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That corner of the bed, right by my head...

post #1 of 24
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When we moved a few months ago, Baylee started sleeping in the corner of the bed, right by my head. She slept there consistantly for over a month, even for the first few weeks that we had Max.

When Max started sleeping with us, he started sleeping there too. But Baylee doesn't like sharing her spot and she would leave in the middle of the night.

Now Max sleeps there, in the corner of the bed, right by my head. And Baylee? She sleeps under the covers by my feet.

Was wondering how many of you can relate because I think this is a common thing? And why is this? And... does this mean Max is the alpha cat because he took her spot? Or is that a separate issue?
post #2 of 24
how do they get along for the other part of the day?
i had two cats that were litter mates aj, fly both males. aj had a very unique personality cant really explain it fly was a just pet me kitty. they got along wonderfully except when it came to going to pet aj felt the need to share my pilllow and fly would sleep by his brother any other time during the day but you would hear aj's low grumble and i woke and fly was asleep on my chest and aj was very much the alpha kitty plus the runt
post #3 of 24
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Max and Baylee have been together for about 2 months now, I think, and usually they fine together... sometimes I will get home and find them curled up together on the couch. They do have their moments where Baylee wants to play and Max doesn't want to and they might snap at each other... but nothing serious.

See, Max is a "pet me kitty" like your cat Fly so I would think that Baylee would the be the alpha cat... but sometimes I wonder...
post #4 of 24
it could be a gender issue. are they fixed? maybe pet me kitty can have an attitude or baylee is just submissive
post #5 of 24
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Yeah they are both fixed... Max does not have attitude and Baylee is not submissive, lol. In fact the opposite is true... Baylee is the one that has attitude and Max will go out of his way to avoid conflict.
post #6 of 24
They both sound alpha and Baylee left her scent on your hair so Max is there to try and subdue her. Look for the two of them as they grow to have these constant sleeping wars until they figure out who is really alpha over all- which by the way SHOULD be YOU!
post #7 of 24
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MA, I remember seeing a thread or an article about how to make it clear that *I* am really alpha, but I can't find it... do you know where it is? Or can you just tell me what to do?

Great, 2 alpha cats... just what I need!
post #8 of 24
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Okay so I take it no one else has experienced this before?
post #9 of 24
The only thing i can relate to is before Sophie came Rosie would always curl up on my lap, then Sophie took over and Rosie wouldn't bother and only comes on now and again.

"One" of the reasons that makes me think that Sophie is Alpha cat is when i feed them. They have their own bowl about 3 feet apart and they get the same food. I always put Rosies out first, then Sophies, but Sophie makes her way over to Rosies if i don't watch her and pushes through which makes Rosie just walk away

I now watch Sophie and i have to steer her back to her own bowl and keep a an eye on her, but the minute Rosie walks off, Sophie stops eating and walks straight over to Rosies bowl and eats some of hers then walks back and finishes her own off.
post #10 of 24
The only way I know of to take charge and be Alpha in the bedroom is to not allow the cats to sleep with you in there for awhile. Once they are let back in, they will be noticeably subdued and sleep in other less controversial spots-
post #11 of 24
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Susan, Max does what Sophie does when it comes to feeding time... I had to change Baylee over to adult food a few months early because he would keep eating out of her bowl and he's no kitten!

We try to move him back to his own bowl and he'll eat out of there sure enough... but for some reason he prefers hers?

And whenever I feed them both, Max always jets over to the feeding station but Baylee will lag behind. And then Max will start eating right away while Bay will sit there, and then eventually leave. It's so sad to watch.. maybe she's just not as hungry as Max is? Or is it an alpha cat thing again?

Cats are confusing.
post #12 of 24
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Originally Posted by hissy
The only way I know of to take charge and be Alpha in the bedroom is to not allow the cats to sleep with you in there for awhile. Once they are let back in, they will be noticeably subdued and sleep in other less controversial spots-
Aw I'll be sad but I'll give it a try... however they don't *always* sleep with me. Sometimes they'll sleep downstairs, just randomly.

Anyway, I know someone who will be happy that the cats won't be sleeping with us...
post #13 of 24
I know! And i've always put Rosie first on the feeding, giving treats, brushing her etc...which is something i was told to do when i first got Sophie

I don't know if Sophie thinks Rosies getting anything different to her by doing this but they both get the same food and the same amount?!.
post #14 of 24
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The funny thing is, in my house Max gets fed MORE food in his bowl because he's supposed to eat more... but he starts off eating from her bowl. Same kibble and everything.

