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post #1 of 26
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I went away this past weekend. I hadn't left my cats since my hospital stay in January which lasted 4 looooong nights.

During my hospital stay in January --- my mom said my cats didn't want to eat; they really didn't poop all that much; and, they were just sorta laying around and kept looking at her REALLY strange.

This past weekend, momma visited the house to check on the litter boxes; guess what? Not much poop at all! Granted I was gone only TWO nights this time, but still. No poop? And, she said, "your cats once again didn't want to eat". She said they just sort of moped around, and once again looked at her really weird.

The minute I walk in the door yesterday, all six of them came running; rubbing, purring, happy & bright! They start play-fighting as I get some food out. Then I noticed after a few minutes, one by one, they disappeared; guess what? They all pooped. I mean, a lot. I left for a few to go get my daughter, and BAM -- we walk in the door and what was 30 minutes earlier, a clean-smelling refreshing house --- smelled like someone dropped a 40 ton poop bomb!

Is this normal? My cats seem to not eat, not poop much & just get depressed with out ME around!!!! It's surely great to be loved so much by them! Are my cats the only ones who do this? Just curious.
post #2 of 26
My cats don't go to quite this extreme (granted, I am gone for a good part of the day for school) but everyone is waiting by the door as soon as I get home
Laurel
post #3 of 26
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Originally Posted by darkeyedgirl
I left for a few to go get my daughter, and BAM -- we walk in the door and what was 30 minutes earlier, a clean-smelling refreshing house --- smelled like someone dropped a 40 ton poop bomb!
Oh Steph, that is too funny!
post #4 of 26
Sakura pretty much cries, hides and doesnt eat while im gone.

Poor lonely kitties.
post #5 of 26
As I work shifts my cat never really knows how long I'm going to be. Sometimes when I'm not working and just pop out he sits and waits for me on the path. My husband finishes at 4 every day and Moss will wait by the front door from about 3:50pm. He also knows the sound of the car and when he hears it he come running. He follows me up to the car as well and even got in it yesterday!!
post #6 of 26
This seems a little scary. We had a dog who almost died for the same reason. We went away for a week, and he quit eating. Then he didn't want to restart when we came home!

Maybe you can have your Mom feed them when she visits, or figure out some other way to make them more comfortable with other people helping out. Or tell your Mom your exact routine, so she can follow it.

I used to have a neighbor who's dog wouldn't eat if they were gone. (She was a stay at home doggie Mom.) But she would eat for me. I didn't visit them that often, but I think the dog knew I was just the neighbor, so somehow it was ok if she ate what I fed her!

Anyhow, just in case you ever need to be gone for a while, it would be nice if they would tolerate it better. (Poor little things, I'm glad you're home. They just adore you, don't they?)
post #7 of 26
Sakura does eat i tiny little bit. I think shes just to busy crying and hiding.
post #8 of 26
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Originally Posted by darkeyedgirl
I went away this past weekend. I hadn't left my cats since my hospital stay in January which lasted 4 looooong nights.

During my hospital stay in January --- my mom said my cats didn't want to eat; they really didn't poop all that much; and, they were just sorta laying around and kept looking at her REALLY strange.

This past weekend, momma visited the house to check on the litter boxes; guess what? Not much poop at all! Granted I was gone only TWO nights this time, but still. No poop? And, she said, "your cats once again didn't want to eat". She said they just sort of moped around, and once again looked at her really weird.

The minute I walk in the door yesterday, all six of them came running; rubbing, purring, happy & bright! They start play-fighting as I get some food out. Then I noticed after a few minutes, one by one, they disappeared; guess what? They all pooped. I mean, a lot. I left for a few to go get my daughter, and BAM -- we walk in the door and what was 30 minutes earlier, a clean-smelling refreshing house --- smelled like someone dropped a 40 ton poop bomb!

Is this normal? My cats seem to not eat, not poop much & just get depressed with out ME around!!!! It's surely great to be loved so much by them! Are my cats the only ones who do this? Just curious.

Aww, hey girl! Good to see you!

You're not alone. I am NOT going on an all expenses paid road trip to Florida this Friday because of this. My cats don't do well when I leave. I've taken a few trips and have had very bad experiences upon returning.

The one time I came back after five days from Tenn. to find my electric water bowl BUZZING from no water being in it. It was so loud, it was three in the morning, and I was HORRIFIED! No food, etc. I felt so bad, I cried, couldn't believe the condition the person I had take care of them left it in.

