Venting helps...

You guys should be very proud of me because despite the desire to argue I think I handled this situation with my boyfriends sister quite well...

She BBM'ed me this morning and this was how the conversation went:

Mare!: Hey
*Lyz*: Hey
Mare!: Let me ask u something y doesn't my brother like me
*Lyz*: That's between the two of you... Ask him...
Mare!: Really well I really just opened my eyed lastnight I don't have a brother!
Mare!: Point blank
Mare!: Well everytime I ask him to use his truck its a problem when u drive his truck its different well he could drop the f* dead I'm f*n done!!!
Mare!: He better start looking for somewhere to live
*Lyz*: Again... This is all between the two of you and I'm not getting involved...
Mare!: Well what does he say about me because I know he talks sh*t about me
*Lyz*: But for the record... I have my own car and I don't drive his truck when he is not home...
*Lyz*: And his living situation is between him and your mother...
Mare!: nope because now I'm involve f* him
Mare!: When was the last time he came up and hung out with my kids what a GREAT uncle and god father he is
*Lyz*: Mare, honestly, not to be rude... But the 2 of you need to deal with whatever issues you have like adults... And I really don't need to be put in between...
Mare!: Well my issues went on the table last night with him and now I'm done!!!
*Lyz*: Ok

This is how I would have liked to answer her...

Mare!: Hey
*Lyz*: What do you want, now??
Mare!: Let me ask u something y doesn't my brother like me
*Lyz*: Because you're a (female dog) and you treat him like (crap). You steal money from him and your mother. You manipulate him into helping you and he doesnt get so-much as a thank you. You think everything is owed to you. You don't know how to have a normal conversation without screaming and yelling. You're a drama queen and you're not happy unless you are making other people miserable... is that enough or shall I continue??
Mare!: Really well I really just opened my eyed lastnight I don't have a brother!
Mare!: Point blank
*Lyz*: Good because he'd be much happier if you stopped calling him and aggravating him on a constant basis, anyway.
Mare!: Well everytime I ask him to use his truck its a problem when u drive his truck its different well he could drop the f* dead I'm f*n done!!!
*Lyz*: It's different because I'm good to him and I don't take advantage of him. I don't borrow his truck for one purpose and then use it for another... and I don't give it back to him with an empty tank of gas.
*Lyz*: But for the record... I have my own car and I don't drive his truck when he is not home...
Mare!: He better start looking for somewhere to live
*Lyz*: That is not your decision because he lives with your mother (2 days a week when he's not in Virginia) not with you... and you do nothing to help your mother anyway because her house looks like it should be on an episode of Hoarders and you do nothing to help her clean it... He's in Virginia Monday - Friday, what's your excuse for not helping her?!?!
Mare!: Well what does he say about me because I know he talks sh*t about me
*Lyz*: He says you're a (female dog) and he doesnt want anything to do with you. He doesnt ask you where you are because he doesnt care where you are or what you're doing so he'd prefer that you stop asking me where he is or what he's doing... He says that you don't know how to take care of your own kids... He says that you and your husband are lazy, good-for-nothing, creeps and he wishes you'd both just leave him alone... should I keep going?
Mare!: nope because now I'm involve f* him
*Lyz*: You're always involving yourself in situations that are none of your business... You're mother will set you straight when you try to tell her to throw her son out onto the street because you can't get your way!!
Mare!: When was the last time he came up and hung out with my kids what a GREAT uncle and god father he is
*Lyz*: He doesnt want to hang out with your kids because they don't know how to behave and they curse at him and hit him. They treat him the way that you treat him, like he's stupid and doesnt deserve respect. Not to mention that he doesnt want to hang out at your house because everyone in your house gives him a headache because none of you known how to speak at a volume below SCREAM! AND we bought your daughter a birthday present and neither of us received a Thank you... so don't expect anything for either of them for Christmas... especially from me, when your son tried to kick me the last time I was there...
Mare!: Well my issues went on the table last night with him and now I'm done!!!
*Lyz*: So, you called him and threw a tantrum while he was driving 6 hours to Virginia because he wont let you borrow his brand new truck after the last time when you told him that you would crash his truck into a wall because you don't give a (crap) about him or his truck? That's nice... It would have almost been worth the loss of the truck to get rid of you...

Sorry guys, I got a little mean towards the end because the more I wrote the more angry I got... Someday I'm really going to explode

Ugh I felt that way about my SIL. I have a blog where I take emails/BBM/FB convos and respond to them how I'd really like to Makes me feel better.

You handled it very well and mature.

Thanks Tara! I have a feeling that I'm going to have to do the same thing... because she is constantly trying to start trouble and I desperately want to tell her off...

Now, I feel bad because on my way home from work, BF called me and wanted to know what happened this morning... so I started telling him... and he got so mad... not at me, of course... but now I feel like I shouldnt even tell him what she says anymore because I know that she's only telling me these things so that they get back to him so she can hurt him through me...

People are so childish... poor BF

Luckily my BIL divorced my now ex-SIL. I was getting very close to slipping when talking to her. I also had to be careful not to slip to him either when around him, it was so hard to not tell him some of the stuff she'd say. One time I did tell him she was blaming him about her crappy life on FB (she knew he didn't have one). That night he signed up for one She continued to openly rant about him on there! She walked out at the end of July, and he's been happier than he's been in the last 3+ years and hopes to never see her miserable face again.

Unfortunately in your situation, it's your BF's sister, and family that isn't going anywhere. Make a vent blog, its nice Mine is privatized so only I could see it, in case she went searching somehow. I also have emails on there from the pole fitness studio (responded to them professionally in the email, and how I really wanted to in my blog!), and some FB conversations with people.

Stinks she's constantly bugging you about things you don't need to be in the middle of. Just to cause more drama.

Edit: The most fun I had was putting FB statuses directed at her, but without a name, and she'd click "Like" thinking they were about someone else Slightly immature, but easier than starting familial drama. (My in-laws all disliked her, but had to keep the peace)

Originally Posted by Tara & Rob

Edit: The most fun I had was putting FB statuses directed at her, but without a name, and she'd click "Like" thinking they were about someone else

Slightly immature, but easier than starting familial drama. (My in-laws all disliked her, but had to keep the peace)

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I do this all the time... I write statuses directed at a few people at once in very general terms and it's ALWAYS the ones that I'm referring to that comment or "Like" the status... LOL!

Congrats to your BIL! Thank God he got rid of her and is happy!

Im definitely gonna start a blog! It should be quite entertaining!

Wow, how OLD is this woman?!? She doesn't seem like the brightest bulb in the bunch obviously and needs to grow up a little.

You handled the situation VERY well. Kudos to you hun!

I agree; you handled this really well. I'm afraid I would have sailed into her, but it seriously sounds as if she deserves it.

Kailie, she's 32 years old!! My BF is 35 and she treats him like he is her son! and he is fed-up with it all... She has taken advantage of him all of his life. She disrespects him and treats him like he is stupid and her husband and kids follow suit...

Those days are OVER, now! I refuse to allow ANYONE to take advantage of him... We've all known each other since we were little kids but until BF and I started dating, I didnt know how bad things were... I know that she's his sister and I'm his girlfriend but I will not allow her to hurt him anymore... She doesnt know how DONE she really is!

She makes me soooo mad!! I spoke to him last night and he said that he told his mother that he refuses to spend the holidays with them... and I don't blame him... I told him over the weekend that "I'm sorry but I really don't want to go there because I can't handle the drama"

Libby, you have no idea how bad I wanted to answer her just how I did in my OP... I am so tired of keeping my mouth shut for the sake of everyone else...