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post #1 of 46
1/27/02 at 12:48am
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Some of you will have seen my posts on another thread yesterday, and so will know that Snuffly was very sick. I'm afraid that she didn't make it through the night.

Our house is empty now. Six months ago we had two happy, healthy cats. Now they are both gone.

I can't say any more now. The screen is all blurry. I'll come back later.
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post #2 of 46
1/27/02 at 4:58am
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry. I read your posts yesterday about your kitty being sick and I was shocked to see this thread this morning. Its so hard, I know. I lost my 5 month old kitten a month ago, and it was heart wrenching.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Just think, she is at the rainbow bridge now and is happy and playing with my little Simon.
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post #3 of 46
1/27/02 at 7:06am
Brian - please accept my condolences in your losses. Time is our true friend in these cases. Please take care of yourself.........
We are here if you need to talk.
Deb M.
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post #4 of 46
1/27/02 at 10:35am
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Thank you so much. We have been out all day walking in the rain - a really dreary English winter day. We are home again now, and the house is so cold and empty - the first time in 16 years there has been no furry girl.

I can hardly bear to think of how I found her this morning, cold and stiff. She was alone, while we slept just a few yards away. But she ate a huge meal just before bed time, and we really thought that was a good sign.

If anyone's interested, I've tried to attach a picture of Snuffly. I hope I've done it right. Goodbye, best girl.
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post #5 of 46
1/27/02 at 11:22am
Brian - Snuffly looks like she as a perfect little fur ball. Thank you for giving us a pic to look at of her. I know how much you love her and how she is missed. The walk in the rain probably masked some of your tears...but read the sticky at the top of this forum. It will give you a good cry, but your heart will feel full after reading it.
You remian in my thoughts.
Snuffly the Angel....
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post #6 of 46
1/27/02 at 2:19pm
BrianC
I am so very sorry for your loss of both Muffy and Snuffy within such a short period. Time will help heal the pain of these losses, and you will be left with your wonderful happy memories

There are now two very special little angels up in Rainbow Bridge who are keeping watch over you and your family.
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post #7 of 46
1/27/02 at 3:49pm
Brian,
I am so sorry. I can truthfully say I really know what it is like, that empty house. We had Max for 10 years and the house is very empty now.How can a 10-lb animal fill up a 3-story house? It will hurt so bad for a while. It's been two weeks for me and it still hurts.And the hurt is like no other. This group has been wonderful in their sympathy and care.
God bless you. Remember that they are in His arms, even though you would rather they be back in yours.
Ann
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post #8 of 46
1/27/02 at 11:09pm
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Thank you all so much. It's extraordinary how I stumbled onto this group just a few hours before my, and Snuffly's, time of need. I can tell that most people I know, though they try to sympathise, don't really understand how beautiful and special my girls were, how painful it is to think of their suffering, and how hard it is to let them go. But here, everyone understands perfectly.

It was easier when Muffy (picture attached) left us last August. Because she was so old, had been with us for so long, and was so quiet and dignified, we all knew, her included, that she had given everything she could and it was time to move on. Also, of course, there was Snuffly to think of and care for. Now, though, there is just a huge, empty hole, and the dread that Snuffly went away in fear and pain.

I saw an earlier thread started by a tough old Army officer who was devastated at the loss of his little pal. If you're listening, big fella, believe me you're not alone. I may never have been an Army officer, but I'm a big guy in my forties who rides motorcycles, climbs mountains and stuff like that. I've had loss and pain in my life before, but I never would have believed that it was possible, as an adult, to feel as bad about the loss of anyone as I do right now.

Thank you all so much for listening.
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post #9 of 46
1/28/02 at 2:22pm
Oh Brian, I am so, so sorry. Muffy looks just like Norty who passed this year! She is so very beautiful as was Snuffy. I know it is like a pain like no other. The weeks after Norty passes were the worst! Getting a new kitten helped fill the house with love, but I still miss Norty terribly. Your kitties I can tell were very well loved!! That's all we can do, really. :angel2: Your kitties are in a happy place now and completely healthy. I really believe that! I wish I could give you a big hug. Please consider giving a new kitten a home. It did wonders for me and my husband! I am so sorry again. My heart hurts for your loss!
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post #10 of 46
1/29/02 at 12:25am
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Thank you so much for that Jacquie.

