this is a little long and I apologise - but I am in desperate need of some advise....
As some of you know Cedar is an extremley scared and timid cat. I do believe in the 12 months he has been with us he is getting better but sometimes he takes a step backwards.
Cedar is petrified of people when the come over, of dogs, of loud noises - even feathers that fall in front of him- anything different or unusual makes him shake with fear and head for a hiding place. I have never ever seen anything like this before. If I walk into a room he is in and isnt ready for it he will hit the roof and run away real quick. We always let him go and hide and then gently coax him out after time. Its taken a lot of work over the last 12 months, but he is getting better. It took 8 months or so before he even thought about coming up to me for a cuddle.
I know that Cedar is going to be like this forever. I have no idea what has caused him to be like this, but he is a shelter cat and therefore something has obviously happened before he came to us. The vet believes he has a bit of Abyssinian in him and originally believed that made him a little 'skittish' - maybe this is the case, maybe not, regardless, these issues need to be discussed now that we have a child on the way.
Tonight he took another step backwards. The boys were both outside and my mother came over - she stayed for an hour or so and then left... after this I brought them inside and instantly Cedar got nervous. Cedar obviously knew that she had been here and although he didnt see her (not that we are aware of) and has known my mother for a while, it took him 2 hours to feel calm enough to come out from his hiding place.
Fine - I have no problem with this hiding place or comfort place... the problem is his comfort/hiding place is under our bed.
Since the baby is just under 2 months away and will be sleeping in our room originally I need to change this comfort/hiding place of his to another place... is this possible? Do I need to close the our bedroom door so he cant go in there at all?
We have another room which is our 'junk/ gym room' - the boys love this room when we allow them in there but usually the door is closed... we would love Cedar to find refuge in this room - possible or not? How can we help him find another safe place? Our house is small so its not like we have numerous places or 2 levels for him to choose from.
I dont know where to go with this. Cedar is going to be so scared when this baby arrives and I am trying to minimise this for him as much as I can - obviously we adore Cedar and only want the very best for him...
any advise? thanks!!
As some of you know Cedar is an extremley scared and timid cat. I do believe in the 12 months he has been with us he is getting better but sometimes he takes a step backwards.
Cedar is petrified of people when the come over, of dogs, of loud noises - even feathers that fall in front of him- anything different or unusual makes him shake with fear and head for a hiding place. I have never ever seen anything like this before. If I walk into a room he is in and isnt ready for it he will hit the roof and run away real quick. We always let him go and hide and then gently coax him out after time. Its taken a lot of work over the last 12 months, but he is getting better. It took 8 months or so before he even thought about coming up to me for a cuddle.
I know that Cedar is going to be like this forever. I have no idea what has caused him to be like this, but he is a shelter cat and therefore something has obviously happened before he came to us. The vet believes he has a bit of Abyssinian in him and originally believed that made him a little 'skittish' - maybe this is the case, maybe not, regardless, these issues need to be discussed now that we have a child on the way.
Tonight he took another step backwards. The boys were both outside and my mother came over - she stayed for an hour or so and then left... after this I brought them inside and instantly Cedar got nervous. Cedar obviously knew that she had been here and although he didnt see her (not that we are aware of) and has known my mother for a while, it took him 2 hours to feel calm enough to come out from his hiding place.
Fine - I have no problem with this hiding place or comfort place... the problem is his comfort/hiding place is under our bed.
Since the baby is just under 2 months away and will be sleeping in our room originally I need to change this comfort/hiding place of his to another place... is this possible? Do I need to close the our bedroom door so he cant go in there at all?
We have another room which is our 'junk/ gym room' - the boys love this room when we allow them in there but usually the door is closed... we would love Cedar to find refuge in this room - possible or not? How can we help him find another safe place? Our house is small so its not like we have numerous places or 2 levels for him to choose from.
I dont know where to go with this. Cedar is going to be so scared when this baby arrives and I am trying to minimise this for him as much as I can - obviously we adore Cedar and only want the very best for him...
any advise? thanks!!