I guess we need to sit Sophie and Max down and say, "listen up... treat your sisters nicer, they were here first!"
post #15 of 24
Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226
The funny thing is, in my house Max gets fed MORE food in his bowl because he's supposed to eat more... but he starts off eating from her bowl. Same kibble and everything.

I guess we need to sit Sophie and Max down and say, "listen up... treat your sisters nicer, they were here first!"
I second that!!!
post #16 of 24
Nano sleeps on the corner of the bed up by my head. But...when my girlfriend stays over to spend the night, Nano stays on the floor over by the window. So I guess Nano accepts my girlfriend's status with me?
post #17 of 24
I have nothing intelligent to add except Sierra is my little Alpha over me, of course! She prefers to sleep on my head!
post #18 of 24
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Nano
Nano sleeps on the corner of the bed up by my head. But...when my girlfriend stays over to spend the night, Nano stays on the floor over by the window. So I guess Nano accepts my girlfriend's status with me?
Either that, or Nano's a bit ticked off that your gf gets the bed instead and is sulking!
post #19 of 24
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Quote:
Originally Posted by dawnofsierra
I have nothing intelligent to add except Sierra is my little Alpha over me, of course! She prefers to sleep on my head!
Awww! Sierra looks too sweet to be an Alpha tho! And on your head? That's cute!
post #20 of 24
females are supposed to be more likely to be alpha but i'm not sure if this applies to spayed females and neutered males
post #21 of 24
Thread Starter 
I can see that... I've always heard that boy cats are more lapcats... and Max is definitely our lapcat while Baylee is definitely not.
post #22 of 24
Merlin slept on my head for the first few weeks, and then experimented with different areas of the bed. I think the problem was that I tossed and turned too much. I woke up a few times having smacked him in my sleep because he was sleeping at waist level. Now he either sleeps next to me with his head on the pillow, or goes upstairs and sleeps with my mom until mid-morning. By that time I'm completely out cold and won't move, and he'll sleep wherever there is room on the bed. Mer, L.S., and Ho Ho all sleep with me, usually at the same time, and I've never noticed them staking out claim to certain areas. But then again, I am the alpha in the house, and the know not to try anything silly.
post #23 of 24
I feel really sorry for Dushka because I had her for over a year before I got Ellie and she always slept with me and of course had undivided attention. Ellie gradually became Alpha cat and pushes Dushka (and now Persil) out of the way, eating their food before her own, etc. Dushka always slept under the covers beside me, but Ellie now comes in, pushes her away, and then settles down in a slightly different spot. Dushka usually then goes and sleeps in a chair. Persil will come and cuddle against Ellie. I try to give them all time and last night for instance I shut Ellie and Persil out of hte bedroom so Dushka could sleep in her old spot, and she purred for ages before going to sleep and never moved till morning. I also feed Dushka away from the others, as she will walk away if Ellie pushes her and not come back. I don't know if this is the right thing to do, but I hate to see her upset. She doesn't like Ellie, and I can understand why, but has accepted Persil, who gets on with both the others and plays and grooms with them.
post #24 of 24
5 out of my 6 cats sleep with / on me.

K.C. sleeps on the pillow above my head. It's HER spot. There are times when she'll get up & then Dusty takes that spot; but then K.C. comes back and Dusty moves down to my arm. Dusty knows not to undermine K.C.'s "area".

Snickers sleeps on my feet. Like clockwork. All I have to do is go upstairs for the evening & he is at my heels, then on my feet!

Zorro sleeps sort of off to the side, corner of the bed near Snickers.

Hammie sleeps next to my chest. He didn't for a long time, but started recently after I took in Snickers & Dusty.

The only one of my cats who does not sleep with me is Miss Jessie, but I think it's truthfully because my Queen sized bed is just too darned small. With me, and 5 other cats and the pillows we all use? Poor Jess doesn't fit!

The cats certainly have THEIR spots on THEIR bed. I popped my eyes open this morning and all 5 of them were in their spots, just like every morning. Miss Jessie was on the floor next to my bed, staring up at me all lovey eyed.

I need a bigger bed I guess.
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