If it helps the kitten of mine that's gone already settled really quickly, less than 24 hours and she was sleeping in the resident cats bed (her new 'sister' is 5 months old so still a kitten) and said cat was relegated to the newcomers bed lol, fast forward a week and the 2 of them are sleeping on my friends bed together posing for a cute picture. I'm sure your little one is settled already :-)
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Distressed about finding new forever homes for our babies!
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Aww thanks guys. That's great to hear. I am in Melbourne Australia. Just got an email back from the new owner saying that she's settling in well (even got a photo). Only thing I'm concerned about is that she's told me her older cat has been hissing and growling at her (which is to be expected) but she didn't separate them which I told her would be best at least for the first few days.
The other thing is that mumma has been looking around the house for her and her cries are heartbreaking!
The other thing is that mumma has been looking around the house for her and her cries are heartbreaking!
Honestly, Mum will settle down in time.
I was looking into rehoming your boys and wondered whether PetRescue here in Australia allows people to advertise. Unfortunately they don't - only Rescue organisations and shelters - but they do have a good article on rehoming here. It's about all pets, and some of the info isn't relevant, but it's helpful in terms of how to get the message out and screening people.
Good luck.
I was looking into rehoming your boys and wondered whether PetRescue here in Australia allows people to advertise. Unfortunately they don't - only Rescue organisations and shelters - but they do have a good article on rehoming here. It's about all pets, and some of the info isn't relevant, but it's helpful in terms of how to get the message out and screening people.
Good luck.
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We met some potential owners today who were absolutely perfect and live just around the corner from us and they were interested in both the boys, but she has just told me that her husband doesn't want 2 cats I feel that he will be lonely on his own since they dont have any other pets and our kittens have grown up in a multiple cat household. I would feel guilty splitting them up also because they are very close and love playing together
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Should I be concerned about sending individual kittens to homes without other pets when they have always lived with multiple cats? Potential owners always tell me that the cat will get lots of attention but I'm worried that they will get lonely especially when no one is home.
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Id say dont worry about other pets, apart from birds >.
I'd say worry more about whether the humans are suitable, you may find people who are perfect but for whatever reason only want the one cat compared to those who have multiple cats / pets already but just aren't as perfect. One of my kittens will be an only pet but as he's going to my parents and they're retired so home most days I'm not worried, I'm sure he'll adjust fine as yours will too.
Sorry about the heartbreak of mama cat looking for her baby. That's why I always take the mama cats along, if I have the mama cats, when I'm taking babies for either meet & greet or adoption. I explain that mama will come along too and if they have other pets I request they confine them elsewhere. That way mama gets to check out the space and see that it's safe, and show the babies it's safe by her reactions. Then I pack up mama and any remaining babies and take them home, leaving the adopted kitten behind. Although mama yells at me all the way home, telling me I forgot someone, and stupid human, why can't I add -- but when we get home, she doesn't look around and call for the missing baby. She knows where it is. The stupid human left it at the place she just visited. I went through the heartbreak of the mama looking for the lost baby once, just once, and will never do it again, too painful for me and for her. All the adopters over many years have been just fine with it and have understood why I do it. If they refused, they would never even meet the kittens, but they are warm and friendly animal lovers so they understand. And the babies do fine as only kittens as long as they are old enough when adopted, which yours are. I feel bad for the little 6-week-olds who have no siblings to play with, but the 3-4 month olds are perfectly fine, they already learned their manners.
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That is a great idea and one I have considered. I get so many people chuckling when I say that we want to meet potential owners first and that we will bring the kitten to their house, I can just imagine the reaction I'd get if I said we were bringing the mother cat along too! It is so hard to find people that don't see it as just a transaction!
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I haven't heard from the new owner of our first baby that went to her new home last week. She sent me one email and photo (which I know is probably more than most) but she hasn't replied to my last two emails. My husband suggested we ask if it would be ok to drop by the next time we're in the area. Obviously she has been avoiding me since. It is so disappointing when they seem so nice at first and then you realise they're not the people you thought they'd be.
Now I feel bad. The guy I got my cat from emailed me a couple weeks ago and I never got back to him. I will go do that now.
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I think you need to be careful not to be overwhelming. I hope you do not take this bad, but it has been one week and she contacted you once already. How often are you emailing her? Do you expect her to call or check in everyday? When I got my pug, I had to sign a contract, I had to send her proof I neutered my pug by 6 months and send in pictures at 6 months and a year so she could see he was in good health etc. We ended up really good friends and I sent her new pictures almost daily... But if she would of been on me everyday asking if my dog was okay, I think I would of distanced myself. I want to enjoy my dog/kitten, not worry about the people who I got them from checking in on me everyday or randomly dropping by. It is not fair to say that they "aren't what you expected" Maybe they have other stuff going on, maybe they do not check their email a lot. You are just assuming after a week that she is now avoiding you.
I also think you are worrying way to much about them going together. We recently got a kitten and she came by herself (we have two other cats) and she adjusted within a couple of hours. By morning, you would of thought she was born here.
I also think you are worrying way to much about them going together. We recently got a kitten and she came by herself (we have two other cats) and she adjusted within a couple of hours. By morning, you would of thought she was born here.
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I can see how this could come across this way but I definitely do not expect her to email me every day. I just wanted a response to my question and I certainly don't want to just come by unexpected. I was just concerned how she would cope with getting along with an older, much bigger cat. Although now I feel like I was probably being annoying.
Just give them sometime and try not to assume they are just avoiding you. I think it's awesome that you want something to do with the kitten! The kitten we got, after we got home I sent a quick message to the people we got her from and told them that she was a doll and we loved her.. the response was "you got her now, what do I care?". It made me sad, but their loss. I wish there were more people out there like you,. You just have to walk a fine line, because some people can be put off, ya know?
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So sorry the people you got your kitten from @MeowKittyMeow were so cold. You did the right thing, though, because any normal cat lover would have wanted to hear. In my experience, some adopters do become friends, and others still report in yearly at the anniversary of their adoption. I do always check once or twice -- once if all is well, and twice if there's something still being worked out like with another cat. Then I let go and leave the kitten's care to the Cat Goddess.
That is a good idea.
Mew's foster dad did not want to let her go, but did.
Ana and Elsie's foster mom wated them gone. "Yesterday now". She was getting two puppies. A rottweiller and a bulldog. Plus she was getting an adult parrot like bird. Made me kind of sad.
Wally's foster parents were sad to see him go. More so the mom, but the dad admitted feelings for Wally. Awwwe. I need or want to send an update Wally's foster parents. I lost my phone (found it!) which has their number on it.
Each foster parent(s) are in my phone as "Wally's f.parents" or which ever kitten(s) it is. I thought it would be nice to update them. Maybe not? No one asked me to.
Mew's foster dad did not want to let her go, but did.
Ana and Elsie's foster mom wated them gone. "Yesterday now". She was getting two puppies. A rottweiller and a bulldog. Plus she was getting an adult parrot like bird. Made me kind of sad.
Wally's foster parents were sad to see him go. More so the mom, but the dad admitted feelings for Wally. Awwwe. I need or want to send an update Wally's foster parents. I lost my phone (found it!) which has their number on it.
Each foster parent(s) are in my phone as "Wally's f.parents" or which ever kitten(s) it is. I thought it would be nice to update them. Maybe not? No one asked me to.
