Who do you miss this time of year?

I miss my mom. She passed 2 years ago at 78 to Alzheimers. I am her only child.

She was the church organist, and her and I had done weddings and funerals (sang) for many years. There is no harmony like mother and daughter harmony. We were the Judds before the Judds were!

Now, my grand daughter, Abby is carrying on the tradition. Yesterday she had a piano recital at an assisted living facility. Mom would have been so proud. I found myself looking around at the residents there, and from the back, one looked exactly like my mom. For an hour, I pretended it was her. Silly.

Abby wore the locket I gave her ingraved with moms, mine, my daughters and Abbys initials. The tradition continues...

Well, I have faith and maybe somehow, unknown to us, she was there, tapping her foot to the beat, with a proud smile on her face.

That is very sweet.


This year, I miss my side of my family. I do not have a relationship with my fathers side, but my mom and stepdad and siblings are my only family.

This year, mom, stepdad and all my younger brothers and sisters have moved to AB. I only have left my older brother, whom we chat with occassionally, but not usually go and visit. I am really missing having MY family here.

Luckily I have wonderful in-laws which help. I know DH misses his grandfather who passed on a few yrs back. His family xmases haven't been the same, and this year his grandma decided that they weren't going to do the family Christmas

So we have left is the 4 of us, and DH's parents + 2 brothers (and 1 girlfriend). It is going to be a quiet year.

Originally Posted by farleyv

I miss my mom. She passed 2 years ago at 78 to Alzheimers. I am her only child.

She was the church organist, and her and I had done weddings and funerals (sang) for many years. There is no harmony like mother and daughter harmony. We were the Judds before the Judds were!

Now, my grand daughter, Abby is carrying on the tradition. Yesterday she had a piano recital at an assisted living facility. Mom would have been so proud. I found myself looking around at the residents there, and from the back, one looked exactly like my mom. For an hour, I pretended it was her. Silly.

Abby wore the locket I gave her ingraved with moms, mine, my daughters and Abbys initials. The tradition continues...

Well, I have faith and maybe somehow, unknown to us, she was there, tapping her foot to the beat, with a proud smile on her face.

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Nothing silly about that at all. I believe with all my heart that our loved ones are still with us in spirit anytime we need them or miss them. And it's wonderful that your granddaughter is carrying on the tradtion. (my mom tried to teach me how to sing harmony and it was a disaster!! DEFINITELY not a talent I was born with! )

I miss my mom, dad, grandma, grandpapa...basically my entire immediate family. Starting new holiday traditions with hubby and his family has been fun...but not the same, you know? It's just not "Christmas". I would give anything to be 10 years old again and wake up in my parent's house and walk down the stairs to see the tree and presents and them on Christmas morning. Or be able to make our traditional Christmas dinner (not turkey!) for them in our new house. Or just to buy my mom a stupid sweater. It sucks...it's been 5 years and I still see things in the stores and think "oh, Mom would love that"....then, I'll remember.

I never understood growing up why Mom always said the holidays were bittersweet. Now, I understand.

I'll be the bummer here.

I miss my parents and my grandparents who have all been gone for many years. I miss the fact that my family is scattered across 5 states and I haven't been able to get together with them at Christmas for many years. I miss DH's family who lives in even more states than my family and they rarely get together these days. Weddings draw the families together and I enjoy those far more than Christmas. With all that, Christmas is very close to being just another day to me.

I miss my sister.
We were closer than any siblings have a right to be with the exception of twins.
She was my role model and my best friend.
She passed far too young, she was only 43, she's been gone 5 years now.

I miss my brother. I lost him 5 years ago. He was 44. I've not laughed the deep, uncontrollable belly laugh that I used to do when he was around since he passed. He was just so funny.

BTW, his birthday was Christmas Eve. He would be 50 this year.....

Cally

I miss my Mamaw who passed away in 2006.

I remember she would come and stay with us the week after we put up the Christmas tree for "cat patrol". She'd be armed with her little squirt bottle, ready to go if a kitty got too curious about the tree. It was so funny. She was never a fan of cats (of course they LOVED her). After that week, the cats wouldn't dare look at the tree, .

