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Hmm..Not alot, no. I do what I can for her. Like yesterday she asked if I could take her to the store because she was hungary, but my own child was sleeping, and I couldnt. It's times like that when I spend time with her. It's not alot of time. But the idea of having her in my house would be difficult. DH cant stand the smell either, and he'd have to be at work in order to put up with it. But it is a great idea, and I think I might the "girly" night thing. I just dont know how to deal with her cleanliness.Do you spend a lot of time with this girl?
I like this:
I like it alot, because then if i do the other things, I can feel I have done enough, and now it is time for me sort of let go of the situation. I really like the thrift store ideas too. That would help her tons.Then if it gets to the point where you feel you are being taken advantage of, especially with the car situation, you can take a stand against it without feeling like you could have done more.
I think the cats are OK. They are tad skinny, but appear to be very happy. She lets them out on the balcony, and keeps a very close eye on them. I like that. One was burnt on the electric heater once, and she couldnt afford the vet bill, so I pitched in. But I think the cats are alright.I would call child services and the SPCA to check on those cats too!
I think there might be a litter box changing problem because the house reeks of ammonia so horribly, and Im pretty sure it's a litter box problem. But she shouldnt be changing that. Hopefully her man does that. I am also worried that one day her kitties will get away because they are not fixed and want to go down them stairs so badly, but she's always right there to pick them up and bring them back up-stairs. I actually think she's an alright furbaby mom. (I watch lol)
Im not sure that I'd like that. She would be terribly heart-broken, and I would know it's all my fault. But, at least the poor child would be taken care of properly. I think I am going to call someone about it though, thanks to all of you for getting into gear about this. I have been debating it for sometime. Hopefully they can get something going before the baby, so she can keep it.It's sad that given the discription of the situation you have given that the child will probably be taken away as soon as the baby is born.
I know that we have that program out here. I actually think there is one right down the road. So would I just explain the situation, and ask to remain un-known?They have programs that can help with her parenting skills and it canb e done anon.I believe one of them is Healthy Start.
She does qualify for it in fact. I have tooken her to that place too, and she filled out the appropriate papers, and I took her to bring them back. But she hasnt went and picked up the rest of the information and packets for it. She hasnt asked me about it either. I should really get on that, because that would help ALOT for formula costs. And Milk for herself instread of Mountain Dew.I'm not sure about her income but she could even now qualify for the WIC program.
Enough. Enough to know that child is being taken care of in the proper ways, and being fed, cleaned...etc..But I think that IS too much. It isnt my responsibility, and I wish I didnt feel like it's my job to do all this. But I just have to. It's like instinct or something. I think I'll be taking a maternity leave too when she has this baby. lol. Just to teach her the basics.You want to help but how much???
She has. 3 times. She has the correct pre-natel pills, (I made darn sure of that), and had an ultra-sound. It's a boy. But other than that, I dont know if she's been there in a couple months. Im going to call her tonight, & make sure everythings going alright, and ask if she's been to the doctor lately. You guys got me all motherly now. But it's what I needed.I'm wondering if she is even seeing a doctor at this point!!
Well that's excellent news. I would like her to have this baby. I think she'd be a great mom, given she cleans herself, and her home more, and just generally takes better care of her life, and this baby.They will most likely not take her child away. It is much easier for them to train her to be a more proper mother first.
Thank you much. It's just that when I got pregnant when I was 19, I had family, and friends that gave EVERYTHING to me. Books, 2 great baby-showers, all the resources needed. And thankfully our landlord understood our situation, and let us move in. But it was so many different people helping. And understanding. But with this girl...She's got me. That's all. And sometimes her mother. So I've got to kick it in gear. Starting tonight.You are an awesome woman for helping her to the best of your ability, but I agree, don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
Thank you all so much. I will keep you all posted. *gets into help mode* Oh boy, this shall be an experience.