-
Too many ads? Join our community of cat lovers now to reduce ads by 90%! Click here to join for free!
Heartbroken.....
- Thread starter peppy_le_mew
- Start Date
Maybe contact your local humane society or rescue group, sometimes they will list your kittens on the petfinder site as a courtesy, and you really should charge an adoption fee, if a person wants a kitten and is plannig totake care of it, they will be willing to pay an adoption fee, of say 30 dollars. Don't ever say FREE, I'm sorry your boyfiend won't let you keep them.
I am going to run into the same problem as youOriginally Posted by Peppy_Le_Mew
My cat had 3 kittens on March 29 2006. My boyfriend is saying we must get rid of two kittens...we can only keep one!! I am heartbroken and devastated by this. I have tried and tried to change his mind...but there is no pushing an unmoveable force. I have grown so attatched to these kitties!! I'm a "stay at home ""housewife" type and I am with them all 24/7. I want to keep them all!! I do not want to break up the litter!! Isn't it hard on them to seperate them?? What must they think if their little brother or sisters are taken away from them???? Cats are my passion...ever since I was 3 I have had a cat....I don't know what to do....so sad about the whole idea. I'm putting off putting an ad in the paper...I don't want just anyone having my babies!!!!!!!! How do I know they are going to a good home??? My friend wants them, but she has an adult cat that she doesn't take care of and never takes to the vet!!! It always has fleas and now it has a drooling problem!!! There is NO WAY she will get one of my babies!!!! It's so hard to trust people.....We aren't charging anything for them...so god only knows what kind of people will get them!! And I just read in the Patriot News a week ago about a girl that went and answered an ad for a "free kitten" , so she got this kitten, only to take it to a boys house so they could watch his pitbull dog attack it and tear it to shreds!!!! I was HORRIFIED!!!!
And very very angry!!!!!!! What should I do? How do I know someone else isn't going to subject these poor innocent gods creatures to some fate worse than death?????!!!Anyone.....please....any suggestions?????
If you have to give them up, definately charge at least $20 for them, and you could use it, say, as a deposit for getting them spayed/neutered. As soon as the new mommy or daddy does that and brings back proof, they get their money back. People who want to use kittens for evil things (grr....) won't pay the money for one.
I think they do okay being seperated after a little while, especially if you could find a great home to take in both kittens! I think company is a big help in getting them adjusted, I know my Chaynal never seemed much like he was missing his mom or littermates since I brought a brother home with him to play with. Best of luck!
I think they do okay being seperated after a little while, especially if you could find a great home to take in both kittens! I think company is a big help in getting them adjusted, I know my Chaynal never seemed much like he was missing his mom or littermates since I brought a brother home with him to play with. Best of luck!
Hey...if you can afford to take care of the momma and all three kittens then why can`t you keep them?
Linda
PS maybe you could put an ad in the paper and find a new home for the boyfriend??? (Just kidding!)
Linda
PS maybe you could put an ad in the paper and find a new home for the boyfriend??? (Just kidding!)
There should be some stickies that give info on how to properly screen potential adopters. Like other's have suggested, contact no-kill rescue groups to see if they will help you place the babies.
You should also think about fostering mom-cats and kittens, then you always get to have the kitten experience (while the group usually pays for food and vet bills!) but your boyfriend won't see it as you "owning" extra cats. Plus, you'll be helping out in a big way!
Oh, and the kittens don't really notice that they don't stay with their littermates. If they were wild, Mom cat would chase them all off at some point to go have lives of their own, so as long as you're letting them stay with her until they're old enough, they'll be well adjusted and happy in their new homes.
~Julia
You should also think about fostering mom-cats and kittens, then you always get to have the kitten experience (while the group usually pays for food and vet bills!) but your boyfriend won't see it as you "owning" extra cats. Plus, you'll be helping out in a big way!
Oh, and the kittens don't really notice that they don't stay with their littermates. If they were wild, Mom cat would chase them all off at some point to go have lives of their own, so as long as you're letting them stay with her until they're old enough, they'll be well adjusted and happy in their new homes.
~Julia
- Thread Starter Thread Starter
- #8
Thank you all!!! I am sending him an email with your advice.....maybe it will help.....lol!! How old do you think is "old enough"???? ((great way to keep them longer)) LOL Mainly he doesn't want to keep them all because they don't stay little forever, and he is stressing over the furniture and his "stereo surround sound system"....((one little daredevil already put a snag in one of his speakers...aaarrrggghh)) But I believe in just telling them no when you see them do something wrong, and steer them away to focus on one of their toys, or the box they have to chew and destroy....along with the scrating post.......I know you can train them good!! Mama kitty was a stray...never in a house before..she was terrified of people and it took us a month to let her get close to us...finally we were able to bring her indoors....and would you believe she is a cat that loves "bath time"???!!!! She sits still and doesn't fuss!!! Amazing if you ask me........Thanks everyone!!!!! I loved the comment about putting in an ad for my boyfriend!!! Believe me..I'd like to sometimes!!! HAHAHA
10-12 weeks is that best time to give the kits to their new homes. Also are you planning on getting Mama spayed as soon as the babies are weaned? don't want an unexpected litter again
- Thread Starter Thread Starter
- #10
DEFINATELY!!!!! But she is in heat right now...meowing and howling...wiggling her butt high in the air at us....she wants back outside to "get some"...LOL
I'd toss my husband out before I'd get rid of any of my babies. I guess I'd have to ask you if you really want to spend your life with "an unmoveable force" ? What demand will he place on you next ? Don't allow yourself to be dependent on this guy and ruled by him. Trust me, I know you're worth more than that and I don't even know you !! If you're not equal in the relationship I'd run for the hills.
