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post #1 of 29
Thread Starter 
My loving mother received her hard earned wings on April 25th at 7:05

It started at 12:30pm and i never left her side until her last breath
came about. The longest and hardest day of my life. At the same time i
wanted her here but gone too because of the pain and suffereing. At
first the shock took over but then i came back and i know its best and
shes happy right now...at peace...with all of our loved ones.

I went to the funeral home and fixed her hair and makeup, i know how
she liked it...she was very picky! I felt so proud of myself
afterwards, never thought in a million years that i'd be able to do something
like that.

Visitation is tonight and the funeral is tomorrow at 1:00 pm. I wrote
a poem for her that will be read by a friend of the family...

"Through the Eyes of a Child"
Grief is not easy.
It is hard on the heart and the mind and the soul.
To lose someone you’ve loved for your whole life long.
Even when you knew it would come;
Yes; even prayed it would come.
And release You from this bondage You’ve known.
We know it is best.
Your life’s journey is done.
Our faith has You now
Safely at home.
In the arms of our God,
Who is holding You now
In His loving and comforting way.
We’ll miss you so much.
The One that you were
Before this illness happened to you.
You were good…you were kind…
You were loving and caring.
A good wife, mother, sister, and friend.
Now the time is really here.
The good-byes must be said.
Those that we’ve known for so long that we must say.
Still, grief isn’t easy…
It is hard
On our hearts
And our minds and our souls!
- Lori

Right now i'm very "flat-lined", kinda numb, i'm not sure if i really
know shes gone. Although i watched her being carried out --i dont know
if i have REALLY realized.

Her 50th birthday is May 10th and she said she wanted a big blow out so we're still gonna do that on May 12th in honor of her.

Another horrible note, my aunt has showed her selfish side AGAIN. I
wanted to go up to fix my mom with one person (that was so dear to my
mother) and my aunt stomped off and took off in the car. I was told my
mom step-dads mom to show her appreication...i flipped my lid.
Appreication for what? For hurting my mother, for cussing at her, for wanting to
strangle her, for making mom cry, for getting mad at me for calling a
nurse, for staying completly drunk the whole time, for stealing moms
meds and doping up, for stealing moms jewelry...no i dont think so. I have
bit my tongue for long enough only out of respect for my mother.
I just smile because i know my mom is looking down right now...karma
is a beautiful thing. My main focus is my mother and my sister right

Lori d/o Shirley, age 49
1980 Cervical Cancer
May 2005 Breast Cancer **Survivor, cancer removed**
November 2005, started having seizures
December 2005 DX'd w/GMB IV
**None of the cancers are related**
January 2006, mom started radiation and chemotherapy
February 11, 2006, had some bleeding around tumor and the MRI showed a
great deal of growth.
February 13, 2006 mom was sent home on Hospice. Saddest day of my life.
Received her beautiful wings on 4/25/06 at 7:05 pm
post #2 of 29
Oh my goodness I'm so sorry.
You are so strong, tears are flooding down my face. I can't believe your Mum was snatched at 49. Thats just too young.
I know you've been so dedicated to her and I'm so glad you were there to share her final moments.
Your poem is beautiful. Stay strong and shout us whenever you need to. There will always be somebody here.
Your Mum is looking down on you now, and I bet she is so proud of you.
post #3 of 29
Your poem is a lovely tribute to your Mother, she must have been very proud of you.
post #4 of 29
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I had some words of wisdom to make it better, but can only offer my prayers and condolences. You have amazing strength that I am sure your mother is very proud of, looking down from Heaven.
post #5 of 29
I am very sorry for your loss. Your mom went through so much in her life and was very blessed to have you by her side. Now, she will never experience pain again and will be safe and happy looking down over you always.
post #6 of 29
Oh i'm so very sorry Your mums went through a lot but at least she's not suffering now, although 49 is no age at all

I'm sure right now she's looking down on you and if she could tell you she'd say that your got her hair and makeup perfect!

