My cousin's baby just died

I am so sorry for your family's loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry that this little Angel was taken so soon.I know that God has a plan for eveyone, but that doesn't make it any easier when you want to know the "why".All I can say, is we aren't to question or hold him responsible for it.It's His plan, not ours.
My sister was 9 months pg with her 4th child....it was a boy.She felt a sharp pain and then felt the baby "kick" or so she thought.She went to the ER and the Dr said nothing was wrong.The pain was just the baby pulling her Sciatic(sp) nerve, and sent her home.The next day, she didn't feel the baby move at all.But, she soon started having contractions every 5 mintues.So, they went to the Hospital ONLY to be told that the baby had no heart beat.He died the day before.When she felt the "kick" it was actually him dying and settling in the bottom of her Uterus.He soon crowned after she got there and she had to push her still baby out, because it was too late to do a C-section.He was a BEAUTIFUL baby.They named him Tyler Duncan.The Hospital gave her an outfit to burry him in, because she didn't even have clothes for him.She took pics of him before they took him away.That helped her to deal with his death and being able to talk about it.
When your cousin is ready, let her know that you are there for her for whatever she needs.From a shoulder to cry on,to a ear to scream to.
May God and his Angels be with your family and may God give her comfort in knowing her baby is by His side and looking down from Heaven.

So sorry to hear that, the same thing happened to my brother and his wife, it was a boy and was born so early it had no chance to live apparently there was tumors all over his body also, so he would not have been healthy or may not have lived at all. The good news is they just had a healthy baby girl on June 29th, so there is always hope, I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. I know it's a horrible thing to go through but you have to believe shes an angel in heaven right now.

Thankyou everyone for your kind words and prayers. They are very appreciated by my family and I. If anyone has any ideas on planning a memorial/funeral service for little Savannah Renae, they would be greatly appreciated.I think actually giving Savannah a funeral or memorial service and giving her a proper burial will help my family lay our little angel to rest and will also give her family a place to visit her at. I think it'll really help her brother and sister as well as her mom and dad. I've done flowers (i'm a florist) for quite a few funerals, but never for a baby- and never for a family member. So any suggestions would be very much appreciated. Also, if any of you know of good books on the grief over a child's death that i could send my cousin and her husband i would really appreciate it. Also, she has two young children as i mentioned earlier....they don't know yet. I don't think they are going to tell them until in the morning after they've had a while to think about what they want to say to them and how to word it so they understand. Does anyone know of any good books or anything for children to help them cope with the loss of a loved one or to help a parent walk a child through such a tough time? I would greatly appreciate any suggestions. Aside from prayers and just being there for them, i'm at a loss for what to do. Any ideas? What helped you the most when you lost a loved one? Hugs? Dinners? Church leaders? A shoulder to cry on? I want to know the best way i can help them since i'm not physically able to be there right now....I just think them knowing i'm here for them and will listen will be a comfort, but i'm not sure. Any suggstions? We've been crying all night...

Food helps out alot, because who wants to worry about fixing food when you are grieving.Make sure Mom and Dad eat too though!!!
A shoulder to cry on when they are ready to talk.Prayers from Church members.

Though this is NO where what your cousin is going through.My Dad was diagnosed as having stage 4 Throat Cancer in July of 2004,He went through months of Radiation,Chemo and finally in Oct. he had a 21 hour surgury which removed almost ALL of his throat....from the front to his spinal cord.We were told it would buy him atleast a year.Sadly my Dad passed away on Jan. 28,2005 only 3 months after his surgury.
Getting to the point, what helped me out the most was having someone to talk to,cry with and understand me.They made meals for my family for a week and it was a Godsend!!!
There is a web site that our funeral service gave us.............it helped us out alot too.
www.MEM.com or
http://www.mem.com

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Here's a book that I found while Google'ing
http://www.featherrockbooks.com/dragonfly.htm

Thankyou soo much for the wonderful ideas! I wish i were in Oklahoma now to take care of their meals and such, but since i'm not (I'm in Tennessee and can't get off work) I can at least send money to my aunt to get them food and the things they need when i get paid. The "online baby book" sounds like it will be a wonderful idea when they are ready to do something like that. Thanks for that suggestion! I'm going to check out those links and see what i can find on them. Thankyou for your prayers and ideas!

