How do you feel about wedding rings?

I'm not married, but I'm not a big fan of jewelry, so I imagine if I ever do marry, the rings won't be a big deal. I'm also anti- the old notion that "diamonds are a girl's best friend". Any man who proposes to me better not give me a diamond!! I much prefer opals or emeralds or sapphires.

This thread reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where George did an experiment and wore a wedding ring to see if it attracted more women to him (it did).

1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married? Currently not married, but I wear a ring the Beau got me on that finger except when I am in the shower, working in the yard, or asleep.


2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it? I would prefer for him to wear it when we were out places, at work, or something like that. But he probably wont wear it when he's working on cars.

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?It depends on the reasoning. If he gave me an actual reason I probably wouldnt mind. But I wont lie, I would be a little hurt.
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Both hubby and I had rings in the first marriage. I kept mine to give to my son when and if he marries so he can cash it a buy her a ring. Hubby sold his on ebay.

Right now we don't have rings because we don't want the traditional kind. And we haven't bothered looking for rings - we know what kind we want and it won't be diamonds.

Our marriage is very solid, we don't need to wear rings to know (and act) like we are married. To me they really don't mean much any more - what I have now is far better then what was in the first one.

I do wear my wedding rings when I go out, not at home though.
My husband only wears his on Sunday or if we go somewhere. When he was working, he was in the bilge of a fishing trawler working on the battery with his wedding ring on. The tool struck the battery, it arched and burned his wedding ring to his finger. The dr. cut it off and although they thought he would lose his finger, it healed. In fact he has a permanent ring on the finger because of the scar. When that happened he quit wearing his ring while he was working. I don't mind that he doesn't wear it all the time. He doesn't mind if I don't wear mine. In fact I have some beautiful rings that no longer fit my right hand ring finger so sometimes, I wear them on the left ring finger instead of the wedding ring. We are married and connected with or without the rings.

When I was married we both wore our wedding bands.

For me, a wedding ring or a marriage license doesn't mean much. Russ and I have a great relationship and a piece of paper is not going to change that, it's what you feel for each other that counts, not material things. Only my opinion.

I wear my "Wedding ring" every day.

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I'd never dream of not wearing it. If I'm having a crappy or depressing day, it gets me focused on the important things in life.

Yeah, I know it's a bit off-topic, but dammit, I love my cats!!

We both wear rings, and we had them made ourselves, so there are no others like them in the world (unless someone has seen them and copycatted them!) We got married at sunrise, on a hill overlooking the ocean, so our wide gold bands depict a sun rising over a hill (the sun of made of pounded gold), and there are 2 silver seagulls representing the ocean flying in the "sky". The sky part of the bands are flourentine.

I probably would not mind if hubby stopped wearing his, but I don't see that happening. I don't think he's ever taken it off in 32 years, unless it was required for an MRI.

He would DEFINITELY care if I didn't wear mine. In fact, I lost mine once while helping my folks do some yard work, and he got out a metal detector and went over every square inch of their yard (a very large yard too), then went so far as to get into the very large shared trash can (big enough he could stand in it) where we had been dumping tree limbs, and started rummaging thru it to try to find it. I kept saying we could have another one made, blah, blah, blah, and he kept saying it wouldn't be the same, and finally, after digging thru dog poop and who know what else, he FOUND it! (Funny thing was, I was wearing gloves to do the yardwork - most of the time anyway!!)

1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring?
Yes, I adore my rings! We spent over a year searching for the right set for me! I only take them off to sleep, the way I had my center stone set cuts my face at night, lol. I also wear the "promise" ring jon gave me a few years before we got engaged

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?
Yes.

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?
Yes I would.

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?
lol I KNOW he would. I couldn't wear them for 90% of my pregancy, my hands were just too swollen. Every day after Lexi was born, even while she was still in the hosptial I would hear "do your rings fit yet?" lol

Originally Posted by Keycube

I wear my "Wedding ring" every day.

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I'd never dream of not wearing it. If I'm having a crappy or depressing day, it gets me focused on the important things in life.

Yeah, I know it's a bit off-topic, but dammit, I love my cats!!

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Are you wearing it on your "wedding ring" finger? If so, maybe that's why you can't find the right woman? (you ARE the guy who wonders why you can't find the right woman, aren't you?)

Married 30 years (today). I no longer wear my engagement ring, but I wear my wedding ring. If I wanted to not wear it, I would need to have it cut off. I was told that even though its not tight on my finger, as we get older our knuckles get bigger and that's why I can't get it off.

DH also wears a ring. I think if he had a good reason for not wearing it anymore I would be fine with it, but I can't see him ever taking it off without a really good reason. I don't know if he would care if I didn't wear mine. He might not even notice if I didn't have it on

Originally Posted by mrsgreenjeens

Are you wearing it on your "wedding ring" finger? If so, maybe that's why you can't find the right woman? (you ARE the guy who wonders why you can't find the right woman, aren't you?)

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Yes; hmmm, perhaps; and (yes).

Originally Posted by SwampWitch

1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married?

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?


Just curious... thanks for your time!