I miss my childhood Christmas's at her house. She lived way out in the country in a very old house with no heat, but several fireplaces. I remember all of us being wrapped in blankets in front of a fireplace, just laughing and eating. Always eating something delicious she had made. And running down the stairs on Christmas morning absolutely ecstatic with anticipation.

This is definitely the time of year I miss her most.

I miss my Daddy, he's been in heaven for 8 years.

Awwww bless of all of you

I am lucky enough not miss anyone yet.

I miss my dad. He died 6 years ago (at 42) to heart disease. When i was a kid my parents divorced pretty early on. So for as long as i can remember we spent Christmas Eve with my dad and christmas day with my mom. Christmas eve we would go to my dad's families house for a big christmas party (they even did their own version of the Italian 7 fishes tradition just like their father, and his father and so on...) It was always a lot of fun. Being the part time parent we got a way with a lot more with him than our mother. So being around him was always a ton of fun (He was just a big kid himself).

The year he died (He passed away in the end of November) he had already had the chance to buy our gifts. He wasnt there that year to give them to us, but we cherish those gifts the very most.

Okay i am going to stop talking about this now...i am tearing up at my desk. lol

I miss my dad who passed away in 1981. I was always daddy's little girl, as I was the only daughter and the youngest. He was 30 yrs older than mom and lived long enough to walk me down the aisle. That was the last lucid day he had as he had Alzheimer's. He was almost 81 when he passed.

I miss my mom who passed away in 1994. She was my best friend. We would do things like going to bingo and Vegas together. One of her friends was very jealous of our relationship as she didn't have such a relationship with her daughter. She was 64 when she passed, far too young IMO.

I miss one of my dogs, who was so close to my heart. I wish he didn't have to pass. He is such a special soul.
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I miss my Mom, she passed away 4 years ago in January from lung cancer at 52 years old. It is really hard this time of the year because she was my best Friend, a great granmother and Mother and just an all around wonderful person. I wish she could have watched her Grandchildren grow up. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her and wish she were still Here, although I know she is always with me in Spirit, I would love to see her face , hear her voice and touch her hands again.

I also miss Dolce' very much, it is still very raw, losing her. My children said Grandma is cuddled up with Dolce' in Heaven and she is throwing peices of paper for her to fetch

I miss my paternal grandfather. He died almost 19 years ago on Jan 13th, a month after I turned 13 years old. I still think about him all the time.

Definitely my mom and dad who passed on in the late nineties, and also my mom's mom. She would come and spend Christmas with us each year; she was so much fun!
This time of year used to be happy for me, but as time goes on I get sad and a little depressed. It's just my sister and I now, and this will be the first Christmas without her husband who died in February. She and I may just go to a movie so we're not sitting around looking at each other missing all those who've gone on before us.

I miss my Grandpa. He died in 1981, and sometimes I miss him so badly still, that I cry. I also miss my sister....the sister that she was before the drugs, alcohol and antisocial personality disorder boyfriend changed her into someone I barely recognize anymore.

It looks like we are all in the same boat missing someone. Reading all these brought tears to my eyes.

I guess the best way to honor their memories is to live the best life we can because that is what they would want for us.

I was thinking of my mom and dad the other day and was getting kind of down and teary. Then I thought funny things that happened with each of them and started smiling and laughing.

Thats how I want to be remembered.....my kids can laugh. Lord knows, there is an abundance of things I have done to laugh at!

this sounds odd but i miss my Mam she isnt dead but the alcohol has changed her to someone i just dont know anymore

That sure changes things doesn't it? But where there is life, there is hope.

Hugs and best wishes.

Mostly, I think I miss my mom's best friend, Zona.

I would say my dad, but he's been gone since very early 2000, and he suffered from dementia, so we had many years where he wasn't really with us. I missed him while he was here.

But, Mom and Zona became friends when they were 5 years old, and were friends for 85 years. Zona was an Air Force wife, and when her husband retired, they ended up moving back to within blocks of my mom and dad. Mom and Zona were inseparable, and so alike it was like they were sisters. Whenever I went home, I would have to see Zona, and to see the two of them together, laughing and telling tales was something I'll never forget.

She was like an aunt to me, and she passed only a couple of years ago. I really miss her at Christmas. I just realized this, as I was reading these posts. My mom misses her alot too.