That corner of the bed, right by my head...

When we moved a few months ago, Baylee started sleeping in the corner of the bed, right by my head. She slept there consistantly for over a month, even for the first few weeks that we had Max.

When Max started sleeping with us, he started sleeping there too. But Baylee doesn't like sharing her spot and she would leave in the middle of the night.

Now Max sleeps there, in the corner of the bed, right by my head. And Baylee? She sleeps under the covers by my feet.

Was wondering how many of you can relate because I think this is a common thing? And why is this? And... does this mean Max is the alpha cat because he took her spot? Or is that a separate issue?

how do they get along for the other part of the day?
i had two cats that were litter mates aj, fly both males. aj had a very unique personality cant really explain it fly was a just pet me kitty. they got along wonderfully except when it came to going to pet aj felt the need to share my pilllow and fly would sleep by his brother any other time during the day but you would hear aj's low grumble and i woke and fly was asleep on my chest and aj was very much the alpha kitty plus the runt

Max and Baylee have been together for about 2 months now, I think, and usually they fine together... sometimes I will get home and find them curled up together on the couch. They do have their moments where Baylee wants to play and Max doesn't want to and they might snap at each other... but nothing serious.

See, Max is a "pet me kitty" like your cat Fly so I would think that Baylee would the be the alpha cat... but sometimes I wonder...

it could be a gender issue. are they fixed? maybe pet me kitty can have an attitude or baylee is just submissive

Yeah they are both fixed... Max does not have attitude and Baylee is not submissive, lol. In fact the opposite is true... Baylee is the one that has attitude and Max will go out of his way to avoid conflict.

They both sound alpha and Baylee left her scent on your hair so Max is there to try and subdue her. Look for the two of them as they grow to have these constant sleeping wars until they figure out who is really alpha over all- which by the way SHOULD be YOU!

MA, I remember seeing a thread or an article about how to make it clear that *I* am really alpha, but I can't find it... do you know where it is? Or can you just tell me what to do?

Great, 2 alpha cats... just what I need!

Okay so I take it no one else has experienced this before?

The only thing i can relate to is before Sophie came Rosie would always curl up on my lap, then Sophie took over and Rosie wouldn't bother and only comes on now and again.

"One" of the reasons that makes me think that Sophie is Alpha cat is when i feed them. They have their own bowl about 3 feet apart and they get the same food. I always put Rosies out first, then Sophies, but Sophie makes her way over to Rosies if i don't watch her and pushes through which makes Rosie just walk away

I now watch Sophie and i have to steer her back to her own bowl and keep a an eye on her, but the minute Rosie walks off, Sophie stops eating and walks straight over to Rosies bowl and eats some of hers then walks back and finishes her own off.

The only way I know of to take charge and be Alpha in the bedroom is to not allow the cats to sleep with you in there for awhile. Once they are let back in, they will be noticeably subdued and sleep in other less controversial spots-

Susan, Max does what Sophie does when it comes to feeding time... I had to change Baylee over to adult food a few months early because he would keep eating out of her bowl and he's no kitten!

We try to move him back to his own bowl and he'll eat out of there sure enough... but for some reason he prefers hers?

And whenever I feed them both, Max always jets over to the feeding station but Baylee will lag behind. And then Max will start eating right away while Bay will sit there, and then eventually leave. It's so sad to watch.. maybe she's just not as hungry as Max is? Or is it an alpha cat thing again?

Cats are confusing.

Originally Posted by hissy

The only way I know of to take charge and be Alpha in the bedroom is to not allow the cats to sleep with you in there for awhile. Once they are let back in, they will be noticeably subdued and sleep in other less controversial spots-

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Aw I'll be sad but I'll give it a try... however they don't *always* sleep with me. Sometimes they'll sleep downstairs, just randomly.

Anyway, I know someone who will be happy that the cats won't be sleeping with us...

I know! And i've always put Rosie first on the feeding, giving treats, brushing her etc...which is something i was told to do when i first got Sophie

I don't know if Sophie thinks Rosies getting anything different to her by doing this but they both get the same food and the same amount?!.

The funny thing is, in my house Max gets fed MORE food in his bowl because he's supposed to eat more... but he starts off eating from her bowl. Same kibble and everything.

I guess we need to sit Sophie and Max down and say, "listen up... treat your sisters nicer, they were here first!"

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

The funny thing is, in my house Max gets fed MORE food in his bowl because he's supposed to eat more... but he starts off eating from her bowl. Same kibble and everything.

I guess we need to sit Sophie and Max down and say, "listen up... treat your sisters nicer, they were here first!"

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I second that!!!

Nano sleeps on the corner of the bed up by my head. But...when my girlfriend stays over to spend the night, Nano stays on the floor over by the window. So I guess Nano accepts my girlfriend's status with me?

I have nothing intelligent to add except Sierra is my little Alpha over me, of course! She prefers to sleep on my head!

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Nano sleeps on the corner of the bed up by my head. But...when my girlfriend stays over to spend the night, Nano stays on the floor over by the window. So I guess Nano accepts my girlfriend's status with me?

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Either that, or Nano's a bit ticked off that your gf gets the bed instead and is sulking!

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I have nothing intelligent to add except Sierra is my little Alpha over me, of course! She prefers to sleep on my head!

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Awww! Sierra looks too sweet to be an Alpha tho! And on your head? That's cute!

females are supposed to be more likely to be alpha but i'm not sure if this applies to spayed females and neutered males