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The second part of the Love Tale series questions, to find out more about the ideas people have about love or what constitutes love.
If someone come up to you and tells you that the reason for staying with the significant other is because of money, most if not all would not think too highly of the person or the relationship in question. BUT is money as a factor in a relationship always bad, or is it bad only if it is excessive.
1) A jobless bum
If your friend told you the date was someone who is jobless and quite broke and is a stone throw away from being a hobo, most would have no trouble telling the friend that it is ok not to carry on dating the person.
2) Minimum Income (ie: Person should be Rich): $200,000
If it is ok not to date a jobless bum then what about not dating a person unless they make at least $200,000 a year. The income is a mere condition, it does not mean she will date any person who makes $200,000. It is a mere condition just as the person must be a male for the heterosexual female but it does not mean she will date any guy. So if all her other reasons for dating the guy is legimate, like the guy treats her nice, kind, understaing, supportive, etc is it still wrong?
Truth:
What would your advice be if the girl were to go up to the guy and told him upfront that one of her conditions is that her boyfriend must make at least $200,000. Assuming that other than that the guy likes the girl a lot and they BOTH enjoy each other's company. The guy turns to you and ask for YOUR advice. Would the fact that the girl is loyal make a difference?
Loyalty:
Let us assume that the girl will not switch to a richer guy. But we do not know whether the person would carry on in the relationship if the money is gone because that is in the future and there is no time machine.
[Note: I may have use gender terms but that is only because I have trouble phrasing it in a clear neutral manner. Switch accordingly.]
If someone come up to you and tells you that the reason for staying with the significant other is because of money, most if not all would not think too highly of the person or the relationship in question. BUT is money as a factor in a relationship always bad, or is it bad only if it is excessive.
1) A jobless bum
If your friend told you the date was someone who is jobless and quite broke and is a stone throw away from being a hobo, most would have no trouble telling the friend that it is ok not to carry on dating the person.
2) Minimum Income (ie: Person should be Rich): $200,000
If it is ok not to date a jobless bum then what about not dating a person unless they make at least $200,000 a year. The income is a mere condition, it does not mean she will date any person who makes $200,000. It is a mere condition just as the person must be a male for the heterosexual female but it does not mean she will date any guy. So if all her other reasons for dating the guy is legimate, like the guy treats her nice, kind, understaing, supportive, etc is it still wrong?
Truth:
What would your advice be if the girl were to go up to the guy and told him upfront that one of her conditions is that her boyfriend must make at least $200,000. Assuming that other than that the guy likes the girl a lot and they BOTH enjoy each other's company. The guy turns to you and ask for YOUR advice. Would the fact that the girl is loyal make a difference?
Loyalty:
Let us assume that the girl will not switch to a richer guy. But we do not know whether the person would carry on in the relationship if the money is gone because that is in the future and there is no time machine.
[Note: I may have use gender terms but that is only because I have trouble phrasing it in a clear neutral manner. Switch accordingly.]