Terrible News

So sorry!! I am sending {{{{HUGS}}}} to you!! Please know that those babies are not suffering now. *hugs*

I am so sorry. Don't be angry at Yen, or yourself. I don't think there is anything you could have done that would have changed the outcome.

If I were to be angry at anyone it would be the vet, who should have been more aggressive in saving them in the first place, in my opinion. But now you have to believe that what happened was meant to be, and for the best.

Mother cats will neglect kittens that have something congenitally wrong with them. That's mother nature's way of promulgating the species. She did the right thing as a cat. We sometimes keep animals and people alive long after their bodies need to do it's natural thing, and all it causes is suffering. It's very possible that if you had stepped in more and saved them, you might have saved them for a life of more pain and sickness and problems and that could have been a lot worse. Mother cats instinctively know when something is not right from the outset,

I am so sorry and feel for you. At least they were safe and loved for the short time they graced your life.

Originally Posted by IloveSiamese

I lost both my babies!!!!!!!! I took them both to the vet and they said her prognosis was poor and that she was suffering and that it would be best if I put her down. I found out my little girls were not girls, but little boys. HMmM I thought I could tell the diff. So I agreed to put Hitomi down because I didn't want her to suffer anymore. I have never agreed to putting animals down and I feel sorta dirty now. My heart is completely broken.

RIP YUKI AND HITOMI

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Yah the same thing happened to me. I took the first 2 babies in and they said it was best to put them down. No tube feeding nothing...just put them down and don't plan on the others to live when they arrived. I sometimes wish vets were a little more caring.

I've really been thinking for the last couple of hours about what happened. I think this was meant to be and thats what I have to believe because it happened so quickly. I think that because I am student, I can foster a pregnant queen through the summer. Perhaps this is what someone from up above is trying to tell me. I'll survive, but the next couple of days are going to be ruff with out those babies here!

Oh, that is so terribly sad! However, I must say that since they were nursing well yesterday, I would have left them with their Momma, too. I still think that was probably they're best chance. And you did see the vet about their colds. Unfortunately, sometimes illnesses do worsen over time, and it can be too much for a tiny baby!

Anger is part of grief, too. Both correctly focused and incorrectly focused anger. So give yourself some time to heal from this devastating loss.

The TCS board has been very sad lately...but heaven has some new, innocent angels! And each baby was loved and wanted...that is more than some kitties can say who lived for years!

Hugs to IloveSiamese and SolarityBengals!

I would of also because they say mother;s milk is best. They where eating.

Yeni will need you too, because she'll probably miss her babies and be looking for them. You can help comfort each other.

I think it's a wonderful plan to help another who needs it!

And if anything good is to come of this, you have learned from the experience and have more to offer in the future. And that is a good thing.

Originally Posted by IloveSiamese

I'm so upset I can't even think straight. I feel angry towards Yen for not helping me try to save these babies and I'm also angry with my self for not doing more.

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You shouldn't be angry with yourself, there must not have been any more you could do. You took them the the vets when you noticed they had colds, you tried supplementing, you tried to confine them and keep them warm. You did every thing you could. Don't feel bad about your decision you made either. It is our job as owners to protect and care for our beloved pets, even if it's is helping them to get out of their suffering little bodies, after all the love and companionship they have given it's the humane thing to do for them. It is hard to see them go but, it's harder to watch them suffer.
Yen may have known her kittens were suffering and was in cats own way did what she could to help them, end their suffering.
Also I had asked how Yen was earlier, I hadn't meant by loosing her kittens, I meant health. Since the kittens had colds she might get it too, and if her immune is down from nursing kittens, she could get weak very quickly too. I know you think you are angry with her for not taking care of the kittens, but if she was to get weak too, it could be devistating.
I am sorry for your loss. I know you loved them and will miss them.

oh my, I am so so very sorry you had to do that and you are very brave and very strong person you must have really loved them to let them rest and not suffer my heart goes out to you and you did the right thing to let him go...take care of you!! Dont feel dirty, for they are at peace and so should you be, to love in times of pain and love enough to let go................

Yen appears to be doing fine. she eats like a cow lol but I still have an appointment for her to get altered once she has stoped lactating and to get a physical to see what shots she's had and such. I don't know too much of her history so I thought this would be best.

