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Mother in laws............I love mine, I really do

post #1 of 24
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What do you guys think............
I got into an early "spring" cleaning mood this weekend. The house was torn apart as I cleaned everything from top to bottom. Well, just as I'm cleaning one of the "bottoms" my door bell rings. I'm a mess, the house is a mess and who is standing there but, my mother in law. Now, I am one of the lucky ones. I truly do love this woman. She's a sweet lady who has always treated me well. Except for one bad habit. She just drops in unannouced when ever she likes. Do you all call someone before going over or just show up? I personally am a caller. Is it just me?
post #2 of 24
My bf and I are really bad about that. I hate it when people just show up at my house, but I have to admit we do it. It's just that we get bored, jump in the car and go for a ride and end up over at someones house. We have gotten better though... we call them from our cell phone when we are pulling into their driveway
post #3 of 24
Susie....I'm a "caller" too. I just think it's kinda rude to drop in unannounced.

My mother used to always call us before she came over.....when I was married and later when I wasn't. She was always good about that.
post #4 of 24
No i'm almost certainly a caller!!. I'd hate the thought that someone was busy or that they were out after i'd went over.

I prefer it if people rang me as well even though it's open house at mine just to make sure i was in.

I had guests come unexpected on saturday, luckily i had just got back from town because its a good 30 minute walk from where they lived if i hadn't been in.

And my mother in law used to do that as well!
post #5 of 24
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Originally Posted by squirtle
My bf and I are really bad about that. I hate it when people just show up at my house, but I have to admit we do it. It's just that we get bored, jump in the car and go for a ride and end up over at someones house. We have gotten better though... we call them from our cell phone when we are pulling into their driveway


Heck Squirt, even the two minute blitz from the driveway would be appreciated!!

I almost didn't answer the door because of the way I looked, but my car was parked in the drive, so she knew I was home.........
post #6 of 24
My mother-in-law is 600 miles away. My parents are 800 miles away. The only non-relative who has ever visited us in the past few years is Lacey and she's only been here once. My house is ALWAYS a wreck except when expecting company and as you might imagine that's only 2 or 3 times a year!
post #7 of 24
I always call first, and ask people to do the same for me. Your MIL sounds like a wonderful person - would she listen if you had a frank discussion with her about popping in without calling first? Perhaps she just doesn't realize that it bothers you. If she is reasonable, she will understand!

btw....I love my MIL also and feel that I'm one of the lucky ones to have her.
post #8 of 24
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Originally Posted by kittylover4ever
Heck Squirt, even the two minute blitz from the driveway would be appreciated!!

I almost didn't answer the door because of the way I looked, but my car was parked in the drive, so she knew I was home.........
In that situation, hurry and turn the radio on and jump in the shower and stay in there for a long time. They will have probably left by the time your done, if not you can always blow dry your hair. Then you have a good excuse for not hearing them
post #9 of 24
Heh, I usually call first, and if you want to catch me at home, you'd best do the same for me! MIL never did that to me, we always knew when someone was bringing her by, they didn't want to drive an hour just to find us not here, lol! Sigh, wish she was still around to come by though........
post #10 of 24
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Originally Posted by squirtle
In that situation, hurry and turn the radio on and jump in the shower and stay in there for a long time. They will have probably left by the time your done, if not you can always blow dry your hair. Then you have a good excuse for not hearing them
Tanya your speaking from experience aren't you?!
post #11 of 24
im a caller to, its something ive always done, just out of habit.
post #12 of 24
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Originally Posted by rosiemac
Tanya your speaking from experience aren't you?!

I have to admit, I have done that in the past. But that's when I absolutley didn't want company.......Gee, I was in the shower and must not have heard the doorbell or phone!
post #13 of 24
I am NOT a caller! I never call any of my family before dropping by, but that's how our entire family is. Usually, if it's a friend that I haven't seen in a long time, I'll call when I'm about 10-15 min. away.

