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post #31 of 35
I think everyone has felt the same way as you at some point. Its part of growing up. Yeah, it sucks to hear that, but there is a reason people keep saying it.. its true.

I burned bridges with my family and pretty much disappeared into another state. I got myself into quite a nasty situation. I was asked to leave my college and ended up living in a slum with 4 other girls in my same situation. I developed a serious drug habit and eventually had to go crawling back to my family and beg them to help me. Luckily, they did.

Please remember that no matter what, your family is your family forever, no matter how difficult it may seem to be around them.

Running away is an option, but not a good one, and it will not go as smoothly as it seems.
post #32 of 35
The most valuable piece of advice I was ever given as a teenager was by my older brother, who said, `Sare, if you expect Mum and Dad to treat you like an adult, you've got to start acting like one. It's not all about take, take, take. Start giving a little, compromise here and there, and you'll be surprised at how quickly they come to the party. You're not going to agree on everything, you're a teenager, you're SUPPOSED to argue with your parents. But meet them halfway and they'll be there waiting for you.'.

Never a truer word spoken, and it changed my life.

At 18, you are still young enough to be overwhelmed by many of the things that happen to you in your life, but you are certainly old enough to take responsibility for your situation and change it if you don't like it. You are trying to do that, I think, by considering moving to Canada. However, are you sure it's not just running away and starting fresh?

If you want to do that, do it in your own country, where things will be MUCH easier. If your parents are harsh with you, move out of home. You're old enough, and you clearly want to, so why not do it? Just why does it have to be to Canada? And you haven't given us a reason for possibly being `kicked out' of school. It's not something that you have to share with anyone, of course, but schools don't just go around kicking people out willy nilly - you must have done something to deserve it.

If that's the case, a fresh start sounds like a great idea, I just wouldn't move to a different country to do it.

If your school does not expel you, which I hope they don't, pull your head in, stick it out, finish it and then it's DONE, and you can make all of your life decisions after that. Finishing school should be your aim, here, and another few months out of your life to do so, with a small change in your perspective, may make all the difference to your life.
post #33 of 35
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Originally Posted by journey
Well actually - I wasn't asking to be "annoying". I was going to ask you if you planned on going to university/college after school, or taking a break, or going traveling. And no you don't have to decide on the career you want for the rest of your life until you die right now - I was asking to see if you had any ideas that might have influence on your decision to move somewhere.

I have seen that you have a tendency to do the same things in all your posts. you ask us for advice, but then if we don't tell you what you want to hear, you basically just say "well, this is what i'm doing and that's that". It's like, then why did you bother asking in the first place? I don't get it. You have a lot of people here who are older than you and who are giving you some straight-up advice for your best interests.

there is a saying - don't ask the question if you don't want to hear the answer.

Oh no you weren't being annoying is what I meant by that is the people who ask me that everyday and expect to hear something different as oppose to "I don't know yet."
post #34 of 35
Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl
Oh no you weren't being annoying is what I meant by that is the people who ask me that everyday and expect to hear something different as oppose to "I don't know yet."

The best advice I can give you is this............

Drop out of High school and get your GED....(most jobs and colleges accept GED like diplomas...I know I have one)..Because if you are 18 And a JR in highschool, And are getting kicked out....lets not beat around the bush....you sone want to be there so why fight it.....

Get a job......Work as many hours as you can...Save your money.....If you dont like the situation at home...Good dont be there and make money while you do it.....

Move out.........Learn to support yourself...Take care of yourself.....And if after a year or two of being on your own, and taking care of yourself adequetly then 1 of 3 things may happen.....
1. the relalationship between you and your mom may improve, and you may not want to leave her...

2. You decide you want to go to Canada...However you will now have the basic skills to survive on your own if things go south...

or 3....and I hope this is how it goes....From working so hard, and realizing its a hard Job being an adult...You will Grow up mentally...buckle down...Attend a community college or higher and make a good life for yourself........

LIVING is not easy.......and no one will ever say it is......I know it may be hard now......but w/ all the options that are open to you, it could be a lot worse of a situation........for example...Being in a forign country w/ no family, no friends, no home, and no money would definitly be one of those situtation......

Good Luck to you...I may sound harsh...but I do want the best for you....
post #35 of 35
those are some great points Nebula11- especially about the working a lot to get out of the house, I did that too, with my parents and my ex-husband
Also good idea about the GED thing- if you don't do that well in school and don't like it either, don't force it.

My only addition to the great avice that others have given is that I have the type of mother that needs to try to control every aspect of my life, and as soon as I moved out and got out from under her thumb, our relationship improved greatly. I love my mom immensely, but things just go alot smoother when she is on the outside looking in, if ya get my drift.
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