I am just agonizing over this. We all do. My Wisner has end-stage kidney disease and has lost half her weight. I am hand-feeding her: she will eat only a spoonful ate a time, so I have to stop everything I am doing (and stop sleeping, too) in order to get anything into her. The other 4 cats will fight to get her food, so I have to fend them off at the same time. This takes 15 minutes or more 10 or more times a day;.
She is getting fluids but is still failing. Tomorrow I will get her an anti-nausea shot, which will help. I spoke with the vet about the decision, mainly when, not if, and she said there will come a point where the fluids will no longer work.
I think we are at that point now. But she is sticking close to me, snuggling with me in bed (she never, ever did this when she was well, she was a very aloof cat who gave me almost nothing in affection). IU have seen with my other cats who died that they do this closeness when they are about to die. I need to let go of her.
But she is not in pain, she is affectionate...I cannot do it. My problem is that I am very tired out from all this care and coming to be a bit angry at the others for trying to steal her food. This process is not good for *me*. I hate to say; that, but it's wearing me out.
Please, I feel terrible about feeling this way...has anyone been through a similar experience. Also, I have to devote so much energy to her that the others are not getting their share. Please help, thanks.
She is getting fluids but is still failing. Tomorrow I will get her an anti-nausea shot, which will help. I spoke with the vet about the decision, mainly when, not if, and she said there will come a point where the fluids will no longer work.
I think we are at that point now. But she is sticking close to me, snuggling with me in bed (she never, ever did this when she was well, she was a very aloof cat who gave me almost nothing in affection). IU have seen with my other cats who died that they do this closeness when they are about to die. I need to let go of her.
But she is not in pain, she is affectionate...I cannot do it. My problem is that I am very tired out from all this care and coming to be a bit angry at the others for trying to steal her food. This process is not good for *me*. I hate to say; that, but it's wearing me out.
Please, I feel terrible about feeling this way...has anyone been through a similar experience. Also, I have to devote so much energy to her that the others are not getting their share. Please help, thanks.