitches...dont blame me when Bjourne gets his face ripped off....blah, blah, blah," I had had it. I said "LOOK!!!!!!!
Well, last night, he wants to act like nothing happened. I am sorry, but I let go of him getting in my face and screaming at me, I let go of him basically calling my mother a liar, I let go of him trying to get my sister to move out, and so forth. But I really dont want to let this one go. He elbowed my dog.
Am wrong??? He has never apologized to me for anything. I dont want to apologize because I am not sorry. I am just sorry my sister cant see what a loser he really is, and see that she deserves better.
I dont know. What do you do when you just dont like somebody, and you just dont want to try anymore??