My neighbor has become a dear friend to me, and my kitties adoptive grandmother...
Sadly she has Alzheimer's, and lately has been getting noticeably worse... I am not sure how to deal with this situation... Here is what is going on:
I started noticing that she was getting really bad right before my last trip, when I left her en-charged of pet-sitting for me; I typed all the instructions for feeding very clearly, and noticed that she could not comprehend it. Meaning: By the time she got to the end of each sentence, she could not understand what it meant - AT ALL. She was completely confused. Even with short sentences. She had no capacity for comprehension...
She has no memory.... Can't get words out...
Today she told me she needed to get cat food, so I came home to pick her up to go to the store... She said she was not feeling well, so she couldn't go. PROBLEM: She can not explain to me what she is feeling!! Is it in her head? no. Heart? no. Chest? no. "I just feel bad" she says...
(me)Ok... I will get you cat food...
I ask her if she needs Dry or wet - she doesn't know what I mean, and doesn't know how to explain. So, I try to explain to her that dry food comes out of a bag - She says she knows what a bag is, but has no idea what I am taking about, hasn't fed food out of a bad to her cats in ages, and doesn't know how to explain where the food comes from.
I ask - ok, one food is in the shape of little kibbles, and the other is like pate, like tuna.... which one are you talking about?
"I don't know.... I just need cat food... Whatever I give them they eat... I don't have a bag.... You know, forget it... I just can't take the words out of my mouth, I hate this part of my life."
So I decide to get them a selection of wet and bring them back.
I call her to tell her I got the food and that I will drop it off at her living room so she can feed the cats (they had had only a 3oz can ea to eat all day today), I have her keys.... I get there literally 2 minutes later and she already forgot!!
Now this takes the cake: I give her the receipt for the food $36 - she counts, recounts, and recounts the $$$... gives it to me. I get it, fold it and put it in my pocket... get home to find $66.
Ok... So...
The worst part of all: She is living ALONE. Her husband lives in his office, the daughter in her house, and the son in California. The husband checks on her every other day, but still! After what I saw today she can not be alone PERIOD.
I don't know what do...
What do I do????
The poor thing.... She is a brilliant woman... BIG TIME artist, wonderful person... and still very smart, but can not be alone!
Do you guys think her family spends so little time with her that they actually don't see it? Or they do and choose to just ignore it and leave her like that?
What about me, do I say something? do something?
I always offer to do groceries, get cat food, take her to places, and stuff like that... make her company, etc... But what else can I do???
I LOVE her!! She is my buddy!!
HELP!!!
Anybody here dealing with the same situation??
Sadly she has Alzheimer's, and lately has been getting noticeably worse... I am not sure how to deal with this situation... Here is what is going on:
I started noticing that she was getting really bad right before my last trip, when I left her en-charged of pet-sitting for me; I typed all the instructions for feeding very clearly, and noticed that she could not comprehend it. Meaning: By the time she got to the end of each sentence, she could not understand what it meant - AT ALL. She was completely confused. Even with short sentences. She had no capacity for comprehension...
She has no memory.... Can't get words out...
Today she told me she needed to get cat food, so I came home to pick her up to go to the store... She said she was not feeling well, so she couldn't go. PROBLEM: She can not explain to me what she is feeling!! Is it in her head? no. Heart? no. Chest? no. "I just feel bad" she says...
(me)Ok... I will get you cat food...
I ask her if she needs Dry or wet - she doesn't know what I mean, and doesn't know how to explain. So, I try to explain to her that dry food comes out of a bag - She says she knows what a bag is, but has no idea what I am taking about, hasn't fed food out of a bad to her cats in ages, and doesn't know how to explain where the food comes from.
I ask - ok, one food is in the shape of little kibbles, and the other is like pate, like tuna.... which one are you talking about?
"I don't know.... I just need cat food... Whatever I give them they eat... I don't have a bag.... You know, forget it... I just can't take the words out of my mouth, I hate this part of my life."
So I decide to get them a selection of wet and bring them back.
I call her to tell her I got the food and that I will drop it off at her living room so she can feed the cats (they had had only a 3oz can ea to eat all day today), I have her keys.... I get there literally 2 minutes later and she already forgot!!
Now this takes the cake: I give her the receipt for the food $36 - she counts, recounts, and recounts the $$$... gives it to me. I get it, fold it and put it in my pocket... get home to find $66.
Ok... So...
The worst part of all: She is living ALONE. Her husband lives in his office, the daughter in her house, and the son in California. The husband checks on her every other day, but still! After what I saw today she can not be alone PERIOD.
I don't know what do...
What do I do????
The poor thing.... She is a brilliant woman... BIG TIME artist, wonderful person... and still very smart, but can not be alone!
Do you guys think her family spends so little time with her that they actually don't see it? Or they do and choose to just ignore it and leave her like that?
What about me, do I say something? do something?
I always offer to do groceries, get cat food, take her to places, and stuff like that... make her company, etc... But what else can I do???
I LOVE her!! She is my buddy!!
Anybody here dealing with the same situation??