Anyone else have horrible mother-in-laws?

satai · Jun 26, 2006

Congrats on the degree - I know that's not really what your post is about, but not married so no ILs.

Any degree is hard work, good for you for persavering in your dreams, and under pressure too. Good luck with the parm course.

satai · Jun 26, 2006

Oh - 1 idea - the next time your hubby needs to get away to be with you, tell him to lie and say that he has to be home for work/conference call/homework/whatever it is he does that his mom respects.

anakat · Jun 26, 2006

I would just like to point out to you that you may all be MILs one day, so I hope you are taking notes!!
I told my DILs that when I got my boys they were little and sweet, they chose them as they are, so don't complain to me if you don't like what you got.

sherral46 · Jun 26, 2006

Oh Ya! Congrat.! My Mil Tried To Kill Me Twice The Year She Lived With Us ,never Again!. It Got So Bad We Put Her In A Nursing Home,ted Was A Late Baby,she Was 80 When We Did It.for About 20years Now,she Keeps Trying To Break Us Up. Been Married 33 Years. The Whole Time She Lived With Us She Would Have A Fit If We Left The House For More Than 10 Minutes! She Wanted Ted There 24/7 And He Worked Full Time.so Ys I Know Where You Are Coming From. The Best Thing We Ever Did Was Move 3 States Away From Her!you Just Have To Make Hubby Understand You Come Frist Now Not Mommy.
Good Luck.

luckygirl · Jun 26, 2006

Honestly, no one in here can top my MIL.... she got pregnant @ 15 w/my hubby, so she's only 46 now. She uses drugs, and drinks vodka every day. She sleeps with my hubby's friends (has slept w/ 2 and their not hisfriends anymore), and dances on the tops of the bars in our neighborhood. She has laid in a tanning bed most of her life and looks like leather, but because she's a size 4 she thinks she's great. It wouldn't be a family function if she didn't pull her shirt up, and her waistline down so you could see that after 3 kids she doesn't have any stretch marks, in addition to seeing everything else she has down there... At my BIL's wedding in Jamaica, she slept with 2 of the locals in a broom closet at the hotel we all stayed at, and was bragging about it to my SIL's church going family, like it was cool. She is constantly talking about all the abortions she had, and how she did drugs, smoked, & drank the whole time she was pregnant, and how doctors "talk a bunch of nonsense, her kids turned out fine". She wore a white completely see through shirt with a purple bra under it to my bridal shower, and brought her own cosomo's in a dasanti bottle. She completely talks trash about all 3 of her sons to everyone who will listen, and then only calls them if she needs something fixed. She has asked our daughter to lie, well just to "keep a secret" from us, and believes that this is not lying. She talks about her sexual prowess in front of her sons like she's some insestuous floozy that wants to impress her sons... I could keep going.... there's not enough room to type it all... needless to say, I don't speak to her unless I have to.

fwan · Jun 26, 2006

Originally Posted by LuckyGirl

Honestly, no one in here can top my MIL.... she got pregnant @ 15 w/my hubby, so she's only 46 now. She uses drugs, and drinks vodka every day. She sleeps with my hubby's friends (has slept w/ 2 and their not hisfriends anymore), and dances on the tops of the bars in our neighborhood. She has laid in a tanning bed most of her life and looks like leather, but because she's a size 4 she thinks she's great. It wouldn't be a family function if she didn't pull her shirt up, and her waistline down so you could see that after 3 kids she doesn't have any stretch marks, in addition to seeing everything else she has down there... At my BIL's wedding in Jamaica, she slept with 2 of the locals in a broom closet at the hotel we all stayed at, and was bragging about it to my SIL's church going family, like it was cool. She is constantly talking about all the abortions she had, and how she did drugs, smoked, & drank the whole time she was pregnant, and how doctors "talk a bunch of nonsense, her kids turned out fine". She wore a white completely see through shirt with a purple bra under it to my bridal shower, and brought her own cosomo's in a dasanti bottle. She completely talks trash about all 3 of her sons to everyone who will listen, and then only calls them if she needs something fixed. She has asked our daughter to lie, well just to "keep a secret" from us, and believes that this is not lying. She talks about her sexual prowess in front of her sons like she's some insestuous floozy that wants to impress her sons... I could keep going.... there's not enough room to type it all... needless to say, I don't speak to her unless I have to.

