What Is The best And Worst Thing(s) Your Parents Taught You?

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The best things that my parents taught me (and I'm talking here about my mom and stepdad) is...

1. To treat your children as equals.
2. To be kind to non-human animals.
3. To be kind to humans.
4. To respect the environment.
5. To not be offended by any kind of art.
6. That swearing is ok as long as you don't take God's name in vain.
7. That there is a big difference between smoking pot and shooting heroin. In other words, there are drugs....and then there are DRUGS!

The worst things they taught me were...

1. That being embarrassed is a fate worse than death.
2. That you must be perfect at all times and be good at everything. Although my mom did say once; "You do have an IQ of 160. So, you're probably going to be good at everything you do." I think having brains and being a prefectionist does help...I usually am good at everything I choose to try. Except math...but most girls aren't good at math.

3. That if your family is wealthy you can get out of anything. My mom once threatened to sue a teacher if he ever called on me again when I didn't raise my hand! She told him; "It is wrong of you to call on students when their hands aren't raised, as you are just doing that to pick on them. If you do it to our daughter again...we'll sue you and you'll be fired." After that he never called on me and I passed his class with an A...but everyday he looked at me like he hated my guts.


People always wonder why I turned out so unselfish. I guess maybe I saw how bad selfishness can be.
 
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Good thread!

Let me start off by saying my parents had a very unorthodox parenting syle. They were not parent of the year material but they did the best they knew how. So keep that in mind as your read these. I love them to pieces but I choose to teach my children with a different syle!

Best things...

1. Stand up for yourself, don't let anyone push you around.
2. Money is not to be taken for granted, it's something you work hard at earning so don't just blow it.
3. Family comes first.
4. Don't try to be someone your not, just be yourself. Your friends will like you for who you are or not at all. (basically they would tell me screw them it's their loss
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5. Say what's is on your mind, everything should be out in the open.

The worst things...

All of the above. While I'm glad that I know you have to look out for number 1, it makes life hard. Sometimes I wish I could let myself count on other people or trust them like they trust me. Being indepented is a good thing but sometimes I just wish I could have learned to really blindly depend on someone without thinking they are always going to let me down. I feel like I look at life with a critical eye instead of rose colored glasses.

All that said I have a loving husband, beautiful children and a few great true friends. But I have to work at taking everthing into my own hands an blurting out every stupid thing that comes to my mind and making sure I always come out on top.
 
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My mother, grandmother and grandfather all had a hand in bringing me up.

The best things my mother taught me:

1. Treat all human beings as equals, have respect for all.
2. Never let an animal get hurt (which has got me into trouble many times).
3. Because my brother was the sunshine of her life she let me go my own way and I was able to find my own path and become independent at an early age, this includes being emotionally independent (so I like to think).
4. Revere God.
5. Take care of your family.

The worse things:

1. She was a perfectionist and I never felt I was good enough for her.


My grandmother taught me how to love people. She never taught me anything bad I loved her to bits.

My grandfather taught me how to always hold my head up no matter what.

The bad things I will not go into but it resulted in me being very emotionally independent and so although I love people very much I can shoulder any heartbreaks or disasters, which may have meant to have been when I look back at all the things I have been through.

I can pick up peoples feelings and even some of their thoughts because of my childhood.

All these people are now over the bridge and Mum I miss you so much, but thank you for all you have done for me. I love her.
 
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Most of the lessons my parents taught were by example...

The good stuff...

From my Father...

1. You aren't better than anyone else.
2. If you see someone in need help out (He used to bring home all kinds of strays as my mother called them...people, animals it didn't matter he always went the extra step.)
3. There are few things in this world better than having an animal look up at you with love.
4. Family is the most important thing in this life. Make sure you make time for them.
5. There is always enough room for chocolate.


From my Mother...

1. Your education is important so make sure you treat it with the attention it deserves.
2. Find a job that you enjoy and alway keep learning.
3. Patience is a virtue especially when dealing with family.
4. Tell the people you love that you love them often. You never know when you won't have the chance anymore.
5. Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life...chances are you know best.

The bad stuff...

1. It's okay to be walked all over as long as it's friends and family. I'm still working on not allowing this.
2. Hiding your emotions is the route to go...cause no one wants to hear about how upset you are.
3. Don't say anything bad about anybody...even if they deserve it. (This one I got over as a teenager and it embarasses my mother to no end.)
 
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GrayKittenLove said:
Most of the lessons my parents taught were by example...

From my Mother...

1. Your education is important so make sure you treat it with the attention it deserves.
2. Find a job that you enjoy and alway keep learning.

