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So here's the scoop. I have two cats, one older female at 12 years old, hates all cats. So she is downstairs and I have a gate separating them. The 1.5 year old male cat, Stanley, is very timid and shy. He's the epitome of a scaredy cat. When I rescued him at 5 months old, he hid and was scared of us for weeks. It took 2 months for him to be comfortable with us. He is only comfortable with me and my boyfriend, no other people. He tries to play with Oreo (older female cat) through the gate, and she always swats him. She's very aggressive, that's why we separated them permanently. Anyway, he meows constantly and is very lonely upstairs. We're busy, and though we play with him and have sessions and such upstairs, we're mostly downstairs and only sleep upstairs. So we thought to get him a companion to play with since he's very playful (he plays fetch, too!)
So enter Easton, our new 5 month old male kitty. He was recommended to us after we explained our situation, because he has always been around other cats, his age and older. and he would back off when the older cat hissed at him. So they thought he'd fit well, especially since he's already got his personality and Stanley won't rub off on him and become scared like him.
So... I have Easton isolated, but he managed to get out because stopping a kitten from going through a door as you do is very difficult. and Stanley of course ran away and hissed. Now Stanley is starting to become withdrawn again.
So I've been reading a lot about slowly introducing and such... but it's very hard to do that with such a timid, scared cat... How should I go about this?
I've had people say to just let them go... but I love little Stanley, and I don't want him to go back into his shell. I can give Easton back to the rescue, but I don't want to give up... I really want to give this a shot. How can I introduce a really outgoing 5 mo. old neutered kitty to a 1.5 year old, neutered male who is a very timid, scaredy cat?
Keep in mind we both work full time jobs...
Also. Stanley had run of the entire upstairs, which is two bedrooms and two bathrooms. His box and food is in the spare bedroom. While we have Easton's in our bathroom. Very inconvenient since out bathroom is used regularly, and he's so energetic and... it's just very difficult to do things or not let him escape.
Any advice would help! My brother had a similar situation and he just let the two boys go and they eventually figured it out and they are fine now.
Thank you! Hopefully this all makes sense.
So enter Easton, our new 5 month old male kitty. He was recommended to us after we explained our situation, because he has always been around other cats, his age and older. and he would back off when the older cat hissed at him. So they thought he'd fit well, especially since he's already got his personality and Stanley won't rub off on him and become scared like him.
So... I have Easton isolated, but he managed to get out because stopping a kitten from going through a door as you do is very difficult. and Stanley of course ran away and hissed. Now Stanley is starting to become withdrawn again.
So I've been reading a lot about slowly introducing and such... but it's very hard to do that with such a timid, scared cat... How should I go about this?
I've had people say to just let them go... but I love little Stanley, and I don't want him to go back into his shell. I can give Easton back to the rescue, but I don't want to give up... I really want to give this a shot. How can I introduce a really outgoing 5 mo. old neutered kitty to a 1.5 year old, neutered male who is a very timid, scaredy cat?
Keep in mind we both work full time jobs...
Also. Stanley had run of the entire upstairs, which is two bedrooms and two bathrooms. His box and food is in the spare bedroom. While we have Easton's in our bathroom. Very inconvenient since out bathroom is used regularly, and he's so energetic and... it's just very difficult to do things or not let him escape.
Any advice would help! My brother had a similar situation and he just let the two boys go and they eventually figured it out and they are fine now.
Thank you! Hopefully this all makes sense.