I have posted this on other boards on child raising websites and gotten no responses and I thought if you all are as helpful with kids as you are with cats, I may get some new ideas.
My son, who will be 7 in April, is still having accidents in his pants. This has been an ongoing thing since he has been out of diapers. I didnt actually potty train my kids, I let them do it at their own pace with reinforcement and rewards. I have no problems with my youngest, who will be 5 in June, but I am at my wits end with my oldest. He will do very well for about 3 months then relapses into an accident or two--sometimes more each day. I have taken him to the doctor and they cant find anything physically wrong with him. They only suggest that I find a new reward/discipline system. After 4 years, Im a bit out of creative ideas. I have tried money, candy, small toys, stickers, a calendar to keep track of his going to the bathroom with rewards at the end of the week, saying things like "great job", "Im proud of you", "what a big boy you are"..for discipline I have sent to bed early, taken away privileges such as: gameboy, playstation, tv, staying inside for the day. I hate to punish him for accidents, I dont find it to be useful. Nothing seems to work, even if I change them from day to day. Ive tried talking to him about it and what the problem is and get "I dont know" and "nothing" in response. What am I doing wrong???Any new ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
My son, who will be 7 in April, is still having accidents in his pants. This has been an ongoing thing since he has been out of diapers. I didnt actually potty train my kids, I let them do it at their own pace with reinforcement and rewards. I have no problems with my youngest, who will be 5 in June, but I am at my wits end with my oldest. He will do very well for about 3 months then relapses into an accident or two--sometimes more each day. I have taken him to the doctor and they cant find anything physically wrong with him. They only suggest that I find a new reward/discipline system. After 4 years, Im a bit out of creative ideas. I have tried money, candy, small toys, stickers, a calendar to keep track of his going to the bathroom with rewards at the end of the week, saying things like "great job", "Im proud of you", "what a big boy you are"..for discipline I have sent to bed early, taken away privileges such as: gameboy, playstation, tv, staying inside for the day. I hate to punish him for accidents, I dont find it to be useful. Nothing seems to work, even if I change them from day to day. Ive tried talking to him about it and what the problem is and get "I dont know" and "nothing" in response. What am I doing wrong???Any new ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.