When does it get easier?

I lost my wonderful boy, Grey Goose, very suddenly on 3/6. He was only 3. He was my best friend. The 14 months that my husband and I had him were the best of our lives. I miss him every day. This is the first time my husband or I have ever lost a pet, and he's having a hard time too, but I cry every day, and I think of him constantly. And I'm pregnant, which makes the loss even harder to cope with. Four weeks ago, I adopted a new cat, Noodles, and he's so sweet and adorable, but I can't let myself love him the way I loved my Goose. I am so new to owning cats and losing cats. Can someone tell me when I will stop crying over Grey Goose, and start feeling like Noodles is "my" cat? I want to love him, but I'm so scared something will happen to him.

You will bond with your newbie( and I am glad you adopted another kitty, sometimes people say they are not ready, but cats waiting in a shelter ARE ready ). I suggest you do something with him, like brush him and add a little baby talk or play with him, just give him lots of attention. I know you may not feel motivated right now, especially being preggos and grieving your loss of Goose. But I think this will help you get to know Noodles better. It's not common to lose a cat that young. If you keep Noodles as a indoor cat he may live for 15 plus years. It will get easier as time goes by, but you will always have a special feeling for your 1st kitty.

It will get easier to bear the loss with time and as you bond more with Noodles. Your emotions are still too raw right now, but you'll find yourself thinking more of the good times you shared with Grey Goose and less about losing him so soon. Noodles will find his own place in your heart if you let him. He needs your love, so try to swallow your fear and let yourself love him.

I lost my Chrissy on Dec. 8th and for the first 2 months I did cry daily. I tell my mind to STOP when I start to think really sad thoughts now and it does help. I don't cry daily now, that's an improvement, although Everyone is different on how long it takes to adjust to your loss, I'm still waiting to remember with smiles and not tears. I think it's a matter of adjusting to a new normal, it will never be the same as before. We have to make up our minds how we want the future to be, sad and full of tears (and this is not really fair to others) or full of hope and happiness. With your new baby coming this is a time of hormones and uncertainty, which definitly doesn't help. A new baby will help fill your days with love and happiness, it will take your mind off of your sadness which is what can help. Your new kitty will not replace your lost one, but please let Noodles into your heart, he deserves a place there too. You will learn to love him. Grey Goose would want that, I know our babies would not want us to be so sad. Mourning him is right, but he will be forever in your heart, and he is waiting for you both at the Rainbow Bridge . Ask him for a sign he is allright, I know it sounds crazy but you'll see! My husband begged Chrissy for a sign and a shooting star shot sideways acrss the sky! How do you explain that?  I started crying one day in the car, I spoke out loud, Chrissy, please tell me you're all right!, right then a cat walked out and sat by the side of the road that looked just like her. I've never seen the cat since. Please know that we all share your pain and want to help. We all need time.

Thank you all for your replies. I'm sure pregnancy is making it harder. The past few days, Noodles and I have been cuddling, and he really is very special.
 

EricaWR82 said:

  The past few days, Noodles and I have been cuddling, and he really is very special.
 

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I'm please to read this because you can both comfort each other

RIP Grey Goose

Grey Goose