I've mentioned Red Cat's anxiety problem in a couple of other threads. He was about three years old when I got him; he's been here for five years. He was an incredibly scared kitty when I got him. He'd been abandoned in winter, then treated as an outdoor cat by a second family. He is still so terrified of others that the second thing (after getting the demanded petting) he does after coming in from outside each day is to check to make certain I've left the storage room door unlatched as an emergency hiding spot, should anyone else arrive. So he is high-strung, like I am, and I don't expect to be able to change his basic personality.
But I have been confused about why he started licking his belly hairless and pulling his hair out about a year ago. It started a bit before my husband died, but became much worse afterward. He wasn't very attached to my husband, so the vet's suggestion that Red Cat might still be in mourning just didn't seem plausible.
But lately I've been reading quite a bit on this and other websites about cats. And one thing I came across several times in the past few days was that cats like routine. Oh, oh!
Then I read one should try to think like a cat. In trying that, I come up with something like this: I just don't know what to do with that woman. I've been trying to train her for five years, and nothing I do seems to help. I can't get her to go to bed at a reasonable hour. I never know when she is going to eat or sleep or sew or be at that stupid computer. She may be on one schedule for a day or two, then something totally different. I'm to the point I am just pulling my hair out over this!
Do you think that could be the problem? I do have a sleep disorder. If awakened for any reason after three or four hours of sleep, I'm unable to get back to sleep for at least another three or four hours, so I often get up and get on the computer or sew or do housework. Then I take a long nap later, sometimes morning, sometimes afternoon. And I eat whenever. Dinner might be 5:00 one night and midnight the next. Schedules were crazy when my husband was alive, but at least then I kept meals closer to the same time each day. So the schedule, if one can call it that, is much more chaotic now.
If this is the problem affecting Red Cat, this is going to be far more difficult than just giving him a pill or giving him more attention. I'm going to have to change ME! Yikes!
But I have been confused about why he started licking his belly hairless and pulling his hair out about a year ago. It started a bit before my husband died, but became much worse afterward. He wasn't very attached to my husband, so the vet's suggestion that Red Cat might still be in mourning just didn't seem plausible.
But lately I've been reading quite a bit on this and other websites about cats. And one thing I came across several times in the past few days was that cats like routine. Oh, oh!
Then I read one should try to think like a cat. In trying that, I come up with something like this: I just don't know what to do with that woman. I've been trying to train her for five years, and nothing I do seems to help. I can't get her to go to bed at a reasonable hour. I never know when she is going to eat or sleep or sew or be at that stupid computer. She may be on one schedule for a day or two, then something totally different. I'm to the point I am just pulling my hair out over this!
Do you think that could be the problem? I do have a sleep disorder. If awakened for any reason after three or four hours of sleep, I'm unable to get back to sleep for at least another three or four hours, so I often get up and get on the computer or sew or do housework. Then I take a long nap later, sometimes morning, sometimes afternoon. And I eat whenever. Dinner might be 5:00 one night and midnight the next. Schedules were crazy when my husband was alive, but at least then I kept meals closer to the same time each day. So the schedule, if one can call it that, is much more chaotic now.
If this is the problem affecting Red Cat, this is going to be far more difficult than just giving him a pill or giving him more attention. I'm going to have to change ME! Yikes!