Wedding Opinion - Assigned seating?

For those that have attended weddings with assigned seating or not, which do you prefer? My fiance and I differ on the way we should do this.

What do you think?

I have not had assigned seating in my wedding, but the best wedding I went to had alternate men/women seating. It was really cool.

People tend to be so much more cordial with the opposite sex.

Every wedding I have ever attended has had me assigned to a table. I have never had an issue with it, and generally after people eat dinner they all visit each other's tables anyway.

It depends...if I'm not that familiar with people, then I don't mind the assigned seating since I don't know anyone other than probably the bride or groom.

If I know a lot of people that are there (non-head table), then either or is fine.

Really it doesn't matter anyway. Will you have a band or DJ for dancing? Once that starts then table seating doesn't matter.

I guess it depends on who you are inviting...people that you don't get to see that often or people that you see all the time.

I won't say what my opinion is until I get a few more responses. It looks like there will be about 100 people and regardless we will have seating assigned for family (closest to head table). It is also a buffet dinner.

Originally Posted by lunasmom

Really it doesn't matter anyway. Will you have a band or DJ for dancing? Once that starts then table seating doesn't matter.

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Yes we will. Every wedding I have been to for the most part dancing never takes off. I hope people have fun at our wedding though! We will be doing karaoke later in the evening too just for fun.

I vote for assigned seating. It's awkward for people to be sitting with a whole table of people you don't know. An example would be a coworker that ends up with a table full of relatives, and feels left out for the day. Not everyone is comfortable sitting with, and making conversation with those they don't really know.

I have to say assigned seating.

I just think its MUCH easier as a guest, knowing where your supposed to go!

I think it depends on the people who are coming, if there's some who will cause problems then it's probably best to assign seating.

My wedding is coming up at the end of the year and I am having assigned tables, but not seating. i.e. A particular group will be at a particular table, but they can sit with who they want.

I think this makes things easier for the guests otherwise people would tend to wander round looking for a table to be at!

Good luck!

I agree with Jane...assigned tables, but not assigned seats at the table. It just makes everything flow a little smoother.

Originally Posted by Tari

I agree with Jane...assigned tables, but not assigned seats at the table. It just makes everything flow a little smoother.

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that's what we did.

When we get married (in October) we're assigning people to tables, but not seats. I think it'll make it less awkward for those who are not family members - I don't want 5 different people going to 5 different tables and then my family gets split up and such. Plus there's some people I'd like to keep together and one person in particular I'd like to keep away from someone else (but that one person will probably go sit by that other person if I don't have the assigned seats)...if that makes any sense.

Being married twice we didn't have assigned seating either time. I found out that people will always "bring an unexpected friends" and then you have a problem with the assigned seats. It's better to let them pick but have 2-3 extra tables just in case. It makes it more comfortable for some people who might know other people there.

I will be having assigned tables...but not seating.

I agree with assigned tables, but not seating. I've found the more organized weddings just went more smoothly. It's easier for the guests that way - no awkward milling around.

We just had our reception in April. I wish we didn't assign tables. People move to where every they want...usually family who don't understand the set-up. I had one cousin who refuse to sit at her table, she moved with her siblings and end up leaving a couple by themselves and displaced another couple.

I vote for assigned tables or seating... at the weddings I went to where they didn't do this it was really awkward trying to find a place to sit without feeling intrusive.

I can't say I've attended a wedding with assigned seating. Most likely this is jus t not done in Wisconsin!!! Usually their is a assigned table or two for parents/grandparent/godparents. My nephews wedding a couple of weeks ago-typical NE WI wedding about 300 or so for dinner!! Some weddings have so many people invited they have two shifts for dinner!!!