After an 8 day trip to California to see my brother, I came home to poop and pee in my bed. Luckily it was on a pillow top type of deal that I was able to throw away and not on the matress itself, but it kills me that they were that upset that they did that. I would never want to cause them any kind of stress if I can help it. That kind of ruined me for going out of town....

John says the minute I leave the house, like clockwork, the boys start fighting, lol.

It KILLS me to leave them for an extended period of time. I don't know who has more anxiety, me or them!

Anyway, I'm neurotically sensitive to my cats and animals in general. It's a bit of a problem, but my cats are used to me being here alllll the time. I am off from school right now, and am not working, so I'm here 24/7. They don't like it when I leave. I hope to have a more normal living arrangement sometime in the future.

Anyway, welcome back, and you're not alone!
post #9 of 26
My kitts are definately waiting for me when I get home from work. They are right there at the door to give me kisses and headbutts.

When I finally went on vacation last year for six days my neighbor who feeds them said they never ate all their food but they ate some. As soon as I got back they cleaned them out again. Worried me a little but they didn't starve I think they were just a little upset not too depressed.

So yes I think they miss me. But they know I will always come back to them.
post #10 of 26
Juicy sits at the window when I leave through the garage and waits for a long time (my mom says) and meows pitifully. When I leave through the front door, there is a chair next to it and Juicy sits on it and watches out the window and waits for a long time, again meowing pitifully.

Sometimes after I leave, my mom will call me about 30-45 minutes later, to report that Juicy is still waiting in the window for me to come home.

It breaks my heart! I don't know what I am going to do when I go on vacation this summer! He wasn't born yet last summer, so I didn't have to deal with it.
post #11 of 26
My cats definitely notice when we aren't there. Tailer looks for us, and Harvey gets mad at us. Forest pretty much adjusts to anything (even our move didn't phase him).

We were gone on vacation last week, and my stepson came to spend the week with them. (I think it's easier on them when they can have someone they know stay, instead of just coming to feed them.) Tailer won't let me out of his sight. Harvey just started acknowledging my presence this morning. Forest was clearly overjoyed to see us and got all excited when we came in, then settled down to his usual self.
post #12 of 26
teufel meows when im in the shower,
he comes purring to me when ive just taken the washing down or up.
he purrs even more when i come home from the supermarket.
And he doesnt leave us alone if we have done some day trips ect

Next week we are leaving for 9 days.
Leaving teufel and bunny here.
We have two people to come and check up on them but istill have a bad feeling and i feel so rotten leaving them here. I am going to place two big water bowls and one big dry food bowl just incase they forget to come here one day. Just thinking of it. i dont want to go on my holiday now..
My bf suggested to take the cat with us but its too much of a hassle!
post #13 of 26
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Originally Posted by kittylea
Sakura pretty much cries, hides and doesnt eat while im gone.
Poor lonely kitties.
sometimes the "Amo Bonito" make that! ...But I reward him after!
post #14 of 26
At one point, I had four different breeds of cat in the house. The Aby would insist on instant greetings (barely got in the door), including jumping to the top of the piano to get noses touched. The barn cat would turn his back for a couple of hours (nothing worse than being ignored to a cat!) and then start bawling me out, the calico would sulk, and the tabby persian cross would run away. If we were gone for an extended period of time (like two days), the calico would pee outside of the litter box (I had a self-cleaner). This is not that unusual when you consider how children react to babysitters and day care. Comfort yourself in knowing that a cat has a better memory than a dog. When you leave a dog's sight, they really don't know if you're coming back. A cat has faith that you will. After all, how could you permanently leave a CAT??
post #15 of 26
Considering that I go out of town often, I would think they'd be used to it. NO WAY! According to the pet sitter, they hardly play and keep hidden as much as possible. They do eat normal and go bathroom regular and that's about it. They even stay indoors!!!
post #16 of 26
I've never left Meish over night before but when I've been gone during the day for a few hours she normally runs to the door when I walk in and meows like "where have you been?"
post #17 of 26
YUP. My gals (Zebra and Pepper) will NOT come out from hiding until I'm home alone. The boys seem to be okay but they eat less and act more mopey and wouldn't let others pet them while I'm gone.

One time I was gone for 10 days and my friend didn't see Pepper and Zebra AT ALL for the whole 10 days! She even looked all over the apt but couldn't find them.

