Originally Posted by Cirque
So far I have tried treating Buddy as if I am a cat when being a human does not work. I hiss at him, I stare him down, I use body language (that I learned from him and our other cats).
I also move my feet across the carpet wearing flip-flops (makes a good noise), I snap, I clap, I say "NO, BUDDY!" and "BUDDY, NO" "STOP" as loudly as I dare (landlord lives below and sleeps early).
Sometimes I even get down on my hands and knees and do an open mouthed very fast pant like a cat smelling a strange cat or a fast "dog sniff". Those usually send him into a super playful run around frantic or super friendly loving state thats hillarious to watch but does not last long. Sure gets him distracted though.
Most of the time he follows me around or stays in the same room as me, and often comes when called as well so he really can be sweet. I would hate to have to get rid of him.
Buddy's major problem however is that he wants to attack Casey either playfully or meanly (hard to tell usually). Reguardless Casey wants nothing to do with him and is only now starting to barely accept him in the same room without taking off, but usually does when the chance arrives.
Casey is SO scared she usually hides behind a chair, under a dresser or inside our couch and only comes out in the morning to see us if Buddy is locked up or at night when we eat dinner and Buddy is locked up. Buddy has to be locked up because it is when he gets fed some wet food and it gives Casey time to go eat as well. I do fear she does not get enough food as she usually does not get to eat all of hers, but we free feed dry food as well so I keep hoping shes sneaking in some eating while I sleep during the day.
Casey will not eat if the food is at a door with Buddy on the other side, she is not food motivated being that she is sooo timid and affection driven but can not get affection to socialize if shes being chased or attacked. There is literally no way to "properly" introduce these two cats as suggested by feeding them near each other etc.
I have tried rubbing a towel on Casey to get her scent on it, that almost worked. When I went to rub Buddy he thought it was a much better idea if he just attacked the towel and me instead. Hand towels must be extreamly fun to bite. Well I rubbed him a little bit, went back to Casey and she had enough of towel rubbing.
We have tried putting things with the other cats scents around as well. Buddy loves to go into Casey's little cat house thing, more then Casey ever did. He loves to play with the toys the other cats had as well as long as theres catnip involved. Moved a piece of clothes Buddy had been sitting on often over onto the couch where Casey sits, she did not go back onto it after the first time she was on it and we even feed them both snacks while she was on it.
Buddy also has taken to walking around "Crying" for attention? or something he wants, at odd hours when people generally sleep. If I shut him in the computer room (where he first stayed when we got him) he ends up scratching at the door and crying non-stop for quite awhile, sometimes very loudly. So that makes it really hard to keep him seperated for reintroduction as well as he now feels he should have free reign of the house, although he does tend to migrate back to this room where I always am. I also send him here after he does something bad, which I suppose reinforces that this is "his" room and might not be good?
So far we have not been able to get the plug-ins mentioned elsewhere, around here they are about $45 and refills are about half that. Being on a very limited income myself it makes buying all sorts of cat stuff tough after we pay off vet bills, adoption fees, food, litter, and all the rest.
I realize some of these things take a great deal of repetition and time, but if anyone has any suggestions with how to get Casey to be more accepting and less timid, and Buddy to chill out a bit.. please we would love to hear them.
I would look into the rescue remedies guy, and see what you can give Buddy and also Casey to ease the tension between them. I wouldn't expose either cat to any more cats or kittens as a playdate, simply because it adds to the stress already in the cat's life. And stress can cause illness pure and simple.
You can go to www.catfaeiries.com or www.littlebigcat.com
and look up the different remedies. They are tasteless and odorless and they do work without harming the cat.