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post #31 of 49
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Originally Posted by LuckyGirl
Honestly, no one in here can top my MIL.... she got pregnant @ 15 w/my hubby, so she's only 46 now. She uses drugs, and drinks vodka every day. She sleeps with my hubby's friends (has slept w/ 2 and their not hisfriends anymore), and dances on the tops of the bars in our neighborhood. She has laid in a tanning bed most of her life and looks like leather, but because she's a size 4 she thinks she's great. It wouldn't be a family function if she didn't pull her shirt up, and her waistline down so you could see that after 3 kids she doesn't have any stretch marks, in addition to seeing everything else she has down there... At my BIL's wedding in Jamaica, she slept with 2 of the locals in a broom closet at the hotel we all stayed at, and was bragging about it to my SIL's church going family, like it was cool. She is constantly talking about all the abortions she had, and how she did drugs, smoked, & drank the whole time she was pregnant, and how doctors "talk a bunch of nonsense, her kids turned out fine". She wore a white completely see through shirt with a purple bra under it to my bridal shower, and brought her own cosomo's in a dasanti bottle. She completely talks trash about all 3 of her sons to everyone who will listen, and then only calls them if she needs something fixed. She has asked our daughter to lie, well just to "keep a secret" from us, and believes that this is not lying. She talks about her sexual prowess in front of her sons like she's some insestuous floozy that wants to impress her sons... I could keep going.... there's not enough room to type it all... needless to say, I don't speak to her unless I have to.

Is it bad that you just made me fell better about my MIL?
post #32 of 49
My MIL certainly wouldn't qualify as worlds worst MIL, but she is manipulative and completely controlling of her family, gets upset when her 22 year old daughter, my SIL, (who isn't allowed to go out with her friends) says she wants to move out of home. My SIL is a sweet, sensible girl with a very level head, but isn't allowed to do anything. She has some health problems, and her mother uses that as excuses for her not to be allowed to do anything, and almost forces my SIL to rely on her.

My poor SIL has no confidence in herself to do anything, because her mother always tells her she can't do anything! She's getting better though, and gotten herself a good job, and a fairly good financial situation, so she should be able to move out soon anyway. My MIL just doesn't realise she's just alienating her daughter, like she has her other kids. My hubby still cares for his family, but they're not particularly close, and I feel as though he's always trying to prove himself to his parents, which is so sad, because he was a part owner of a successful business which he had sold and made a fair bit of money on by the time he was 25. He invested this money, and has done very well for himself since, and is so incredibly smart and successful, but I've never heard his parents say they're proud of him, or show any emotion to indicate they're proud of him It makes me so mad!

My hubby loves family things with my family on both my mum and dad's side, because everyone's very close, we have big celebrations and everyone gets drunk (including my grandparents!) and has a lot of fun. He'd never really experienced any of that before...
post #33 of 49
Congrats on your degree. That is awsome.
As for the MIL who's driving you nuts....
My fiance's mother was a mentally unstable ticking time bomb who did everything in her power to push her son's buttons, and although she was always very kind to me and on her best behavior when I was around, she drove me nuts with the way she treated my fiance. She would have been a terrible MIL.
All that said, I would take the trials of being her daughter-in-law if only she were alive today. She passed away unexpectedly last year and I miss her terribly.
Even though your MIL may seem awful and intolerable now, you will probably miss her when she's gone. Surely she has SOME redeeming quality, if only that she gave birth to and raised the man you love.

But yeah, hubby needs to put his foot down and let his mom know that you are a part of his family now, too, and that mom needs to respect that. If you guys are young, or worse yet if he's the youngest child, she may have a hard time accepting that her little boy is all grown up.
post #34 of 49
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Originally Posted by Zoe'n'MissKitty
Congrats on your degree. That is awsome.
As for the MIL who's driving you nuts....
My fiance's mother was a mentally unstable ticking time bomb who did everything in her power to push her son's buttons, and although she was always very kind to me and on her best behavior when I was around, she drove me nuts with the way she treated my fiance. She would have been a terrible MIL.
All that said, I would take the trials of being her daughter-in-law if only she were alive today. She passed away unexpectedly last year and I miss her terribly.
Even though your MIL may seem awful and intolerable now, you will probably miss her when she's gone. Surely she has SOME redeeming quality, if only that she gave birth to and raised the man you love.

But yeah, hubby needs to put his foot down and let his mom know that you are a part of his family now, too, and that mom needs to respect that. If you guys are young, or worse yet if he's the youngest child, she may have a hard time accepting that her little boy is all grown up.
His mom sounds like my mother, manipulative, button pusher....both her and my father. Of course mine went too far....I have a thread with that WHOLE situation somewhere in here....if you want to look it up but you don't have to.

But having in law issues or even parent issues....it sucks and there isn't much aside from just giving yourself space from them, that you can do.
post #35 of 49
Godiva, honey, you sound like me talking! My husband is also an only child and his parents left their home country during a terrible reign of communism when he was four and have never let him forget how much they struggled for him to be able to grow up in America!