Those are VERY important! Your mommy is awesome!
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vinceneilsgirl said:
Originally Posted by GrayKittenLove

Most of the lessons my parents taught were by example...

From my Mother...

1. Your education is important so make sure you treat it with the attention it deserves.
2. Find a job that you enjoy and alway keep learning.

Those are VERY important! Your mommy is awesome!
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Thanks, I like to think so.
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Best things my parents taught me:

1) Education is important. I'll keep learning till I die.
2) My work ethics. Always give 110% and nothing less.
3) Never air your dirty laundry in public.
4) Family is important.
5) Family comes from many different places. We have alot of "family" that was born totally unrelated to me. My best friend calls my mother Mom.

Worst things my parents taught me:

1) (from my dad) CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS People think I'm an extremely cold person since my emotions are always under wraps. Oh, I can type anger, but in real life, forget it. I can't get angry. Instead of blazing like I want to, I cry.
2) My work ethics. I can't understand people who DON'T give 110% to everything. Even when I'm volunteering and not getting paid, they get a minimum of 110% since they need the help more.

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Best things learned or inherited from my mother:

1. Love and have a relationship with God.
2. Don't go into debt
3. Love who you are
4. Help others in need
5. Be a good listener
6. Take good care of your belongings

Worst things learned or inherited from my mother:

1. Complain often
2. Be self-critical
3. Worry about what others think about your actions/dress/behavior
4. Be intolerant of other religions
5. Animals are expendable (obviously I never listened to THIS attitude!)

Best things learned/inherited from my father:

1. Take good care of your personal belongings
2. Be organized with bill paying
3. Have and enjoy pets
4. Take time for fun
5. Help others


Worst things learned/inherited from my father:

1. Pouting/sulking
2. Acting selfish/immature
3. Self-centered at times
4. Negative outlook on EVERYTHING!!
5. Rebel against authority
 
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Originally Posted by catlover67

Best things learned or inherited from my mother:

1. Love and have a relationship with God.
2. Don't go into debt
3. Love who you are
4. Help others in need
5. Be a good listener
6. Take good care of your belongings

Worst things learned or inherited from my mother:

1. Complain often
2. Be self-critical
3. Worry about what others think about your actions/dress/behavior
4. Be intolerant of other religions
5. Animals are expendable (obviously I never listened to THIS attitude!)

Best things learned/inherited from my father:

1. Take good care of your personal belongings
2. Be organized with bill paying
3. Have and enjoy pets
4. Take time for fun
5. Help others


Worst things learned/inherited from my father:

1. Pouting/sulking
2. Acting selfish/immature
3. Self-centered at times
4. Negative outlook on EVERYTHING!!
5. Rebel against authority
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Sometime authority NEEDS to be rebelled against. Remember, Hitler was an "authority". Think of how many more people would have died if no one had rebelled against him.
 
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I've been thinking about this since you posted the thread.... It's hard to boil it down into just a few simple sentences.

Good things:

1. Be assertive. (Dad drilled me on this because I was a very shy child....I hated it then, but I understand why he did it now.)
2. Be responsible with money and save! (I'm still working on this one. Did OK until I met my Gemini hubby who sees no point in keeping money around just to save it....
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3. Stand up for what you believe in.
4. Respect nature and all animals.

5. Work ethic - Give your best effort at everything you do.

Bad things (Well, sometimes good and sometimes bad....)

1. Being opinionated. I get this from Dad. There is nothing he doesn't have an opinion on!
2. Being loyal to a fault. Generally a good thing, but I have stayed in pretty bad work conditions because of being "loyal" to the company.
3. Putting worthy causes before family. This wasn't taught as a phrase, but by actions. Mom did it to us with volunteering and working for the church, I do it with the websites I work with...
 
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Wow good but hard thread!


I would have to say that the good things my parents Taught me are:
1. respect
2. honesty.
3. fun

4. Always be the best friend you can be.
5. don't hide your love for some one or something
6. Sense of humor.

The wosrt:

1. money management, I was given what I wanted no matter the cost. so I learned to just buy what I want if I could afford it or not. Luckly I know I have this problem and have been doing GREAT about not buying stuff......well except I just went and bought me a new $130 cell phone.
2. Don't cry in front of anyone. This was unspoken. But was still very much present. I used to hide in my closet in my bedroom when I wanted to cry. or I would cry while I was in the shower.
3. My mom taught me that no matter what I did I was never gonna be as good as my Brother.



Yup that's about it.
 
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