We're going to go on a trip to spend a little time with some relations overseas. When we come back, we'll decide about getting some more cats. No-one can replace Muffy and Snuffly, but there are some animal rescue centres near our home (Muffy came from one of them), and I know there are lots of cats desperately needing someone to care for them.
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post #11 of 46
1/29/02 at 4:15am
Brian - you are a good man with a great heart. You take care and visit us often!
Deb m.
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post #12 of 46
1/29/02 at 4:20am
BrainC, make sure when you get your new kitty you will return to see us here at TCS!!!! We love having you around!!
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post #13 of 46
1/29/02 at 3:38pm
Oh Brian, I just read this thread about Snuffly, and I am SO sorry! I have tears in my eyes after reading this. Your Snuffly was a beautiful beautiful cat, and so was Muffy, who looked alot like my cat Merlin.
I wish I could say something to ease your pain, but I know I can't.
I keep having this country song running through my head, and I don't even know the name of it or who sings it, but it says, How can I help you to say goodbye...and something about how time will ease the pain....it is beautiful. I hope you will come back and visit us after your trip and let us know how you and your family are doing.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss, but just know that there is a special place in heaven for beloved pets, so you will see her again someday, I am sure.
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post #14 of 46
1/30/02 at 11:26am
Just seeing how you are - I can't imagine 2 in six months. I am so sorry. Just keep in touch. Let us know if you get another kidden. I posted a poem called Room in Your Heart (to ann and everyone, etc...)- It makes you cry but it's very true. I lost my Best Bud Romeo to heart disease (unbenonst to me until the day I had to have him put to sleep thank Goodness) three weeks ago - he was my love - big 15 pound black blob of fur that was my best friend, next to his buddy Jake (and my horse Dude - I can't leave him out!). I had him for 11 years. It SUCKS. I think its worse than losing a person sometimes - because the bond is so different. Man, I wish I knew more guys like you - we need alot more caring, compasionate men in this world!!! Good luck and just remember they are in a better place.

BTW - They were absoulutely beautiful -
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post #15 of 46
1/31/02 at 2:36am
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My goodness, I can't believe how wonderful you all are! So many people in pain over their own lost ones, and yet you come here day after day to help others! Thank you a thousand times - it helps so much to know that there are folks who really understand.

My thoughts are with you, and with Romeo, and Norty, and Max, and Simon, and all the other lost friends, as well as with Merlin and all the other furballs who, I pray, will purring away for years to come.

It'll be a little time before we go away - lots to arrange - so I'll keep dropping by if that's OK with you all.

ThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyou!!!
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post #16 of 46
1/31/02 at 2:38am
Brian - drop by any old time - someone is always up and around here!
Deb
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post #17 of 46
1/31/02 at 6:57am
It's more than ok, please keep checking in with us, I think it will make you feel better. I found this site when Norty got sick and when Norty passed in July, the support on this site was tremendous and I have been writing ever since trying to help others and also to continue getting support for myself.

We got a kitten after Norty passed, Jinxy, which I have told you about, and even though I was devestated about Norty, Jinxy took up a lot of my time because he needed me. Lately I have become increasingly sad about Norty, crying every day and thinking about him constantly. I think I am having a delayed reaction because I could not fully deal with his death at the time. I know how hard it can be. Giving another cat a home will definitely make you feel better and I look forward to hearing about him or her when it happens. I had a lot of questions and some problems when I first got Jinxy because it had been a long time since I'd had a kitten and he was also a little sickly when we got him. This site helped me so much and continues to help me. He is doing fine, by the way.

I hope today is better than yesterday. :daisy:
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post #18 of 46
2/1/02 at 9:15am
Brian, I am with you with all my heart...

Anne-Claire
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post #19 of 46
2/1/02 at 9:43am
Brian, the world does need more men like you, that can love little kitties and grieve when they go to the bridge.

I know how bad you hurt, that is the unfortunate price we eventually have to pay for loving these little furballs so hard.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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post #20 of 46
2/1/02 at 4:08pm
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Originally posted by BrianC


It'll be a little time before we go away - lots to arrange - so I'll keep dropping by if that's OK with you all.

ThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyouThankyou!!! [/b]
Of course it is okay!!!! We want you to drop in and visit, anytime you want to!!! We are just glad we could be here for you during this hard time, and I hope you will visit us often.
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post #21 of 46
2/1/02 at 4:10pm
And Cooie, you are right....the world does need more men who are as compassionate as Brian. It is good to know there are such men in the world.
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post #22 of 46
2/1/02 at 6:42pm
Brian-
When my husband and I knew that we would soon have to put Max down, he was totally devastated. He just couldn't stop sobbing every time he held him. About a week before the actual day, he started making a beautiful oak coffin for him. It was a piece of art-joined and sanded and stained. And when he picked him up for the vet, all he could say was " I feel like Judas". He's the one hesitating on getting another one soon. He's convinced another won't be as wonderful as Max. He really loved that cat. I don't consider him a "tough-guy" type but I don't usually see him loose it like that.So there are a lot of guys who love their cats; you just don't often hear about it.
Ann
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post #23 of 46
2/1/02 at 9:07pm
OMG, Ann, I can't believe your husband actually made a little casket for your little furbaby. I haven't read anything so touching in ages. Bless his "real-manly" heart.

You need to convince him that there are way too many homeless cats out there who need the tenderness and compassion only that type of person can give.
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post #24 of 46
2/2/02 at 6:08am
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What wonderful warm posts! Thank you again!

Ann, seeing how much your husband loved Max, I'm sure it can only be a matter of time before he comes around to wanting another. I'm sure that, if you love one cat, you can't help loving them all!
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post #25 of 46
2/2/02 at 8:04am
Anne, that is just so sweet that your husband made Max a casket...what a great guy he is!
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post #26 of 46
2/2/02 at 8:30am
Brian-
Yes,we will get another cat. But like you, I'll be making some trips and will wait till I get back.
Ann
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post #27 of 46
2/4/02 at 9:52am
My husband is a very manly guy as well and I had never seen him cry. But when Norty passed, he was openly sobbing his eyes out. We bought a little wooden chest for Norty's ashes that is really pretty and keep it in our bedroom. I was surprised that he would get another kitty because he too was convinced that there would never be another as great as Norty. Well, he was right about that. There never will be, but that's ok, Jinxy has his own unique and sweet qualities but would never and could never replace Norty. He was the best!!!!!
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post #28 of 46
2/6/02 at 8:12am
:angel2:
Brian, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are definitely with you. I know how it feels to lose someone so close to you. But I have not been in the position where I have lost everyone. I have 3 other cats. So I could only imagine what it must be like for you. I hope that you find some comfort in knowing that they are in a better place. They are probably playing with my little Forrest and all of the other wonderful cats in "Kitty Heaven". And someday we ourselves, will meet them again...at the bridge. And if they always remain in your heart, they are with you always.

Forrest's Mommy
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post #29 of 46
2/9/02 at 5:28am
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Thank you so much for that, Stephie.

I've just read Forrest's story, and I am so sorry. It reminded me so much of Snuffly - how she was sick for a while, then declined very quickly over a couple of days, and then, unbelievably, was gone.

You're so right about this place: mostly I don't tell acquaintances about Snuffly or Muffy, because you can see that people often are thinking "well at least it was only a cat". They just don't understand - but here everyone understands and are so, so kind.

I've not been here for a few days because I've been working very hard. I don't think it helps really: it takes my mind off of my girls during the day, but when I get home in the evenings, I feel like I've betrayed them by putting them out of my thoughts for a while. As you said about Forrest, we have to face it. It's the only way to be true to ourselves and to our lost friends.

Thinking of you,
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post #30 of 46
2/9/02 at 7:38pm
I know how you feel Brian. I recently got a new job...and it seems no matter how long you work, it will still never take your mind off of it. We lost Forrest on Dec.28th, and I find myself telling people at work about how wonderful he was. And they look at me kind of funny. But you know what, if they don't understand, I don't care. It makes me feel better to let anyone and everyone know how wonderful he was. So it does make me feel good to come here and hear from other people. Not that I want to hear bad news, but like myself, I like knowing that there are others out there that understand me.

So Brian, things will only get better. You won't forget, but you'll learn how to deal with it. The way you should and the way your pet would want you to. That's what good times were made for...you to remember them always.

Take care Brian!

Forrest's Mommy
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