I worked three jobs to put my husband through school (I stopped going until he was finished) and never once was the fact I was working all hours of the day and night to pay bills and put food on the table acknowledged. Instead I was constantly nagged about how messy the house was during a surprise visit (she had a key to my apartment for emergency use).

She once held a garage sale while I was at work and sold most of my belongings (giving me $50 for my share) and has repeatedly told me that if I should dare adopt a child (which my husband and I intend to do!) she would not love that child as much as a biological (Calling adopted children the world's trash or somebody else's leftovers) and would not even acknowledge him/her as her grandchild. To which I said, if you intend to treat them differently then you can see none of your grandchildren.

She's badmouthed me in her language in front of me to all her friends and pretty much tried to poison my marriage. My husband only acts when it gets realy bad (taking my side) and has finally begun to rlaize that she's more than a bit wonky!
post #36 of 49
Her attitude toward adopted children is the same attitude my folks give about my hubby loving my daughter as his own biological child, for them it's all about the 'blood' to us, blood is nothing without love, caring and understanding. So what that my hubby (or in your case an adopted child) is not the biological parent. Does it truly matter?

No way!

Like I said it's about love. From the moment my hubby met my little girl he fell in love with her and loves her just as equally as he loves our son (his biological child).

And also, they refuse to acknowledge our son (who is only 2.5) because he is of my husband and they despise my husband that much. Because he isn't 'blood' and I've chosen him over them.

I'm sorry for everyone here that is having similiar problems with inlaws or parents or both or what have you. It sucks you know.

In my case unfortunately it isn't the inlaws that's the problem but my own flesh and blood family. But to my hubby it's inlaws. My inlaws not that they are saints by any means but I love them and trust them more than I do my biological rents.

So let's all gather round each other and give us all one big giant group hug
post #37 of 49
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Originally Posted by fwan
Although she is trash, she made a hottie son!

anyway, my ex mil, i was only engaged, but she drove me nuts...
After the breakup, she still calls me to go back to her son.. while back then she was trying to break us up!
She is also trash, 5 kids, 3 dads and is anorexic

Your totally right Fran! She did make a hottie son!!!
Although, I don't know how he made it out alive!!!
I feel so bad for him sometimes, the things I try to teach our daughter, he has no clue about, even little songs like "the ants go marching 1 by 1" he has never heard of them.... he was robbed of a child hood by a selfish, self serving lunatic.
post #38 of 49
I am lucky to have a great mother-in-law......since my mother passed away a couple of years ago...she is kind of like a mother type for me now....she was great through our wedding because our wedding was one year after my mom passed away and she did all the things that the mother/daughter's usually do, with me....she went dress shopping with me and planned all of my showers....I don't know what I would of done without her. I love her and my father-in-law....they are both great.
post #39 of 49
I have no comment on my MIL
post #40 of 49
I don't have a mother in law anymore...I'm sure someday I'll have one, and she'll be crazy
post #41 of 49
my MIL is nuts... i think the worst incident culminated in her taking a pair of scissors and cutting our phone line because she was so furious at my bf (ok, i'm not married, but we've been together ten years, so as far as i'm concerned, she's my MIL). what was his crime? bringing me some dumplings she'd made after she had served them to him, then just given me a bad look and walked away. he was furious, told her not to disrespect me like that, and she just went off on him about how i wasn't good enough for him. he told her that HE would be the judge of who was good enough for him, at which point she tried to take HIS plate of dumplings back. he said "no, here, ALLOW ME" and took the plate and dumped them in the sink. then she went batcrap, started screaming and grabbed the scissors and cut our phoneline, went in her room and was screaming in there for a good half an hour. this was back when we lived with her (out of financial necessity). i thank my lucky stars everday that we dont live with her anymore. i could NOT live with her again. she's INSANE.

ps -congrats on the degree
post #42 of 49
Oh might I add mine tried to push me into a hot oven once while ranting and raving that my husband's HER BABY and he will always do what SHE wants him to? Oh and then proceeded to tell me in her state of insanity that she was smarter then me because she took two classes to get a security officer's license? I asked her if she wanted a gold star or a cookie for her accomplishments (She once called my mother on Xmas ever to tell her I was pregnant (we THOUGHT I was) and that she was (as she put it) MORE SPECIAL then my mother because we told her first. My husband mentioned it could be a possibiliy, NOTHING definate. Thank god my mother know's she's crazy and just responded with "well when the time comes and it's right Alycia will tell me"... what a wench his mom is! She will also call my parents out of the blue to tell them I am manipulative and that I stole her ONLY baby (he's the only child).... I could go on and on for HOURS!
post #43 of 49
YES!!!

We aren't married (YET ) but she is horrible, just horrible!!

Last year when John gave me my promise ring, she kept asking and asking about a wedding, and I kept telling her - not for awhile, we'd only been dating for about 2 months when I got the ring (things moved quickly with us).

But still, everytime she'd see me, she'd tell me 'Well, you can have your reception at this place (her place of work), and you can have my boyfriend sing in his band (they have a Christian Rock band), and you can have the wedding at OUR (meaning HERS!) church....and the guests can stay at so and so hotel....needless to say, she thought she could plan my whole wedding herself! I put a stop to that when I told her I was getting married 2 hours away back home (Not true, but it shut her up.)