I found a link to this website on the internet. It seems really helpful....but really sad. I clicked on the "now i lay me down to sleep" section where parents photographed their stillborn/deceased children to remember them. The photography is a beautiful way to remember them- but soo sad. I started balling....i can't imagine what Christie and them are going through.
http://www.babylosskit.com/resources.html

OMG. I am so sorry. I cannot imagine the pain!!!

That just made me so sad.

I am soo sorry to hear of your cousin's loss. How very sad to read that...I have her whole family in my prayers and thoughts. I can't imagine being pregnant after 5 months only to lose the baby.

I went to the link that you posted about.I found something that MAY help your cousin when the time is right
http://www.myforeverchild.com/store/...lt.asp?One=247
In Memory of a Beloved Child Message Bead Bracelet


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The "In Memory of a Beloved Child" bracelet features sterling silver message beads which symbolize the love you have for a special child no longer with you physically. On a sturdy Sterling Silver rollo link bracelet with lobster claw clasp.

With Swarovski crystals on both ends of the message beads. In the text box below, please state the months that the child was born (or conceived) for the LIFE bead, passed away for the ANGEL bead, and either girl, boy, or unknown gender for the LOVE bead.
For a baby that is born and passes away in the same month (ie. stillborn, premature birth, neonatal death), you can select the month of conception for the LIFE bead.

For an additional loss, you can have a different colored crystal on either side of the message bead. State both sets of months below.

Perfect for gift giving to a bereaved mom. Comes in our beautiful organza gift pouch and with a card to explain the significance of the charms:

In Memory of a Beloved Child

I wear a Rose Bud because you are beautiful and pure. Your new life gave new meaning to my own, it held the hope and wishes for the future.

I wear an Angel to show that when you left this world, you became my very own special angel watching over from above.

I wear an Open Heart because there is an empty place in my heart where you should be. Precious Child, you are not alone, for a piece of me went with you.


Here's a couple of books that MAY help too.
http://troubledwith.com/Scripts/TWI_...ic=Miscarriage
http://www.lulu.com/content/216306

I am so sorry. This is devastating and I don't even know what to say other than I'm very very sorry for your cousins loss.

This story brought me to tears. Your family will be in my prayers. Many healing vibes to you all!

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of this precious little one. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry to hear about your families loss. What absolutely devastating news. My sister in law lost her child two days before her due date and it is one of the most difficult things to go through. My prayers are with your family and if I may make a suggestion. Mark the day on your calander and next year on this day call her to see how see is doing. Every year on the anniversity of my nieces death we go get my SIL to see how she is doing. The first year was especially painful for her.

Tricia

My prayers for comfort are with your cousin and her family. RIP sweet tiny Savannah Ranae. Sorry I don't have words that can help.

Oh wow, I can't even imagine what your cousin must be going through. I've been close to someone who had something like this happen, although I never heard from her, just a friend who told me what happened. My former boss/friend was driving with his wife on Ortega Highway here in So. California (one of the deadliest highways, by the way) to go put a deposit down on a house. A car crossed over into their lane and hit them head-on. They wanted to airlift him out, but he told them to take his 9 month pregnant wife first. He died on the way to the hospital. She had an emergency C-section and the baby lived for about 9 days before dying. Rob (my boss/friend) is buried with his daughter on his chest. Tina, his wife, I have never heard from her, even though I sent a letter. I sure hope she is pulling through this.

Your cousin is in my prayers...

that is horrible, i'm so sorry for your loss. there's a rhyme and a reason for everything. have hope.

I am so sorry that you all are going through this. I cant even imagine what your cousin is feeling!! Healing will take time~and they will never get over losing that angel.

Please know all of you will be in my thoughts and prayers

(HUGS!!!)

Condolences on the loss of Samantha Rose If you can, please feel that by doing her flowers yourselves, that you are giving her the gift of special arrangements that no stranger could possibly do as well.
And I am sending extra prayers and vibes to poor Christie. I had lost triplets when I was 5 mos. along, and for several days afterward, I didn't want to speak to anyone, or go outside - it took a really nice lady named Angie, who had 9 kids, tell me about her similar loss, to make me feel strong enough to get out of bed & start caring for my 2 daughters. The grief is just so strong, and the hormones get out of control - I got engorged with colostrum, although there was no baby to feed