Hi all, first time poster here, but I've been lurking for quite a while.
I adopted my cat from a shelter about 3 months ago. I decided she could use a companion cause she seems bored at times, and I'd like another cat that's more interested in lap time and cuddling during the day. First cat is Gloria, a 3year old female. (Spayed)
So, I adopted a cat 2 days ago from a girl who got her from a friend and can't keep her because she's never home. (2 year old spayed female)
Brought her home, set her up in her own room. She started exploring a bit, and came over to me to rub on me and head-butt me. She was very sweet. I left the room to get some towels to lay on the couch and chair in that room so I could later bring them to Gloria. I also brought up a feather toy. When I came back up, she was still sweet and happy, but not for long. Once she smelled Gloria's scent on the toy, she started hissing and growling pretty aggressively. Ok, that's to be expected, I just left her alone for a while.
Problem is, it's 2 days later now, and she isn't any better. If I go in her room, and Gloria is sitting outside her door, or gloria's scent is on my clothes, she will hiss and growl at me. She won't come to me if I sit away from her, and I won't try to pet her while she's in that mood. (I value my skin, thanks.
) Sometimes I can go in, and she seems happy, meowing little tiny hi-pitched meows. (But won't usually come to me or rub/head-butt me.) I let her smell me, and if she doesn't hiss/growl, I pet her a little. It doesn't take long before something sets her off again, and she starts hissing/growling. (Usually Gloria sitting outside the room.)
They haven't really even seen each other yet, this is just from scent. (Gloria hasn't hissed/growled once, even when I put the towels with new cats scent on her chair.)
Today I put new cat in her carrier, and brought her downstairs so they could meet without being able to hurt each other. New cat of course did lots of hissing/growling, even before Gloria really got close. (She won't go within 2 feet of the carrier, and walked VERY slowly up to it.)
I'm concerned that if new cat is this stressed out over Gloria, that I should probably give her back, and suggest she not live with another cat. I would expect Gloria, as the resident cat to be the stressed one.
Does this just need lots more time? If the best I can hope for is for the 2 of them to simply tolerate each other, and not be friends, I'd rather find a 2nd cat that's a better match.
I really love Gloria, and want her to be happy. She's a sweet cat, but has no interest in being picked up or held for more than a few seconds, and isn't much into laps. She will sleep on/next to me most nights, and occasionally on the couch for a nap. I love that I can trust her 100% to never nip/bite/scratch me, no matter how much I pet her/touch her.
Any comments are welcome.
I adopted my cat from a shelter about 3 months ago. I decided she could use a companion cause she seems bored at times, and I'd like another cat that's more interested in lap time and cuddling during the day. First cat is Gloria, a 3year old female. (Spayed)
So, I adopted a cat 2 days ago from a girl who got her from a friend and can't keep her because she's never home. (2 year old spayed female)
Brought her home, set her up in her own room. She started exploring a bit, and came over to me to rub on me and head-butt me. She was very sweet. I left the room to get some towels to lay on the couch and chair in that room so I could later bring them to Gloria. I also brought up a feather toy. When I came back up, she was still sweet and happy, but not for long. Once she smelled Gloria's scent on the toy, she started hissing and growling pretty aggressively. Ok, that's to be expected, I just left her alone for a while.
Problem is, it's 2 days later now, and she isn't any better. If I go in her room, and Gloria is sitting outside her door, or gloria's scent is on my clothes, she will hiss and growl at me. She won't come to me if I sit away from her, and I won't try to pet her while she's in that mood. (I value my skin, thanks.
They haven't really even seen each other yet, this is just from scent. (Gloria hasn't hissed/growled once, even when I put the towels with new cats scent on her chair.)
Today I put new cat in her carrier, and brought her downstairs so they could meet without being able to hurt each other. New cat of course did lots of hissing/growling, even before Gloria really got close. (She won't go within 2 feet of the carrier, and walked VERY slowly up to it.)
I'm concerned that if new cat is this stressed out over Gloria, that I should probably give her back, and suggest she not live with another cat. I would expect Gloria, as the resident cat to be the stressed one.
Does this just need lots more time? If the best I can hope for is for the 2 of them to simply tolerate each other, and not be friends, I'd rather find a 2nd cat that's a better match.
I really love Gloria, and want her to be happy. She's a sweet cat, but has no interest in being picked up or held for more than a few seconds, and isn't much into laps. She will sleep on/next to me most nights, and occasionally on the couch for a nap. I love that I can trust her 100% to never nip/bite/scratch me, no matter how much I pet her/touch her.
Any comments are welcome.