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Originally Posted by noni

And so when the time comes, she will pass with her family around her, loving her back to her Creator. She will leave her body behind, but will take all the love she has ever felt, and bring it with her to her escort angels. These angels will surround her, and continue the love she knows with her family. They will aid her, guide her, and sing her home, back into the Love That IS, and the Love That Always Will BE.

And some of that love she experiences will come back to you. Cindy, when you hold Charlie's hand, feel his love to you through his entwined fingers. Charlie, Cindy's love comes to you through her fingers nestled securely in yours. Together, you form a powerful connection with his mother, who is loving each of you through each other. She is sharing that love, that joy, that peace she now is enveloped in, with each of you, giving it to you to give away to the other. For in the giving is the completion of the circle, the endless circle of love and life and death and love. Give the love back, as it's given to you, and you complete the circle.

Grieve as you both must. Cry, and yell, and scream. And when it's out (and it must be let out), remember each other. Come together, and entwine your fingers together. And know that Mother is there again, the circle complete again, love flowing again.

For it is not Time which heals all wounds; it is Love which is the healer. And the circle the path that Love takes.

You both are in my thoughts and prayers, and may your Mother pass into the eternity of love and joy and peace surrounded by angels laughing.

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Michele, that is so beautiful! I don't think I've ever seen it put any better!

Currently with MIL, she's still holding on, but her BP is going down, her heartrate is speeding up as it tries to compensate for what it cannot do, and the time frame remains from " an hour to a week" as her dr. says, but at this point it is sooner rather than later, and truthfully, for this sweet lady, the sooner the better! I am at work today, will be leaving early to go back to the hospital to spend the night unless hub calls and tells me that she's gone. As far as the family, like one of her nephews put it last night, when she goes, we won't cry for her, 'cause she's home, and healthy. We will cry for ourselves, for our loss, but she hasn't lost anything, she's gained everything.
 

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Oh, and I wanted to share this little "thought" too. We were discussing the removal of the IV, and going with sub-lingual pain meds and such with her nurse this morning. She told us something that really helped, even as much as we understand the process. One day a "new" nurse asked her why dying like this takes so long, and she admitted to us that she didn't have an answer for her, but one of her superiors did........she feels like there's a "waiting line" to enter into heaven's gates, and the time they spend getting from life to death is just the time that they spend waiting in that line! I just thought that it was a neat way of visualising it!
 

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Originally Posted by KittenKrazy

Oh, and I wanted to share this little "thought" too. We were discussing the removal of the IV, and going with sub-lingual pain meds and such with her nurse this morning. She told us something that really helped, even as much as we understand the process. One day a "new" nurse asked her why dying like this takes so long, and she admitted to us that she didn't have an answer for her, but one of her superiors did........she feels like there's a "waiting line" to enter into heaven's gates, and the time they spend getting from life to death is just the time that they spend waiting in that line! I just thought that it was a neat way of visualising it!
That is a nice way to think of it Cindy....when my dad passed in March of 2003, we were all around him in his bed at home and Hospice had told us what to expect, that there would be one last big gasp, then he would be gone.....when our minister came to pray with us at Dads bedside, he told us that gasp we hear is the angels coming and pulling dad's soul from his body to take him to heaven....it did comfort us a bit. How I miss him, but he is in a better place.
So will your mother in law.
 

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Cindy, you all are still in my thoughts. You know I went through this only last month - it is hard watching love ones go - but it makes it a little easier when they are "ready" for it. I sure hope that doesn't offend. I agree I think that is a nice way of visualizing it.
 

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Cindy and you Susie i so wish i had been told that when i lost my dad!.

He was in a coma for a week and i heard those faint gasping noises the day before my dad died
That would have helped me when dad died i'm sure of it because its giving me some comfort now!


Still thinking of you all!
 

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Originally Posted by rosiemac

Cindy and you Susie i so wish i had been told that when i lost my dad!.

He was in a coma for a week and i heard those faint gasping noises the day before my dad died
That would have helped me when dad died i'm sure of it because its giving me some comfort now!


Still thinking of you all!
Aww Susan, even if it is years later, I'm glad that can help. We all felt better when our minister told us that........
 

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Cindy,

Please know that there are countless prayers flying for all of you from all points of the world, thanks to this community of caring individuals. Take care of yourself and each other, often during times like this we forget to do that as the world takes on a surreal meaning.

Hugs to you and Charlie during this exhausting, and emotional time.
 

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We still have you in our prayers Cindy, Charlie and his Mom too, and you all will continue to be in our prayers as long as you need~
 

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Well guys, as far as I'm concerned, the worlds best mother-in-law just left this world. Her battle is over, she's gone home to be with her Lord in heaven, and has been reunited with her husband and all her friends and family who have gone on before her.

R.I.P. Rita Marie Ball9/13/1928-12/9/2004
 

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RIP Mrs. Ball, may you find peace with the Lord in Heaven, and reunite with your loved ones, you will be missed here on Earth~

Cindy and Charlie, I am so sorry,

We are all here for you, whatever you need~
 
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