wow, what a setback. Laurie to you and Gary. I pray that she is safe...
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2/22/05 at 6:57pm
Originally Posted by fwan
...I really wish that i could understand how they think to understand them, and to just fix that little error in their brain so they would be normal, and live to a longer life.
I wish you all the best. Let us know on the updates.
I know youre not going to give up on her.
But for me, i rather for my mother to go with the angels than stay on a planet that is causing her so much pain and having to pass on extreme pain to others who watch her being torn down like that.
All the best and Take care.
Originally Posted by fwan
I didnt mean that naomi should go to heaven.
I was just saying that my mother is going to be 54. she has already wasted nearly half of her life on alcohol.
At the rate she is going i dont see her living past 60.
Not sure about 55. My mother has let us down 3 times already.
We had to send her to a psysiactric clinic. because the first time
she was throwing chairs at me and trying to burn me with her ciggarettes.
She smashed the window (on the door because theres a glass on the kitchen door) my bf was really lucky because i dont know how but he just said quick hide she is about to smash it.. and she did and my bf was lucky that he didnt get cut because he stood right infront of it.
The second time was when she started screaming and neighbours were complaining and she kept on saying she was going to kill her self
the third time where she really did nearly jump out of the window.
I screamed and she was nearly out and my bf just grabbed her and pulled her back in.
we called the ambulance and they took her away.
she kept on telling everyone it was a joke what she did.
As mean as my dad is, he keeps on taking her back when he sees her sober.
although soon enough she will start drinking again.
It took her only 3 weeks and she was back onto the bottle.
Now im stuck with everybody telling me including lawyers and doctors that they cannot do anyhing for her and that she has to want it.
The only way we can force her is by taking her to court.
and take her "adultness" away. which means she has to go to a therapy program for a year
I dont know which option to choose.
One part of me is "let her be happy if she wants to drink"
and the other part is "but i love my mum when she is sober i dont want her to go im only 18 and i still need her"
I am sure you have so much love for naomi that is unable to describe.
But i hope that naomi doesnt let you down as much as my mother did through out these whole years.
When you have so much love for someone, the patience is unlimited.
you just keep on forgiving them, untill something bad happens and you blame your self for it because you think you could have made it better.
Where as in reality, you couldnt have changed it in any other way.
Originally Posted by valanhb
I'm so glad she's safe. It really does speak loads about her desire to get straight that she checked herself into a detox program, and wants to go into an inpatient program after detox. If she were taking you for a ride, she would have just come back home like nothing was wrong.
Addiction is such a strong pull, and heroin is stronger than a lot of people. Add bipolar and possible schitophrenia on top of it, and it's no wonder her body/mind let go even after the worst of the physical sickness was over. This isn't about giving her "permission" to go back to the city and shoot up. Just what was Gary supposed to do when she was trying to jump out of the car going 60 mph? Beat her into submission?