Does anyone know the particulars of getting a restraining order against someone? Let me explain the situation and get some opinions....
One of my good friends from Nursing School has had a very complicated relationship with a guy for quite a while. She is 22, he is somewhere around the same age. She comes from a very strict family. I'll just call my friend "B" for now. B and this guy dated for nearly 5 years or so and both came here to go to school together last year. He became very controlling when she began to make friends of her own. He tried to control her every move. He controlled her money, by keeping her debit cards, etc. so she wouldn't spend her money on things he did not approve of. He paid for her cell phone so he could keep tabs on who was calling her and who she was talking to. After becoming good friends with me and our other close friends she realized things were not right in that relationship. For a while she just tried to continue seeing him, but doing more things on her own. Until he began showing up at mine and our friends houses to take her home. And began constantly calling all of our cell phones trying to find out where she was at all times. She finally got up the courage to tell him she no longer wanted to be in a relationship with him. Worked out good for her because she is back in their home town for the summer working a job there, and he has stayed her going to summer school. But he still tries to call her (she finally got the phone he paid for turned off, but he continues to call her family home) and tells her he knows he is the one for her and he will wait until she realizes it. Well she came in town to visit me the last two nights. Yesterday she found out he knew she was back in town. Then last night we went out with a big group of friends, and I wanted to go to bed earlier than she, so I came home and she stayed out, and went to stay with another friend of ours. Well I came home around 1 this morning and went to bed. At 3:30 in the morning he shows up at my apartment (her car is still at my place, looks like she and I are both home) and begins to bang on my door. I just left all my lights out and never went to the door. He evenutally left. He came back 4 times b/t 3:30 and 10 am, doing the same thing each time. He left a note on her car once but i was afraid to go get it, thikning he was somewhere and might be watching. She came home a little after 10 and I told her what happened. She had plans to meet him at 11:30 to talk, which I begged her not to do, but she said she felt she needed to. I just talked to her and she said she told him she wants to have no contact for atleast one month, hoping it will give him time to get over her.
But she also mentioned that if this does not work, she wants to look into a restraining order. Is his behavior enough for us to do this? And what routes would she need to go through to get this done?
One of my good friends from Nursing School has had a very complicated relationship with a guy for quite a while. She is 22, he is somewhere around the same age. She comes from a very strict family. I'll just call my friend "B" for now. B and this guy dated for nearly 5 years or so and both came here to go to school together last year. He became very controlling when she began to make friends of her own. He tried to control her every move. He controlled her money, by keeping her debit cards, etc. so she wouldn't spend her money on things he did not approve of. He paid for her cell phone so he could keep tabs on who was calling her and who she was talking to. After becoming good friends with me and our other close friends she realized things were not right in that relationship. For a while she just tried to continue seeing him, but doing more things on her own. Until he began showing up at mine and our friends houses to take her home. And began constantly calling all of our cell phones trying to find out where she was at all times. She finally got up the courage to tell him she no longer wanted to be in a relationship with him. Worked out good for her because she is back in their home town for the summer working a job there, and he has stayed her going to summer school. But he still tries to call her (she finally got the phone he paid for turned off, but he continues to call her family home) and tells her he knows he is the one for her and he will wait until she realizes it. Well she came in town to visit me the last two nights. Yesterday she found out he knew she was back in town. Then last night we went out with a big group of friends, and I wanted to go to bed earlier than she, so I came home and she stayed out, and went to stay with another friend of ours. Well I came home around 1 this morning and went to bed. At 3:30 in the morning he shows up at my apartment (her car is still at my place, looks like she and I are both home) and begins to bang on my door. I just left all my lights out and never went to the door. He evenutally left. He came back 4 times b/t 3:30 and 10 am, doing the same thing each time. He left a note on her car once but i was afraid to go get it, thikning he was somewhere and might be watching. She came home a little after 10 and I told her what happened. She had plans to meet him at 11:30 to talk, which I begged her not to do, but she said she felt she needed to. I just talked to her and she said she told him she wants to have no contact for atleast one month, hoping it will give him time to get over her.
But she also mentioned that if this does not work, she wants to look into a restraining order. Is his behavior enough for us to do this? And what routes would she need to go through to get this done?
