What to do?

ah I need advise and here seems the best place;

What would any of you do in this situation:
A friend of my Mom's and i have kept in touch since my Mom passed (10 years ago now) the past couple of years it has excelerated to going over to her and her husbands about twice a month. I think since they live in the same style of home and as my Mom etc I am drawn to going there,and it brings back memories of my Mom. Anyways, now they keep inviting me to ALL family events, and i mean it's a ton, and attempt to include me in all family events. I know it's really sweet but it's overwhelming. And the thing is...I feel bad saying this, but I don't really like them that much. She drinks too much for one thing.. And he is very critical and judgemental type. My mother was sort of losing interest in keeping in touch with this woman, she doesn't have the same value system my Mom did. Anyways, i feel badly saying no to things, but I have a right to my free time (I mean if they had their way i would be there every weekend)
I also want to free myself from them thinking i am 'like family" when I don't feel that way at all.

i can't be honest, I just can't. they are into their 70's and I just can't start a scene. should I not answer their phone messages and hope they forget? Should I just start a say no to everyting policy?

Originally Posted by Kellyyfaber

Woah, that's a toughie Marge. Maybe always try to make yourself "busy" when they invite you over?.?.?.? I hope you find an easy way out. I know you don't really wanna hurt the feelings of a couple of 70 year olds but don't waste time out of your life just to spare their feelings. I know how eloquent and smart you are, you'll find the right way out of it

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thanks,maybe I just need to vent. I don't know if there is a clean way out, just being busy is best, which I actually am.

Marge, you could try telling them that you have a busy schedule and that you can only do the once a month visit?!.