She must have known that I was completely depressed last night. like I got home from school at 7(i didn't want to come home alone) and went straight to sleep. I was/am emotionally drained as well as physically tired so I just had to get some sleep(even though I have a huge paper due tomorrow).
Anyways Yen came to me and she slept on my tummy or beside me all night and when I got up to use the bathroom or what ever she followed me and waited for me, like she was keeping an eye out to protect me. It helped so much and it showed that maybe she's feeling the same way I was but knows why it all had to happen.

I did the same. I think I slept about 12 hours Saturday night when I finally crashed. Meeka won't leave my side. She's not a lap cat but she has to be sleeping with me or on me. This morning was the first time I heard my cat crying when I left for work. She's still nesting and everything, just don't think she knows whats going on.

I'm so heart broken for you. All I can offer is my belief that you did the right thing to not let poor little Hitomi suffer. That is the ultimate gift, and the most difficult to give. I applaud your courage and hope that if any of My Buddha's kittens get sick, I can be as strong.

Poor Meeka. Just give her lots of love am sure she is heart broken. She needs to have her babies and doesn't know what happened

Did Yen know she lost her babies? As difficult as this sound I was told to let mom actually reject the one that didn't make it so they know its gone . I didn't do that and she has no clue. I think Meeka is taking it better than me though....

I am sorry for you and solarity, as well as any one and every one else who has lost kittens or litters. I have never been so scared for my pregnant cat as
I am right now! I am terrified some thing bad is going to happen, not that there are any signs of trouble or any thing like that, but it seems to be loose a litter month on TCS forums
If I was to loose my kittens I would be so sad, but if some thing was to happen to my queen as well I would be so devastated! I hope every one else with pregnant cats and new kittens have easy smooth deliveries and upbringings. Luck to all.

That is why they say being a breeder isn't for everyone. It is sad and not everyone has the tummy or the heart. Am not sure I could either.

Originally Posted by SolarityBengals

I did the same. I think I slept about 12 hours Saturday night when I finally crashed. Meeka won't leave my side. She's not a lap cat but she has to be sleeping with me or on me. This morning was the first time I heard my cat crying when I left for work. She's still nesting and everything, just don't think she knows whats going on.

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I don't know to be honest. I think she rejected them long ago , like last weekend and they only made it as long as they did because I was trying to save them, but I couldn't afford to have the bodies cremated(pardon my spelling) and buy and urn and such. They were cremated but the vet kept them and they do what ever they do with dead kittens. That was the hardest part. I feel like I didn't get closure because they rushed them off as soon as I got there and that was the last I saw of them.
Today was a hard day. I kept thinking of them. Sometimes I think I have a stronger connection with animals then I do people.

Originally Posted by IloveSiamese

I don't know to be honest. I think she rejected them long ago , like last weekend and they only made it as long as they did because I was trying to save them, but I couldn't afford to have the bodies cremated(pardon my spelling) and buy and urn and such. They were cremated but the vet kept them and they do what ever they do with dead kittens. That was the hardest part. I feel like I didn't get closure because they rushed them off as soon as I got there and that was the last I saw of them.
Today was a hard day. I kept thinking of them. Sometimes I think I have a stronger connection with animals then I do people.

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I wonder why you did not get to say goodbye. Was that your choose.

Originally Posted by IloveSiamese

I don't know to be honest. I think she rejected them long ago , like last weekend and they only made it as long as they did because I was trying to save them, but I couldn't afford to have the bodies cremated(pardon my spelling) and buy and urn and such. They were cremated but the vet kept them and they do what ever they do with dead kittens. That was the hardest part. I feel like I didn't get closure because they rushed them off as soon as I got there and that was the last I saw of them.
Today was a hard day. I kept thinking of them. Sometimes I think I have a stronger connection with animals then I do people.

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I'm so sorry....one thing you may want to do (when you have mom spayed) is to ask your local humane society about fostering a mom with young kittens. You would make an awesome foster mom.

Katie

Originally Posted by TNR1

I'm so sorry....one thing you may want to do (when you have mom spayed) is to ask your local humane society about fostering a mom with young kittens. You would make an awesome foster mom.

Katie

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I agree there needs to be more animal lovers like you.