He is very controlling, a complete horror - I can't wait for the day when John & I are engaged and to be married, but I have a feeilng she's going to make the whole thing a mess.

My mom even told me that she would kick her butt

Now you've got me all worked up
post #44 of 49
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Originally Posted by babyharley
YES!!!

We aren't married (YET ) but she is horrible, just horrible!!

Last year when John gave me my promise ring, she kept asking and asking about a wedding, and I kept telling her - not for awhile, we'd only been dating for about 2 months when I got the ring (things moved quickly with us).

But still, everytime she'd see me, she'd tell me 'Well, you can have your reception at this place (her place of work), and you can have my boyfriend sing in his band (they have a Christian Rock band), and you can have the wedding at OUR (meaning HERS!) church....and the guests can stay at so and so hotel....needless to say, she thought she could plan my whole wedding herself! I put a stop to that when I told her I was getting married 2 hours away back home (Not true, but it shut her up.)

He is very controlling, a complete horror - I can't wait for the day when John & I are engaged and to be married, but I have a feeilng she's going to make the whole thing a mess.

My mom even told me that she would kick her butt

Now you've got me all worked up

I know the feeling....
When my husband isn't looking but my MIL is, I will stick my tongue out at her just to aggrevate her... I know, it's mean and I should be ashamed ...... But I'm not!
post #45 of 49
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Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
I know the feeling....
When my husband isn't looking but my MIL is, I will stick my tongue out at her just to aggrevate her... I know, it's mean and I should be ashamed ...... But I'm not!
I stick my tongue out at her behind her back all the time I dont feel ashamed! (is that bad?! )



...... No, I don't think it is, even if it was - I DONT CARE!
post #46 of 49
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Originally Posted by babyharley
I stick my tongue out at her behind her back all the time I dont feel ashamed! (is that bad?! )



...... No, I don't think it is, even if it was - I DONT CARE!

No not bad....I did that to my supervisor once, okay it wasn't my tongue it was my middle finger and that's cause she came and visited me after I had my son in the hospital where we all worked only to tell me how much work she had to do and how late she'd have to stay, as soon as her back was turned I flipped her off and my DH said a few choice words when she was out of the room.

But that wasn't MIL related but it is similar reaction wise.
post #47 of 49
My MIL is a wonderful person..I just love her to pieces
post #48 of 49
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Originally Posted by ButterflyDream
No not bad....I did that to my supervisor once, okay it wasn't my tongue it was my middle finger and that's cause she came and visited me after I had my son in the hospital where we all worked only to tell me how much work she had to do and how late she'd have to stay, as soon as her back was turned I flipped her off and my DH said a few choice words when she was out of the room.

But that wasn't MIL related but it is similar reaction wise.

Ok, yeah, I won't lie, I have given her the bird more then once. But I'm brave, I'll do it to her when she's looking and when she tells my husband that I did it, I deny it and say "you know she's crazy! I would NEVER do anything like that! I'm insulted!" And he believes me.... Yeah, I'm vindictive, I know
post #49 of 49
This thread is totally funny.

I have a really evil MIL. Kyle is the younger of two boys. She said I stole him from the craddle ( He was 20 years old and I was only 15 )She has done so many bad things, esp. before me and Kyle got married. His whole family hates me.


OK, this is one of my top worst MIL stories: Three days before my wedding (she is at my apartment) and I pick up the portable phone and turn it on, and I over heard her and her older son planning on hiring a stripper for Kyle's stag the next night. (Kyle and I both felt strongly that neither of us would have strippers.) His mom and brother knew this and went ahead with it anyways. I caught them. I was sooooooooooooooooo mad! I told Kyle and he was furious as well, so they cancelled the stripper (supposedly) and so Kyle thought it would be ok to still go (He gives into peer pressure too easily) and he didn't want to let his friends down. (The party was just an excuse to get drunk and Kyle doesn't even drink.) I didn't want him to go and I was upset that he was giving in so easily to people who obviously didn't support our wedding. Anyways, I gave in but I was pissed.

After he left to the party, I started to furiously clean my apartment. Sure, I slammed a few drawers, but it's my house. My MIL started screaming at me and said that if I didn't stop, she'd call the cops on me and I said if she didn't like the way I cleaned my apartment she could get the **** out (HEHE) and she went onto the balcony and I locked her out LOL

Anyways, they told him that they had really intended to have stripper/hooker and they were going to take him into a room where she was thinking that's what he really wanted . He wouldn't leave the bar to go to the room, so some of his friends did instead.

Before Kyle and I left, we agreed that he would be home by a certain time and his dad knew this and was driving. Do you think they got home on the agreed time??? NOPE!! I was furious and locked them out LOL


Then she acted like our wedding was the funeral and bawled and pouted the whole time. She and my mom were supposed take turns watching our son during the reception and she wouldn't take her turn, so Kyle ended up holding Telaryn the whole night (I couldn't because of my dress) and we only got to dance once at dance.

I won't even talk about his brother. He is the most vocale about his hatred for me ( He refers to me as the Fat B****.) Nice eh!

I could keep going.......
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