Opinions/advice and some vibes would be very appreciated!
First, a little background:
*I moved to my 1BR apt. in Feb.
*Bradley moved into his parents' home in Dec. to save some money while he looked for his post-college job. Now he has a great job captaining a charter fishing boat.
*Since I moved to my apt. Bradley has spent all but a few nights with me.
OK, so yesterday he mentioned how he's been giving his parents $100 every 2 weeks to pay for utilities. I was like ::censor::censor::censor:: He stays with ME every spare moment he has, he should care more about my utilities!
So I got to my limit last night and told him how confusing it is for me to have him "living" at his parents' house, giving them money, but in reality spending every night with me. I mean, I can afford my bills, but he is contributing to the power useage!
So I told him he needs to make a decision. He said "OK, I'll stay at my parents' from now on." Not the reaction I wanted. I know he can AFFORD to move in and pay half the rent, but he said he doesn't want to move in and disturb MY life. This is the guy who already has some clothsI told him it sounds like he is just making excuses so he can avoid the committment.
I am so upset and confused right now. Was I wrong for saying something? I just feel like he's taking advantage of me and avoiding the committment of living together (we're going on 2 years of dating).
What do y'all think? I hate being at work today; all I want to do is cry
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First, a little background:
*I moved to my 1BR apt. in Feb.
*Bradley moved into his parents' home in Dec. to save some money while he looked for his post-college job. Now he has a great job captaining a charter fishing boat.
*Since I moved to my apt. Bradley has spent all but a few nights with me.
OK, so yesterday he mentioned how he's been giving his parents $100 every 2 weeks to pay for utilities. I was like ::censor::censor::censor:: He stays with ME every spare moment he has, he should care more about my utilities!
So I got to my limit last night and told him how confusing it is for me to have him "living" at his parents' house, giving them money, but in reality spending every night with me. I mean, I can afford my bills, but he is contributing to the power useage!
So I told him he needs to make a decision. He said "OK, I'll stay at my parents' from now on." Not the reaction I wanted. I know he can AFFORD to move in and pay half the rent, but he said he doesn't want to move in and disturb MY life. This is the guy who already has some clothsI told him it sounds like he is just making excuses so he can avoid the committment.
I am so upset and confused right now. Was I wrong for saying something? I just feel like he's taking advantage of me and avoiding the committment of living together (we're going on 2 years of dating).
What do y'all think? I hate being at work today; all I want to do is cry