Can't Get Over The Loss

Yesterday we made the decision to put our 6-year old furball down after a long night battling to stay alive. He became sick so suddenly, wouldn't eat and started vomiting. We took him to the vet who couldn't find anything wrong with him, so we took him home.

Two more days of very little drinking and no eating and we took him back to the vet, who hooked him up to IV's and noticed his blood pressure dropping quickly. They transferred him to a specialist pet hospital, we begged and borrowed from everybody we knew for the $1000 a night cost, and his lungs started to fail. X-rays, blood tests, everything failed to find a cause. At 9:30 in the morning the doctors declared there was nothing they could do to save him. We saw him one last time. When he saw us, heard our voices and felt us petting him he calmed down and laid his head down peacefully. Then they took him away and he was gone

I'm a grown man and my wife is a grown woman, but we're both devastated and can't stop crying. I've lost other cats before but this one was special. He was so loving and bonded so closely to us (he was a rescue). We really did lose a member of our family, and I hope we can get through this grieving process without losing our jobs or hope.

When they go quickly like that, it is another blow to your psyche. Plus he was a young cat, so no way could you have prepared yourselves. Time will help you grieve. As a rescue, he was an especially lucky kitty to have found such caring humans.

You did everything you could, so know he is in a better place.

I am so sorry, nadres! What a beautiful picture, with a beautiful wife and a beautiful kitty.

How horribly unexpected, sudden, confusing, and how horribly too soon. How good it is that you were able to try to fit for him and then to make his last moments peaceful. I know he appreciated it and the wonderful life you gave him.

Nonstop crying the day after is pretty normal for an animal you were so bonded with, I think. Its okay to cry, and its okay to feel as devastated as you do. It may or may not go on for a few days. At some point, it will become intermittent crying. Then maybe once a day. Then maybe once a week. Eventually, you will come to smile at his memory more than cry, but that will take time.

You will in all likelihood get through this with your job intact. If you are having significant troubling functioning after a week or two, find a good therapist who also takes seriously the grieving process after the death of a pet. But I don't think that will be the case, though you may still be very sad. It's too soon to start worrying that your life will be ruined by this present, boundless grief, and you're already dealing with enough without that on your shoulders. Let it go. You don't feel okay, but you will be okay.

I hope you and your wife continue to be gentle and good to yourselves and each other during this difficult time. It can be very helpful to have another person who knows how special that pet was to grieve with. I hope you spend some quality time remembering Kitty together. I am so sorry for your loss.

I am soo sorry for your loss.i am new here under the name Shayna Punim.Today i have to take Shayna and pts .She is 16 and 1/2 and has now stopped eatting.She has a large mass iin her abdomen.Already i can;t stop crying and i can't imagine life without her.i found this site yesterday and am looking for ppl that understand We  lost our human freind New Years eve,this is sooo painful.

It must be devastating to lose such a young cat so quickly, and deep grief is a natural reaction. In a couple of days or weeks it won't be quite so overwhelming, and with time the happy memories will crowd out the heartbreaking ones you have right now. I'm very sorry for your loss.

RIP, little one.

Thank you for your kind wishes everybody. We both went back to work and functioned in a kind of robotic way at our respective jobs, but got through the day.

The support offered by this community is very helpful. It's sad to read of so many people suffering the same loss, but comforting to know there are so many people to offer support. Our feline family members are just as important to us as a human family member and the people on this site recognize that. Thanks again everybody.

I am soo sorry for your loss.i'm in the same place.I had to pts my Shayna yesterday. I haven't slept(she slept with me every night for 16and 1/2 years)it's a horrible feeling,i can't stop crying and I keep looking for her.i have her sister with me but they were 2 different little ppl with fur.

So sorry Nadres for your family, and Shayna Punim. We are in the worst club together as we put one foot in front of the other without our children/best friends. It's been 3 days and one hour since we said goodbye to ours after 16 years of amazing companionship. He made us laugh so much! I just closed the linen closet door for the first time since we moved here, since the 2nd shelf was reserved for his Summer naps We cry less each day, and recall the camping trips he tripped out the campers on by walking on a leash like all the "big dogs" . We have to accept this as we do our own mortality. I have Taboo's ashes and his shredded whiskers and a few toenails to have put with me when I go ) Alot of good support and caring cat parents here, too bad all cats can't have such love ! We will never stop missing our special babies, God willing

Thank you and sorry for your loss too.I just keep looking for her and her sweet voice.this is a horrible group to be in but it is also nice to know we are not going threw this alone.Shayna was a rescue(from 10 weeks old)I gave her the best love and life and still have her sister but I miss her soooo much.She was such a special girl.I'm  just looking at pictures of her

So sad to hear of your loss. We too had an unexpected loss of our cat recently. It took us a while to overcome the grieving process. Everytime I would think of her I would lose it. Our home seemed so empty. I try to remember the good times and the memories of her. It helps but we know its not the same.

I am going through a similar experience.
My beautiful 23 year old tabby passed away in my husband's arms on 19th June which happened to be my birthday. I posted a
message last week under her name.
It was her time to go suspected kidney
deterioration and she could hardly walk without falling over but was eating a little and drinking up to the end.
Every morning I wake up and for a blissful
second I forget then it all come crashing
down on me and I get a sick churning feeling
in the pit of my stomach which stays with me
all day.
When her sister Chloe died in her sleep Jan
2009 it was dreadful but at least we still had Sophie to love and care for. Now the house is so empty. I see signs of her everywhere I go especially her fur as she was a long haired cat looked like a Maine Coon but wasn't.
I am even wearing her collar as a comfort.
She turned into a lapcat in her dotage so
whenever I sit down the pain is worse.
I got some Ignatia homeopathic pills from a health food store which takes the raw edge
off and helps sleep so I can recommend this.
Does anyone else experience this feeling that your insides have been pulled apart?
My husband doesn't like going over it all again and deals with it in his way ( his own mother just dying 2 months ago too) so this
site is a godsend.

Linda55