I hope that with treatment he does better. It has become apparent that you have become very attached and fallen for your kitten. I'm hoping that the breeder does follow through and refunds your money if that's what you decide.
I also think an association would be a good idea. I don't know how it would be funded, however associations do exist that aren't government run and they find funding, so monies are available. A potential means could be from breeders paying a small membership fee. If these types of issues are prevalent, then people do need some type of recourse because it is obvious that darincm could have used someone mediating between them and this breeder.
Itâ€™s important that people get a contract and understand their contract when they purchase a kitten. That comes through education. Likewise, if people know to ask a breeder if they are a member of such an association and the breeder isnâ€™t, then the client could choose to go elsewhere to get their kitten. I imagine more breeders would be more likely to consider membership in such an association.
If the organization is not bias in either direction, then it could be beneficial to all involved (in my opinion).