The minute I walked in, all cats comes running and start doing stuff to get me to pet them. What a warm welcome!

I do HATE to go out of town on business trips/personal vacations cuz I alway worry about whether the petsitter is taking good care of them (I always page the poor petsitter on a daily basis demanding updates), if my cats are missing me too much, etc.
post #18 of 26
my kits miss me too and run to the door all purry when i come home, this only hapopens on weekends when i'm away for a night with my Husband to do the groceries, they also get into all sorts of mischeif while i'm gone and i often come home to find things trashed

i have a good friend who looks after them if i'm away for a while but they like her, they are still wary but they eat thank goodness.

when i go away for one night i fill their water and food feeders, the biscuits in one of those last my cats four days but i only ever leave them with the fedders for two to three just in case, the water lasts around the same.

Quote:
I am going to place two big water bowls and one big dry food bowl just incase they forget to come here one day. Just thinking of it. i dont want to go on my holiday now..
My bf suggested to take the cat with us but its too much of a hassle!

Have you considered getting feeders as a backup? that's what i have and i make sure they are filled even if someone else is looking after them just incase they can't make it one day.





felicia
post #19 of 26
I don't think they do, but Vash, our little tuxedo boy, misses his 'dad' when he isn't around.
My fiance' works nights and sleeps during the day, but promptly at 7pm, he's begging and whining at me to let him wake dad.
He also cries like a baby every night when his dad leaves for work.
post #20 of 26
Thread Starter 
Hah! Good to hear I'm not alone!

Last year I went on two separate week-long trips, and I don't remember it being quite like this. Granted I did not have Snickers and Dusty living with me yet... I only had four cats...

I won't be going away any more anytime soon, I know that much!!! I just can't. I swear my cats were so happy to see me, last night it was a swarm to see who can get closest to Mommy in the bed. Dusty laid ON MY FACE! She backed up & put her butt near my forehead! And Snickers kept trilling & licking me during the night. He really missed me... I missed him, too.

It is scary when the kits don't eat like that, especially Snickers, cuz he has issues with his urinary tract.
post #21 of 26
Pete and Katie seem happy to see me when I get home, but I don't get the sense that they're pining for me too much when I'm gone. Gracie, on the other hand, will be sitting in the front window when I leave for work in the morning and when I pull in the drive late in the afternoon. Guess I'm supposed to think she's been waiting for me all day. Then, she'll run to the door to greet me. Whether I've been gone all day or half an hour, I can hear her meowing urgently as I unlock the door.
post #22 of 26
Bradley watched the kits for me this weekend when I was out of town and he said they seemed a bit "off". They were more restless than usual at night. Didn't seem to affect their appetite or bathroom-using, though
When I got home on Monday, Cosette would not leave my side for a second and Eponine lounged on the carpet in front of me all evening:

Guess they missed me! :
post #23 of 26
When Brendan and I went to Asheville for 4 days last month I left Waffle with my mom (a house and people she is very comfortable with). Once we got back my mom was telling me that while she did eat and use the bathroom regularly, those were the only reasons she came out. She hid under my grandmother's bed most of the time and would cry every once in a while. That just made me feel so awful! My poor baby!! Once she saw that I was back though she went nuts! She followed me everywhere letting out excited cries and purring like a mad woman.

Just this weekend I left her at my apartment for 24 hours while I went to my parents for Memorial Day. There were heavy storms while I was gone and when I got back and was JUST turning the key in the lock I could hear her going CRAZY meowing away behind the door. After that she once again wouldn't leave my side.

It makes me feel terrible but she never stays upset long and doesn't ever refuse to eat or use the bathroom, thankfully!
post #24 of 26
I don't know if my cats miss me or not. I have never been gone for more than 12 hours and always return home at night. I do know that Charlotte always gives me the most affection first thing in the morning and first thing when I return home.
post #25 of 26
Apparently, my boys are just fine with us out of the house. No poo or eating issues. We have an excellent petsitter, and they LOVE him! He plays with them and feeds them. I think sometimes they like the peace and quiet. When I go out and just my husband's home, he tells me that they wait at the window till they hear my car door slam. Then they start meowing for me and wait at the door! They are definitely happy to see me.
post #26 of 26
No, I don't think she misses me. My mother lives with me and spoils her when I am gone.
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