Thanks. I am mad. Hes just earned himself a summer of...going to horse shows! and i am gonna go to the most boring ones i can think of.Originally Posted by evnshawn
Wow. I'd be mad. Really mad. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.
thanks for the vibes i really need them. Just kinda frusterated right now. I love him to bits.but GRROriginally Posted by eatrawfish
I'd be mad too. That sort of thing happens to me w/ my bf a fair amount, but not for the Most Important things. I have no good advice but *sends supportive vibes*
Thanks. Hes gonna get it..one way or another. I think Loki can have his bed spot tonight.Originally Posted by sunnicat
Aw, I'm sorry. In my experience, we (the women) are usually the supportive force in a relationship. Usually, we handle it well. Sometimes, like now, you just want to scream because it seems so unfair. I don't have any words to make it better....just sending "I understand" vibes your way. Good luck.
Oh dont worry I will. hes gonna earn himself things worsew than a cat show..yes yesOriginally Posted by RoseHawke
Sounds like it's time to lay down the law ...
Thanks. Well I already asked my mom if she would go. and she said yes. She of course says not to be mad at steve. Which tough I am gonna be. lol she thinks steve is the goose that laid the golden egg. and dont get me wrong I love him. But sometimes i wanna smack him LOLOriginally Posted by valanhb
Oh boy, do I understand where you're coming from!! I finally found that I just plain had to do what I wanted to do, regardless of what he wanted to do. Yup, it's sometimes not as fun as if he went with, but sometimes it's better that he's not there. Mine is a drama queen and if he's not happy then by god I can't be happy either, so it's better when he stays home for my shooting stuff (it bored him to tears, and he keeps saying that he doesn't know anyone there...well, if he wouldn't sit in the car and play on the laptop he might get to know someone!). You might find the same thing with the cat show - being there alone instead of coddling him might be good for you. Gives you a chance to meet more cat people, and make contacts with Persian Breeders in your area who you might not meet and get to know otherwise.Don't let Steve's selfish streak ruin the things that YOU enjoy!
Thanks. Nope i actually dont have to many friends who are still in this area. bummer huh? But my mom said she would go. That should be interesting LOL..she can be a pain in the booty sometimes. but she is good at holding a cat..so LOLOriginally Posted by HopeHacker
Oh, I'd go to the show if I were you. Go there, have a good time, meet other breeders, and get to know the 'ins" and "outs" of the cat breeding world. You must have a friend who could go with you, don't you? If I lived in your area, I'd go with you and give you a hand with the kitties. I wouldn't let him stop you from doing your thing, again. Go.
He doesnt mind mucking. Big schmuck. He just gets it done with. he actually likes it more than the litter boxes..weirdo! LOL well we talked a little about it tonight. and he understands why i am so upset. Hes getting used to all this critter stuff, he never knew that you could do all these things with animals. He thought you just had pets, Ha! hehe.Originally Posted by Beckiboo
Well, in Steve's defense, if that home pregnancy test was right, you may find yourself being more emotional than usual! So maybe he is used to you giving in to him and letting his "stuff" be more important than your "stuff", but suddenly you are not taking it any more. He may need a little time to adjust!
I'm glad your Mom can go with you to the cat show. You and Steve need to sit down and talk this through. If he is going to claim he "must" do band engagements to build the band, then he has to remember to take days off work to go to horse shows with you. He needs to be fair.
Good luck getting through this. I'm sure you will work it out. How about instead of him going to hockey games, he gets to muck stalls (since he is already on litterbox duty)! LOL!
I totally agree and couldn't have said it better, I'm sending good vibes your way.Originally Posted by ugaimes
Regardless of how a possible pregnancy is playing your emotions, you have a right to be supported in this relationship!
Good relationships are reciprocal- you give a little, he gives a little, etc. etc. There should be an equal balance of power and control. He really needs to make you and your relationship more of a priority, the way you do.
Been there, done that and I know how hard this is for you right now.
We had a long talk last night. when he got home from work. I think he understands where i am coming from a little better now. He does agree that he doesnt spend as much time with me on my interests as i do with him on his. But he also agreed thats kinda "a man thing" we as women do feel the need to always be there.Originally Posted by ugaimes
Regardless of how a possible pregnancy is playing your emotions, you have a right to be supported in this relationship!
Good relationships are reciprocal- you give a little, he gives a little, etc. etc. There should be an equal balance of power and control. He really needs to make you and your relationship more of a priority, the way you do.
Been there, done that and I know how hard this is for you right now.