Although she is trash, she made a hottie son!

anyway, my ex mil, i was only engaged, but she drove me nuts...
After the breakup, she still calls me to go back to her son.. while back then she was trying to break us up!
She is also trash, 5 kids, 3 dads and is anorexic

shengmei · Jun 26, 2006

My MIL is wonderful. All my beauty/health stuff come from her.

catloverin_ks · Jun 26, 2006

Originally Posted by LuckyGirl

Honestly, no one in here can top my MIL.... she got pregnant @ 15 w/my hubby, so she's only 46 now. She uses drugs, and drinks vodka every day. She sleeps with my hubby's friends (has slept w/ 2 and their not hisfriends anymore), and dances on the tops of the bars in our neighborhood. She has laid in a tanning bed most of her life and looks like leather, but because she's a size 4 she thinks she's great. It wouldn't be a family function if she didn't pull her shirt up, and her waistline down so you could see that after 3 kids she doesn't have any stretch marks, in addition to seeing everything else she has down there... At my BIL's wedding in Jamaica, she slept with 2 of the locals in a broom closet at the hotel we all stayed at, and was bragging about it to my SIL's church going family, like it was cool. She is constantly talking about all the abortions she had, and how she did drugs, smoked, & drank the whole time she was pregnant, and how doctors "talk a bunch of nonsense, her kids turned out fine". She wore a white completely see through shirt with a purple bra under it to my bridal shower, and brought her own cosomo's in a dasanti bottle. She completely talks trash about all 3 of her sons to everyone who will listen, and then only calls them if she needs something fixed. She has asked our daughter to lie, well just to "keep a secret" from us, and believes that this is not lying. She talks about her sexual prowess in front of her sons like she's some insestuous floozy that wants to impress her sons... I could keep going.... there's not enough room to type it all... needless to say, I don't speak to her unless I have to.

Holy cow sweetie!! That is almost a book

meowsas · Jun 26, 2006

Originally Posted by LuckyGirl

Honestly, no one in here can top my MIL.... she got pregnant @ 15 w/my hubby, so she's only 46 now. She uses drugs, and drinks vodka every day. She sleeps with my hubby's friends (has slept w/ 2 and their not hisfriends anymore), and dances on the tops of the bars in our neighborhood. She has laid in a tanning bed most of her life and looks like leather, but because she's a size 4 she thinks she's great. It wouldn't be a family function if she didn't pull her shirt up, and her waistline down so you could see that after 3 kids she doesn't have any stretch marks, in addition to seeing everything else she has down there... At my BIL's wedding in Jamaica, she slept with 2 of the locals in a broom closet at the hotel we all stayed at, and was bragging about it to my SIL's church going family, like it was cool. She is constantly talking about all the abortions she had, and how she did drugs, smoked, & drank the whole time she was pregnant, and how doctors "talk a bunch of nonsense, her kids turned out fine". She wore a white completely see through shirt with a purple bra under it to my bridal shower, and brought her own cosomo's in a dasanti bottle. She completely talks trash about all 3 of her sons to everyone who will listen, and then only calls them if she needs something fixed. She has asked our daughter to lie, well just to "keep a secret" from us, and believes that this is not lying. She talks about her sexual prowess in front of her sons like she's some insestuous floozy that wants to impress her sons... I could keep going.... there's not enough room to type it all... needless to say, I don't speak to her unless I have to.

Oh my god!!!!

satai · Jun 26, 2006

Originally Posted by LuckyGirl

Honestly, no one in here can top my MIL.... she got pregnant @ 15 w/my hubby, so she's only 46 now. She uses drugs, and drinks vodka every day. She sleeps with my hubby's friends (has slept w/ 2 and their not hisfriends anymore), and dances on the tops of the bars in our neighborhood. She has laid in a tanning bed most of her life and looks like leather, but because she's a size 4 she thinks she's great. It wouldn't be a family function if she didn't pull her shirt up, and her waistline down so you could see that after 3 kids she doesn't have any stretch marks, in addition to seeing everything else she has down there... At my BIL's wedding in Jamaica, she slept with 2 of the locals in a broom closet at the hotel we all stayed at, and was bragging about it to my SIL's church going family, like it was cool. She is constantly talking about all the abortions she had, and how she did drugs, smoked, & drank the whole time she was pregnant, and how doctors "talk a bunch of nonsense, her kids turned out fine". She wore a white completely see through shirt with a purple bra under it to my bridal shower, and brought her own cosomo's in a dasanti bottle. She completely talks trash about all 3 of her sons to everyone who will listen, and then only calls them if she needs something fixed. She has asked our daughter to lie, well just to "keep a secret" from us, and believes that this is not lying. She talks about her sexual prowess in front of her sons like she's some insestuous floozy that wants to impress her sons... I could keep going.... there's not enough room to type it all... needless to say, I don't speak to her unless I have to.

