I'm sorry this is so long, but I guess there is some background info I need to clarify... I 5/6ths of the way done with pharmacy school, and I may or may not be able to finish... long story, but things are looking good and I probably will be able to. Anyway, so during the time I was waiting to see if I could finish, I finished a bachelors in comparitive religious studies just for the heck of it.
My BA degree was official last week, I got my diploma and summer course grade in the mail. My husband and I had planned to go to a wedding this weekend, but Sneakers had her kittens and my mom said she couldn't watch them, so I stayed home.
Hubby goes with his parents to St. Louis Friday morning, and hubby promises me they'll get back today in the afternoon so that we can spend some time together to celebrate this evening. His mom even told me (before she knew anything else) that they were going to get back early tonight so "Danny can get his rest."
His mother decides to keep them there in St. Loius all day, as if the whole weekend wasn't enough. Hubby calls me and swears there was nothing he could do about it, they drove him there. She didn't want to go to the zoo or out to lunch today until he told her that we were having a dinner to celebrate my minor accomplishment.
I know getting a BA in religion is not a big deal, but his mother is out to sabotage everything between my husband and I. I swear... this is by far not the first time she has done something like this.
When hubby graduated a few years ago, of course he had a HUGE party with out of town family members and got hundreds of dollars... I haven't even gotten a card or congratulations yet... from anyone. They didn't even care that I decided not to walk in May, they didn't even ask about it. When hubby said he didn't want to walk a few years ago, they threw a fit and made a big deal of it and basically threatened him if he didn't. (I didn't want to walk because this little degree wasn't my goal... I am hoping that I can finish pharmacy school.)
I'm so ticked off. I can't wait to move away from this drama. My mother is so gracious to Dan, and she often takes his side because she's ornery like that. Why can't my MIL at least pretend to be civil? She's so passive-agressive. Ugh. Does she ever stop to think that newlyweds might NEED their time alone? That I only see him when he comes home to sleep or eat because he works two jobs so I can focus on school? Is is wrong of me to wish that something horrible would happen so that we could all put this behind us? Screw this. I honestly can say I hate her, at least I hate what she did to her son who can't stand up for himself or us because of her.
I know that's harsh, but before we got married, she said she'd do anything in her power to keep us apart. And she wasn't kidding. We've been married over two years now, and every month there's something new that she does that I am sure she thinks makes us rethink our relationship. One time, one of our kittens scratched my husband on the face... she saw it and went to the cops, saying that I was abusing him
They laughed her out of the office, of course... but still.
She blames me for her son growing up. He's an only child, and she's an elementary school teacher... and up until we got married, my husband served as her surrogate husband because her real husband is very aloof (heh... wouldn't you be married to someone that manipulative?). I haven't produced any grandbabies yet and I don't plan to, so in her mind, I'm not worth anything and I am to be blamed for anything and everything.
Thanks for letting me rant. Do any of you have any MIL stories?
My BA degree was official last week, I got my diploma and summer course grade in the mail. My husband and I had planned to go to a wedding this weekend, but Sneakers had her kittens and my mom said she couldn't watch them, so I stayed home.
Hubby goes with his parents to St. Louis Friday morning, and hubby promises me they'll get back today in the afternoon so that we can spend some time together to celebrate this evening. His mom even told me (before she knew anything else) that they were going to get back early tonight so "Danny can get his rest."
His mother decides to keep them there in St. Loius all day, as if the whole weekend wasn't enough. Hubby calls me and swears there was nothing he could do about it, they drove him there. She didn't want to go to the zoo or out to lunch today until he told her that we were having a dinner to celebrate my minor accomplishment.
I know getting a BA in religion is not a big deal, but his mother is out to sabotage everything between my husband and I. I swear... this is by far not the first time she has done something like this.
When hubby graduated a few years ago, of course he had a HUGE party with out of town family members and got hundreds of dollars... I haven't even gotten a card or congratulations yet... from anyone. They didn't even care that I decided not to walk in May, they didn't even ask about it. When hubby said he didn't want to walk a few years ago, they threw a fit and made a big deal of it and basically threatened him if he didn't. (I didn't want to walk because this little degree wasn't my goal... I am hoping that I can finish pharmacy school.)
I'm so ticked off. I can't wait to move away from this drama. My mother is so gracious to Dan, and she often takes his side because she's ornery like that. Why can't my MIL at least pretend to be civil? She's so passive-agressive. Ugh. Does she ever stop to think that newlyweds might NEED their time alone? That I only see him when he comes home to sleep or eat because he works two jobs so I can focus on school? Is is wrong of me to wish that something horrible would happen so that we could all put this behind us? Screw this. I honestly can say I hate her, at least I hate what she did to her son who can't stand up for himself or us because of her.
I know that's harsh, but before we got married, she said she'd do anything in her power to keep us apart. And she wasn't kidding. We've been married over two years now, and every month there's something new that she does that I am sure she thinks makes us rethink our relationship. One time, one of our kittens scratched my husband on the face... she saw it and went to the cops, saying that I was abusing him
She blames me for her son growing up. He's an only child, and she's an elementary school teacher... and up until we got married, my husband served as her surrogate husband because her real husband is very aloof (heh... wouldn't you be married to someone that manipulative?). I haven't produced any grandbabies yet and I don't plan to, so in her mind, I'm not worth anything and I am to be blamed for anything and everything.