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Someone very special died today

post #1 of 30
Thread Starter 
I am crying as I write this...I just found out tonight that my nephew (by marriage, my husband's nephew) died today.

He had been in the hospital for awhile now, and they could not figure out what was wrong with him....he was 20 years old, and had overcome so much in his life...he was born with luekemia (sp?) and even though his physical size was small for his age, he was doing well. he was so smart...and he was going on to a cooking school to be a chef.
He and I had talked alot about cheescake recipes..that was kind of his specialty.
At first they thought it was his appendix, so they removed that...then he went into a coma, and his lungs filled up with fluid...then he came out of the coma, and they thought it was his gal bladder....then they decided it was some disease he had gotten from mouse droppings in the warehouse where he worked....they really weren't sure at all.
But we thought he was doing better.....and then tonight my husband came home and told me he had died.

I am in shock. He was the sweetest, most caring, kind human being I think I have ever met...and smart as a whip.

The funeral is Friday. I have cried so hard over this..I am heartbroken...I just did not expect it...I thought he was getting better.

Please pray for his family....he left behind two brothers as well.
post #2 of 30
Debby I am so sorry for you and your family. I will light a candle in the window tonight for his journey. Keep the good memories close to your heart as you heal.........
post #3 of 30
Debby, I'm so sorry.
post #4 of 30
I am so sorry for your family's loss. You guys will be in our thoughts.
post #5 of 30
This is really sad, I am truly sorry the doctors weren't able to help your nephew. It's always so very difficult when such a young person dies. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband and the rest of the family.
post #6 of 30
Thread Starter 
Thank you all so much. I am a little calmer about this now...but my heart is still breaking. He was such a good kid, and had such a good sense of humor, and would never have hurt anyone. I know he is in heaven now....but it hurts to lose him.
post #7 of 30

I'm so sorry. To see such a promising life cut short is heartbreaking. Of course you are sad! But his suffering is over now. I hope they are able to make a diagnosis, I think there is a great deal of closure from knowing what happened.

Peace and hugs
post #8 of 30
Debby, sorry to hear of this bad news. Its so sad when someone young dies. He is in my thoughts.
post #9 of 30
I am sorry to hear about your loss.

My thoughts and bet wishes are with you and your family
post #10 of 30
My heart and prayers are with you and his family during this difficult time.
post #11 of 30
Debby, my deepest sympathies.

When my mother passed away tragically (car accident) 2 years ago. I honestly thought I would not pull through. The pain was deep and from my point of view, it would never go away. My co-workers sent me this sympathy card which is posted on my cork board and each day, I read it and it does, in a sense, give some comfort. Hope it can provide some to you.

When someone dies, a cloud turns into
an angel, and flies up to tell God
to put another flower on a pillow.
A bird gives the message back to
the world, and sings a silent prayer
that makes the rain cry. People dis-
appear, but they never really go away.
The spirits up there put the sun to
bed, wake up the grass, and spin the
earth in dizzy circles. Sometimes you
can see them dancing in a cloud during
the day-time, when they're supposed
to be sleeping. They paint the rain-
bows and also the sunsets and make
waves splash and tug at the tide.
They toss shooting stars and listen to
wishes. And when they sing wind-
songs, they whisper to us, don't
miss me too much. The view is nice
and I'm doing just fine.

post #12 of 30

I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss. I hope your heart lightens some knowing that he is in a beautiful place.


That was beautiful!
post #13 of 30
Debby-I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts. Your nephew sounded like such a great guy.
post #14 of 30
Debby - I am so sorry. It is such a tragedy for someone so young to pass too soon. He obviously touched your life, and I have no doubt he touched many other lives as well. You and your family are in my thoughts.
post #15 of 30
Thread Starter 
Ghyslaine, what a beautiful poem! Thank you!

And thank you to the rest of you for your kind words and prayers.

They are saying now, that he had developed a blood clot. I just don't understand how they could have so many different diagnosis on it, but I guess we will never know what really happened.

The funeral is friday, and it is a little ways away (2 hours or more)and we will be going. It will be a really hard day for everyone.

Thanks again! It means alot to me!
post #16 of 30
Debbie, This has to be a terrible time for you. God bless you and the whole family. I cannot imagine how his mother feels. She was probably so grateful he had overcome leukemia, and was looking forward to many more happy, productive years. Bless her heart, and I pray that God will comfort you all now. "In my house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you." "Be still, and know that I am God."
post #17 of 30
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you and your family take strength in each other. It is so hard to lose someone you care about, maybe knowing that we here are praying for you will bring you some comfort.
post #18 of 30
Please accept my condolences. I'm very sorry to learn your nephew has passed away. It's obvious you loved him very much; and that's something even his death cannot take away — that special bond between two souls, which surpasses all knowledge.

post #19 of 30
Sorry to hear about your nephew.
post #20 of 30
Debby - my prayers were with you today. I hope that everything went ok with the funeral. How are you and his family holding up?
post #21 of 30
Thread Starter 
Well, we drove to the funeral yesterday, it was over two hours drive...with my mother-in-law...so you can imagine the fun. I love her dearly, but she drives me nuts sometimes.

The funeral was so sad. It was a very large one....he had alot of friends.

They did an autopsy on his body, and decided for sure it was a disease he had gotten from mouse droppings in the warehouse he worked. There is a name for the disease...it starts with a Ju...something like Junec or something like that, I can't remember.

I think that is so scary!!! We have alot of mice here on the farm, of course the cats take care of alot of them, but they still manage to get into the basement once in a while, and I see droppings sometimes....I guess all you have to do is touch them and you can get this...or touch something the droppings were touching.

I don't know much about this...if anyone knows the correct name of this disease, or knows of a website on it, please let me know...I would like to know more about it...especially since it took the life of someone I cared about who was so young, and with such a promising life ahead of him.
post #22 of 30
That's frightening! Who could have foreseen that? I hope the pain eases soon for all of you. What a loss.
post #23 of 30
Here is a link to OSHA's website in case either you or your husband want to contact them about what happened to your nephew. http://www.osha.gov/

I'm sure they would be able to help answer your questions about the disease that claimed your nephew's life.

Again, I want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.
post #24 of 30
Thread Starter 
Thanks for the link, Lorie, I will see what I can find out!
post #25 of 30
Debby, I just saw this thread. I am so sorry about your loss - what a tragedy to lose someone so young!

When I read your first post I thought you must have meant leptospirosis which is a deadly disease you can catch off mice droppings. I don't know about any mice related disease that begins with a "ju" - maybe you were told it was a zoonotic disease? Which means people can get it from animals?

In case you were looking for leptospirosis info here are a few links:



post #26 of 30
I am so sorry. Your families will be in my prayers.:angel2:
post #27 of 30
Thread Starter 
Thanks Anne, I am going to check those links out....maybe she told me the wrong name of the disease, but I know she (hubby's sister) said it began with Ju. I will check into it, because I really want to know more about why he died like he did.
post #28 of 30
BTW: I do not know what this is called but I have read about this happening before. Apparently the last person this happened to drank out of a pop can that was purchased through a vending machine where he worked. The can was tested, and it tested positive for traces of "mice droppings". The investigation ended with them discovering that where the canning was done, there were rodents that roamed freely at night (yuck!) and did indeed crawl over cans waiting to be packaged.... Better play it safe and make sure you wash the tops of your cans first or even better, drink from a straw.
post #29 of 30
I'm so sorry for your loss Debby
post #30 of 30
What happened to him sounds a little like the Hanta Virus scare in New Mexico (I think) a few years ago.
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