Wow, and ick.

But hey, you could make some money out of it - you could write a sitcom around your experiences of her!

lookingglass · Jun 26, 2006

Originally Posted by LuckyGirl

Honestly, no one in here can top my MIL.... she got pregnant @ 15 w/my hubby, so she's only 46 now. She uses drugs, and drinks vodka every day. She sleeps with my hubby's friends (has slept w/ 2 and their not hisfriends anymore), and dances on the tops of the bars in our neighborhood. She has laid in a tanning bed most of her life and looks like leather, but because she's a size 4 she thinks she's great. It wouldn't be a family function if she didn't pull her shirt up, and her waistline down so you could see that after 3 kids she doesn't have any stretch marks, in addition to seeing everything else she has down there... At my BIL's wedding in Jamaica, she slept with 2 of the locals in a broom closet at the hotel we all stayed at, and was bragging about it to my SIL's church going family, like it was cool. She is constantly talking about all the abortions she had, and how she did drugs, smoked, & drank the whole time she was pregnant, and how doctors "talk a bunch of nonsense, her kids turned out fine". She wore a white completely see through shirt with a purple bra under it to my bridal shower, and brought her own cosomo's in a dasanti bottle. She completely talks trash about all 3 of her sons to everyone who will listen, and then only calls them if she needs something fixed. She has asked our daughter to lie, well just to "keep a secret" from us, and believes that this is not lying. She talks about her sexual prowess in front of her sons like she's some insestuous floozy that wants to impress her sons... I could keep going.... there's not enough room to type it all... needless to say, I don't speak to her unless I have to.

Is it bad that you just made me fell better about my MIL?

sarahp · Jun 26, 2006

My MIL certainly wouldn't qualify as worlds worst MIL, but she is manipulative and completely controlling of her family, gets upset when her 22 year old daughter, my SIL, (who isn't allowed to go out with her friends) says she wants to move out of home. My SIL is a sweet, sensible girl with a very level head, but isn't allowed to do anything. She has some health problems, and her mother uses that as excuses for her not to be allowed to do anything, and almost forces my SIL to rely on her.

My poor SIL has no confidence in herself to do anything, because her mother always tells her she can't do anything! She's getting better though, and gotten herself a good job, and a fairly good financial situation, so she should be able to move out soon anyway. My MIL just doesn't realise she's just alienating her daughter, like she has her other kids. My hubby still cares for his family, but they're not particularly close, and I feel as though he's always trying to prove himself to his parents, which is so sad, because he was a part owner of a successful business which he had sold and made a fair bit of money on by the time he was 25. He invested this money, and has done very well for himself since, and is so incredibly smart and successful, but I've never heard his parents say they're proud of him, or show any emotion to indicate they're proud of him

It makes me so mad!

My hubby loves family things with my family on both my mum and dad's side, because everyone's very close, we have big celebrations and everyone gets drunk (including my grandparents!) and has a lot of fun. He'd never really experienced any of that before...

zoe'n'misskitty · Jun 26, 2006

Congrats on your degree.

That is awsome.
As for the MIL who's driving you nuts....
My fiance's mother was a mentally unstable ticking time bomb who did everything in her power to push her son's buttons, and although she was always very kind to me and on her best behavior when I was around, she drove me nuts with the way she treated my fiance. She would have been a terrible MIL.
All that said, I would take the trials of being her daughter-in-law if only she were alive today. She passed away unexpectedly last year and I miss her terribly.
Even though your MIL may seem awful and intolerable now, you will probably miss her when she's gone. Surely she has SOME redeeming quality, if only that she gave birth to and raised the man you love.

But yeah, hubby needs to put his foot down and let his mom know that you are a part of his family now, too, and that mom needs to respect that. If you guys are young, or worse yet if he's the youngest child, she may have a hard time accepting that her little boy is all grown up.

butterflydream · Jun 26, 2006

Originally Posted by Zoe'n'MissKitty

Congrats on your degree.

