Twice in one year...an update.

Deeply sorry for your loss.

Originally Posted by kluchetta

My gosh, I'm so sorry, I remember the last one too.

And to be preparing and everything...

Your feelings and DHs will be different regarding this...men want to "fix" things, and his way of "fixing" it is probably just to try again. So he's not trying to be insensitive. We are more emotional, usually, and really want to mull it over first. My best to both of you.

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I so think this is true!!!!

Sweetie, I am SO sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are a lot of children out there that need a home. Just something to think about.

Originally Posted by kluchetta

My gosh, I'm so sorry, I remember the last one too.

And to be preparing and everything...

Your feelings and DHs will be different regarding this...men want to "fix" things, and his way of "fixing" it is probably just to try again. So he's not trying to be insensitive. We are more emotional, usually, and really want to mull it over first. My best to both of you.

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Originally Posted by LDG

I so think this is true!!!!

Sweetie, I am SO sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are a lot of children out there that need a home. Just something to think about.

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Very well put.

I am so sorry to hear this Right now you need to grieve for the one you lost and when you are ready you can think about what's next.

You don't have to rush it. All things happen in there own time.

I am so sorry.

I wasn't expecting to read this. I'm thinking of you & hubby.

Please don't take this as a sign that you aren't meant to be a mother. It took my parents 13 years and three miscarriages, but my brother and I eventually got here. Please don't let fear drive your decision. Let it all rest for awhile, and when your heart recovers, let it lead you.

Sometimes God's timing is different from our own agendas. I am soo, soo sorry you've going through this right now, I wish I could scoop you up and give you a huge hug. (I had an early miscarriage with my ex husband, so I know how devistating that can be. At the time, I didn't understand WHY it happened to me. As the relationship with my ex progressed however and he became violently abusive, it was then that I understood God had a different plan for me and that His timing was better than my own. Even though I desperately wanted a child, I would have been tied down to that situation for a lifetime and the child exposed to a monster of a person. In hindsight, it was soo tough for me, but now I understand that maybe it happened for a reason at the time. Now that I'm with Jack, I couldn't envision a more caring or loving father for our future children (whether they're our own or adopted)...Now I understand that God had something better in mind for me and I just needed to be patient ) Please don't give up hope hun. Sometimes the timing is just off or there is something better in store for you You and your hubby are in my prayers Be kind to yourself and to each other right now...let your body & your hearts heal and grieve as long as you need to.

I did want to share something else with you also....My cousin Christie went through two miscarriages several years back (there are a few posts on TCS about it). She and her husband finally just decided to let things be for a while...that's when she found out she was expecting. Last week, she celebrated her beautiful daughter Addison's first birthday Never give up hope love

I'm so sorry to hear this. If it helps any; my best friend miscarried twice before she had her 2 girls. I know it's someting that stays with you.

Nothing can take the hurt and shock away, and it is far too really to be thinking of trying again, IMO. Wait until you feel it is right, and I am sure DH will understand. And these days, it is not unusual for people to be in their 40s. Take the best medical advice you can and good luck.

I am very sorry. I myself have miscarried 2 times and at 39 years old I gave birth so 40 isnt too old. my thought and prayers are with you, I know how devastating it is. best of luck to you and hubby.

Thanks everyone. Yesterday was just really hard for me. I think it was finally starting to sink in then. Saturday I was really in too much pain to have it really hit me, you know.

As for what happened...I'm not sure. The doctor at the emergency room (who was VERY nice and compassionate btw) said it probably was just a case of the fetus not developing. I do have a follow up appointment with my OB on Thursday so hopefully I will know more than. The doctor's office did call on Friday to find out if I was taking my pre-natal vitamins everyday because my folic acid level was low. What I don't understand is I'd been taking pre-natal vitamins since the first time I got pregnant back in March and they have the recommended 400 mcg dosage. Unless my body just wasn't absorbing it the way it should have been. But that could have easily caused the miscarriage from what I've read. I just wish they would have told me when I had the blood work done 3 weeks ago instead of waiting so long to let me know. Not that it probably would have done any good...the damage was probably all ready done.

But, we're holding up. DH has been wonderful although I know he's heart broken about it. He's always such a rock. I'm afraid he's going to make himself sick by keeping everything inside the way he does. We're not making any major decisions right now..just taking it one day at a time. Thanks for all the support you all have shown us. It just amazes me how wonderful people are here .

ah Hope I am very sorry for reading this I know you were excited, and also remember the first pregnancy as well.

A lot of ppl have said some very smart things here, I won't even try to add in words of wisdom, all I'm adding is continue to keep your hopes up. If it is meant to be, then it will be. This I've learned over the years. It may not happen like we want it to, but if its supposed to happen, it will

my friend.