Originally Posted by taupegorilla22
I've been dating this fellow for two years now. He is a great person when he is sober, but when he is drunk he is loud, obnoxious, and pretty much the biggest jerk i've ever known. To date, he's told me that he desnt need me at least 10 times, and that he'd be better off without me. When he has friends over it is worse. He sneers at me when he thinks I am not looking, and drinks even more than usual, glancing at me and stating that he NEEDS to drink more. I love him when he is sober, but have grown to despise him when he is drunk. I'd tell him that, but he'd just get drunk and decide to play the "make gf feel like **** for fun" game and mock me when I start crying. I have nowhere to go, and he knows this, which is why I think he does it so much in the first place. What should I do?
It sounds as though you are living together, not just dating so the first thing is that anything you decide to do you'll have to do when he isn't home. He's wrong about one thing though - you'd be better off WITHOUT HIM. That love you feel for him will soon enough go away after a few more years of this abuse I can assure you. If he has so little respect for you now, can you imagine how much worse it is going to get. Right now it is verbal abuse, I can honestly see it becoming much worse and turn into physical abuse and yes, he'll always be sorry when he sobers up.
I have fortunately never had to deal with this, but I've known others who have and you have been given good advice. It will take a lot of bravery on your part to take the first step, but you really do need to get out - go to a shelter where they will help you start over, stay with a friend or family (although from the sounds of it you don't have anyone to go to). A shelter will help you find work and a place to live and a chance to get out from under this big dark cloud he has you under.
Thoughts and prayers to you that you will be strong enough to help yourself now before it gets any worse.