That is awsome.
As for the MIL who's driving you nuts....
My fiance's mother was a mentally unstable ticking time bomb who did everything in her power to push her son's buttons, and although she was always very kind to me and on her best behavior when I was around, she drove me nuts with the way she treated my fiance. She would have been a terrible MIL.
All that said, I would take the trials of being her daughter-in-law if only she were alive today. She passed away unexpectedly last year and I miss her terribly.
Even though your MIL may seem awful and intolerable now, you will probably miss her when she's gone. Surely she has SOME redeeming quality, if only that she gave birth to and raised the man you love.

But yeah, hubby needs to put his foot down and let his mom know that you are a part of his family now, too, and that mom needs to respect that. If you guys are young, or worse yet if he's the youngest child, she may have a hard time accepting that her little boy is all grown up.

His mom sounds like my mother, manipulative, button pusher....both her and my father. Of course mine went too far....I have a thread with that WHOLE situation somewhere in here....if you want to look it up but you don't have to.

But having in law issues or even parent issues....it sucks and there isn't much aside from just giving yourself space from them, that you can do.

dragulescugirl · Jun 26, 2006

Godiva, honey, you sound like me talking! My husband is also an only child and his parents left their home country during a terrible reign of communism when he was four and have never let him forget how much they struggled for him to be able to grow up in America!

I worked three jobs to put my husband through school (I stopped going until he was finished) and never once was the fact I was working all hours of the day and night to pay bills and put food on the table acknowledged. Instead I was constantly nagged about how messy the house was during a surprise visit (she had a key to my apartment for emergency use).

She once held a garage sale while I was at work and sold most of my belongings (giving me $50 for my share) and has repeatedly told me that if I should dare adopt a child (which my husband and I intend to do!) she would not love that child as much as a biological (Calling adopted children the world's trash or somebody else's leftovers) and would not even acknowledge him/her as her grandchild. To which I said, if you intend to treat them differently then you can see none of your grandchildren.

She's badmouthed me in her language in front of me to all her friends and pretty much tried to poison my marriage. My husband only acts when it gets realy bad (taking my side) and has finally begun to rlaize that she's more than a bit wonky!

butterflydream · Jun 26, 2006

Her attitude toward adopted children is the same attitude my folks give about my hubby loving my daughter as his own biological child, for them it's all about the 'blood' to us, blood is nothing without love, caring and understanding. So what that my hubby (or in your case an adopted child) is not the biological parent. Does it truly matter?

No way!

Like I said it's about love. From the moment my hubby met my little girl he fell in love with her and loves her just as equally as he loves our son (his biological child).

And also, they refuse to acknowledge our son (who is only 2.5) because he is of my husband and they despise my husband that much. Because he isn't 'blood' and I've chosen him over them.

I'm sorry for everyone here that is having similiar problems with inlaws or parents or both or what have you. It sucks you know.

In my case unfortunately it isn't the inlaws that's the problem but my own flesh and blood family. But to my hubby it's inlaws. My inlaws not that they are saints by any means but I love them and trust them more than I do my biological rents.

So let's all gather round each other and give us all one big giant group hug

luckygirl · Jun 27, 2006

Originally Posted by fwan

Although she is trash, she made a hottie son!

anyway, my ex mil, i was only engaged, but she drove me nuts...
After the breakup, she still calls me to go back to her son.. while back then she was trying to break us up!
She is also trash, 5 kids, 3 dads and is anorexic

Your totally right Fran! She did make a hottie son!!!

Although, I don't know how he made it out alive!!!

I feel so bad for him sometimes, the things I try to teach our daughter, he has no clue about, even little songs like "the ants go marching 1 by 1" he has never heard of them.... he was robbed of a child hood by a selfish, self serving lunatic.

alaynna · Jun 27, 2006

I am lucky to have a great mother-in-law......since my mother passed away a couple of years ago...she is kind of like a mother type for me now....she was great through our wedding because our wedding was one year after my mom passed away and she did all the things that the mother/daughter's usually do, with me....she went dress shopping with me and planned all of my showers....I don't know what I would of done without her. I love her and my father-in-law....they are both great.

miss mew · Jun 27, 2006

I have no comment on my MIL

trouts mom · Jun 27, 2006

I don't have a mother in law anymore...I'm sure someday I'll have one, and she'll be crazy

Anyone else have horrible mother-in-laws?

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