Whatever happens, I hope you are able to find the best homes for your babies. Spaying your momma cat will prevent this from happening to you again. I know I'd NEVER be able to give up babies so I feel your pain.
Whatever happens, I hope you are able to find the best homes for your babies. Spaying your momma cat will prevent this from happening to you again. I know I'd NEVER be able to give up babies so I feel your pain.
This sucks for you, I wish you could keep them.
Its a good idea to charge a fee for adoption I think. I would say $50 would do it...then if noone adopts them, you can just say oh well, and then you get to keep them
No, but seriously, it really is too bad.. Your boyfriend won't budge? I don't see what the big deal is if you are at home all the time and will take care of them yourself.
Its a good idea to charge a fee for adoption I think. I would say $50 would do it...then if noone adopts them, you can just say oh well, and then you get to keep them
No, but seriously, it really is too bad.. Your boyfriend won't budge? I don't see what the big deal is if you are at home all the time and will take care of them yourself.
On another note, I just wanted to mention that when we were looking for a kitty, we would have adopted a free one, and we are not psychos at all. We ended up paying $80 for Trout in the end which was worth it of course..but I just wanted to say that not all people are planning to do harm if they want a free kitty
Generally though,I do agree that it would be easier to know the adoptees are serious if they are willing to pay a little.
Oh I know that not everybody that gets a free cat is planning an evil deed, but I feel you just can't take the risk, you never know. It's a generally recommended thing that you charge at least a small adoption fee to weed out evil doersOriginally Posted by Trouts mom
On another note, I just wanted to mention that when we were looking for a kitty, we would have adopted a free one, and we are not psychos at all. We ended up paying $80 for Trout in the end which was worth it of course..but I just wanted to say that not all people are planning to do harm if they want a free kitty
Generally though,I do agree that it would be easier to know the adoptees are serious if they are willing to pay a little.
Yep I agree, I just had to say that..to make sure you all know I'm no psychoOriginally Posted by katiemae1277
Oh I know that not everybody that gets a free cat is planning an evil deed, but I feel you just can't take the risk, you never know. It's a generally recommended thing that you charge at least a small adoption fee to weed out evil doers
Check out the pregnant kitty forum.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=36
You will find lots of great advice.
One idea if you really love kittens is to become a foster Mom for a cat rescue agency. Often they cannot help out cats because there is no one available to care for them. My agency pays for all the vet care...all I do is love them and scoop lots of litterboxes. They also screen carefully for the new adoptive parents, and take the kitties back if there is a problem later.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=36
You will find lots of great advice.
One idea if you really love kittens is to become a foster Mom for a cat rescue agency. Often they cannot help out cats because there is no one available to care for them. My agency pays for all the vet care...all I do is love them and scoop lots of litterboxes. They also screen carefully for the new adoptive parents, and take the kitties back if there is a problem later.
#1, is your boyfriend supporting the kittens? If not, he really doesn't get a say IMO. As for his concerns about his stereo and furniture, well, things are replacable - lives aren't. Regardless, they are KITTENS, and being kittens they will go through the kamikazi commando kitten stage. But he's right - they won't be kittens forever and with patience and training, they will know what is appropriate to scratch and what isn't.
#2 ALWAYS charge something for kittens so that
won't get your kittens for laboratories or dog fighting training or other nefarious things. People who can't afford an adoption fee won't be able to afford vet care either, and things always seem to have more "value" to some people if they put down money for it.
I'll move this to SOS for you.
#2 ALWAYS charge something for kittens so that
I'll move this to SOS for you.
I was thinking the same thing Linda....
I know every relationship is different, but my husband knows better than to TELL me I can't have something or do something! HA! I totally respect his wishes and feelings, don't get me wrong, but he knows he can't TELL me what to do.........if he told me I had to get rid of any of my babies, we'd have our first and probably only MAJOR FIGHT and I guarantee, I'd win!
God luck....I hope you find a solution for the little darlings, but I agree, don't give them away for free.
- Thread Starter Thread Starter
- #19
Well, they haven't had their shots yet......should we get them their shots first before trying to have them adopted??? Yes, he is actually the one that pays for their food, care, etc.etc.etc....it's such a mess....On one hand I see his point ...but........................................I have a hard time letting go...
- Thread Starter Thread Starter
- #20
They are just too cute and cuddly......