Don't let your aunt upset you, just you concentrate on your mum and know that she's happy and free from any pain and suffering

May she rest in peace...............
post #7 of 29
I'm so sorry for your loss. That's such a beautiful tribute to your mother. Both of you are in my thoughts and prayers.
post #8 of 29
I'm so sorry for your loss

The poem is so beautiful - you and your mother have gone thru so much, but now she is resting comfortably in peace -

Please know that my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time in your lives.
post #9 of 29
words escape me

saying i am sorry doenst seem enough

thankyou for sharing this with us, your poem is so beautiful. I know your mother would be so proud of you

with tears I send lots of love to your family from across the ocean
post #10 of 29
I'm very sorry for your loss. I am awestuck by your strength, I can only imagine what is going through your mind. I bet she really appreciated YOU doing her hair and makeup, and not just anybody I agree with rosiemac, put your aunt out of your mind and just stay focused on your healing. MEGA strength, healing and calming vibes coming your way {{{{{HUGS}}}}

May she rest in peace
post #11 of 29
I know your Mum is so proud of you! She will forever be a part of your life even if you can't see her - she'll live on in your heart and as part of your soul!

Your poem is just beautiful!

Thinking of you and your family with all my heart and love
post #12 of 29
I am sorry for your loss. You must have been such a comfort to her knowing how much she was loved.
post #13 of 29
My condolences to you and your family for the loss of your beloved Mother.
post #14 of 29
I"m so very very sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers to you and your family
post #15 of 29
I'm so sorry. My prayers for you and your family. Your poem is beautiful.
post #16 of 29
I am so sorry for your loss. You will see her again, when you get your wings. You must be a wonderful daughter and your Mom sounds wonderful too. So sorry...
post #17 of 29
Your post made me choke up and now im filled with tears

and lots of ***HUGS***
post #18 of 29
I'm very sorry to hear your very sad news, and my prayers are with you and your family.
post #19 of 29
Oh I am SO SO SO Sorry about the loss of your beloved mother. She is now painfree and in a beautiful place and watching over you.
post #20 of 29
My goodness, 49 seems all too young. I'm really sorry that you lost her so soon. I think you take after her, being strong - she survived so many things, as you will get through this eventually. May she spread her beautiful wings and rejoice that she is now at peace: no pain, no suffering, no cancer, no hospital, no bleeding, no meds....... I know that she is very very proud of you, for being able to cope, and even doing her makeup for her and being there for her at the moment she left this world.
Your poem is absolutely beautiful. YOU are a very strong person. Good for you, not letting your aunt's problems and disruption get in the way.

Sending you a ton of HUGS

And may your dear mother rest in peace
post #21 of 29
Oh my! I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thats one of the things EVER IMO is to lose a parent!! My dad earned his wings on Oct 5, 2004 and he was taken WAY too early as well( he was 49) I am going to be thinking of you! Just know shes in a much better place now. {{{HUGS}}}
post #22 of 29
Being 3 months away from 49 its always difficult to read of someone's passing being so close in age to me. I am sorry for your loss. What a beautiful poem in tribute to your mother.
post #23 of 29
Ohhhh, you bring shivers and tears to my eyes. God bless your mother. What a wonderful tribute you wrote for her. Losing a parent is very very very very hard, but look inside yourself and you'll find strength you didn't know you had. They would have wanted it this way for those of us that they leave behind. We're here if you need us!
post #24 of 29
Thread Starter 
Well these two days were the longest and hardest but i survived. The services were beautiful and its something i'm very proud because i worked very hard to make things perfect. My mother touched so many people in many different ways...she will be missed dearly by MANY people.

Thank you to every one for the outstanding support you have given me.....now its just one day at a time....i know my mother is watching over me...gives me comfort.
post #25 of 29
I am so very sorry that your Mom is gone! Your poem was just beautiful...it brought me to tears! Your Mom, my Mom, and Catlover's Dad are all at peace now. We will continue to miss them, but are lucky to have had such wonderful loving parents.

Deepest condolences to you. You were such a comfort to her in her last months...part of you should feel very proud right now!
post #26 of 29
I am so sorry for your loss you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!
post #27 of 29
I am so sorry to hear the sad news. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
post #28 of 29
im so sorry that you have lost your mom and i would like to send you lots of love and
post #29 of 29
I´m so sorry for your loss.......My deep condolences...
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