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I'm not married, but I was engaged and I wore an engagement ring. So I would have worn a wedding ring.

It wouldn't matter to me whether my husband wore a ring or not. It would be entirely his choice. Some people don't like wearing rings.

I know for about 20 years I didn't wear any rings because I didn't like how they felt. So during that 20 year period had I gotten engaged or married, I wouldn't have worn an engagement or wedding ring.

Last year I bought myself a ring and I was wearing it occasionally and then packed it up with my jewelery box in February. I dug it out a few weeks ago and am forcing myself to wear it. I figure there is no sense in spending money on a diamond ring and not wearing it. However, I still can't get used to how it feels. I'm constantly adjusting it and it's constantly getting caught on things.

I'm probably going to go back to wearing it only when I go out and taking it off when I'm at home. I'd likely do the same with an engagement or wedding ring.

Some people just aren't comfortable wearing jewelery all of the time.

]1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married?

Since I started landscaping I usually do not wear my ring daily from Mid-May thru Sept. I smashed my ring finger about 4 year ago and had to get my ring cut off and don't want that to happen again.

If I remember I may put it on when I'm not landscaping.

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?

I can't remember the last time he wore his ring. I knew it would not be worn alot so I didn't spend much money on it.


3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?

See above comment.

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?

I don't know if he pays attention at all!

If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married?

I'm married and don't wear my wedding ring...only because it doesn't fit anymore (gained a bit too much weight )

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?

Most of the time

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?

No

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?

As far as I know it doesn't bother him.


I wish I could afford to either get it resized or replaced with a larger one. Maybe next year for our 10th anniversary.

I am engaged and always wear my engagement ring. The only time I ever take it off is when I knead dough, and when I first had it I took it off at work. I am a bus assistant, and I didn't want to scratch a child when I wasn't used to it being there.

When we are married, Pat will wear a ring. He probably won't at work, as he is a corrections officer and it is not a good idea to give inmates hints on your personal life. Plus, if he gets hurt or breaks that hand, that could make the ring a dangerous piece of metal instead.

I think it would bother him if I stopped wearing my ring all together. Taking it off to protect it or others is entirely different then deciding I don't want it anymore.

The same goes for him. If he just stopped wearing it entirely, or took it off to go party I wouldn't be too happy. Taking it off for his safety, or mine, is entirely different.

Originally Posted by SwampWitch

1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married?

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?


Just curious... thanks for your time!

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I got his wedding ring back but I kept mine because it is a engagement/wedding ring together. I wear it on my right hand now that I am getting divorced.

Plan on melting his huge ring and making something that hangs from a necklace. There are little diamonds in it.

1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married?
-Do wear a wedding ring, and an anniversary band on the same finger.

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?
-Not at the moment. DH wore one when we first got married, but his job is so 'hands-on' that he was getting it caught on everything. Then he gained some weight and his band was already pretty thin so we bought a more substantial one. He wears it occasionally.

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?
-Since I know how hard it is for him to work with it on, it doesn't bother me. When he retires someday, tho, that ring had better be on his finger.

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?
I do believe he would.

I know I should feel completely secure about our marriage, since we've been together for almost 8 years and married for almost 5 but I know that when he was married before he used to give his wedding band to someone else he worked with when he was at work, so he could pretend he was single to flirt with girls, in his last marriage. So no, I would never completely feel comfortable with him not wearing his wedding band, unless there was a good reason for it. The ring is a reminder of his love for me, and my wedding band is a reminder for my love for him. I hope this makes sense? The ring is a symbol of our love and devotion for each other.

However, if he were in a much more physical job where it was required for him not to wear it on his finger for risk of endangering him, we would work SOMETHING out. Like he would wear it when he came home from work, or on his days off, for sure.

1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married?

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I do wear an engagement and wedding rings.

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?

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Yes he does, but only when he is not at home or at work. If he is at home or work he takes it off. He is a machinist and it is too dangerous for him to wear it while he is working, or he may lose a finger or even his hand/arm if it gets caught in the machines.

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?

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Hmmm...I don't think I would really care. It's just a piece of metal. Just like our "marriage" is just a piece of paper. Our relationship and commitment to each other means more than those things.

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?

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I don't know, I've never asked him. I wear mine 24/7 though. I feel weird without them now, after 10+ years.

1) If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you wear a wedding ring? If you are not married, would you wear one if you got married?

2) If you are married, does your spouse wear a wedding ring?
**Not married but before I broke my engagement ring (never wear rings when helping work on an engine) I wore it all day everyday never taking it off.

3) Would you mind if your spouse quit wearing it?
**Id kill him..the ONLY time he would be allowed to take it off is if he was working on an engine or on farm equipment and he would worry about it getting caught. Then it would be ok, but once he is done doing that work darn straight it will be on his finger if I have to super glue it on there.

4) Would your spouse care if you stopped wearing your wedding ring?
**He would get mad just as I would. For us getting married alone is a huge step and a huge sign of faith in each other and commitment so the rings are a part of that and a symbol of being married. We would both be mad at each other if we didnt wear our rings. Now barring physical problems that would prevent us from wearing them..thats a different story.