I don't care if you call me or not before you stop by my house. The way that I look at it is that you came to see me.....not how clean or dirty my house is. I'm just excited that you're here!
post #14 of 24
I always call - apart from my MIL she's Deaf and (unless we're worried about her and want to see if she's ok) we go at scheduled times - we don't need to give the poor woman a heart attack by turning up in her living room when she's not expecting anyone! I prefer to make sure my house is prepared to receive guests (even though they're always welcome) I'd hate it if they turned up and I hadn't tidied yet (well if hubby hadn't tied yet now he's a stay-at-home )
post #15 of 24
Both my in-laws have now passed away. But they lived about 45 miles away and didn't visit up very much so I usually had advance warning. I personally don't like people dropping in unannounced. None of my brother/sister in laws have pets so I would like to get a chance to vaccum cat hair/spiff up the cats feeding areas/litter boxes so they won't be grossed out. I guess I'm not very spontaneous.
post #16 of 24
I'm a "caller" too and I hate it when someone drops by without calling
post #17 of 24
Heh, that's one of the reasons I'm quite content with my in-laws living almost 1000 miles away. There has to be some planning to visit us. Dad's not a "pop-in" type person.

I always call before going to someone's house. I don't want to come by an an inopportune moment.
post #18 of 24
I'm wondering if it has to do with what part of the country you live in. Here in the south, everybody drops in at any given time. I think that it's part of our culture. Sometimes, it is inconvienent but usually if you're in the middle of cleaning or cooking whoever it is that drops in pitches in. I guess that it's just our life style?!
post #19 of 24
I'm a caller. Showing up unannounced is a major pet peeve of mine. I get really rude about it, too (I know I could do with some lessons in the social graces but I've never been the type of person to hide my true feelings). So please call me before you show up. It's not that I hate company, it's just that I like the house to be picked up. I also like to be dressed and have my makeup on
post #20 of 24
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Originally Posted by catherine
I'm wondering if it has to do with what part of the country you live in. Here in the south, everybody drops in at any given time. I think that it's part of our culture. Sometimes, it is inconvienent but usually if you're in the middle of cleaning or cooking whoever it is that drops in pitches in. I guess that it's just our life style?!
Catherine - It might be. It also might be small town vs. city. What I have noticed the most is that it seems to be a generational thing. My mother - now 62 and I noticed that all the friends her age are and always have been the same way. She drops in on them- they drop in on her. Or maybe it's just the like personalities she's made friends with.
post #21 of 24
Well, my mother-in-law would have to make a day trip to drop in , but I'm sure she calls her friend next door before going over, anyway. I don't mind if people drop by unannounced, as long as they are Ok with taking me the way they find me -- IF they find me. I do tend to call first before I drop in on anyone, though, even if it's just from outside their place on the cellphone -- you call 'on spec' and take what you get -- sort of the same as ringing the doorbell, except that the person is free to say no.
post #22 of 24
I ALWAYS call people before I come over, only exception is my Nana I always pop in unannounced since she only lives 15 minute walk away!
post #23 of 24
I always call before showing up. So does my MIL. Unfortunately, my mom hasn't learnt how to do that!

I have the best MIL. She doesn't interfere. Right now she calls me everyday to see how I am doing and always asks if there is something she can do for me and doesn't get upset if I say no thanks. No only does she want to help, she does this while she is a sick woman! Has been very ill for a long time, but is so looking forward to this new grandchild).
post #24 of 24
EEEk i have a really embarising story about not calling ahead of time....A couple of years ago, my boyfriend and I were in the neighborhood of a friends house...we decided to drop by unexpectantly....usually we would call but we were right in front of there house......
Well we ot up to the door, and heard wierd noises.....ummmm...ummmmm....him and his girlfriend were.....ummmmm "doing it".... ...
that was very very awkward.........lol

So i agree with policy of calling first....Its ok to surprise once in a while....but at your own risk........
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