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post #31 of 53
My sympathy for your loss! RIP Villa
post #32 of 53
I couldn't see to give my cat his am insulin because of the tears. That should tell you that the story of Jessy and Villy has touched someone thousands of miles away. When you get feeling better, try and find out all you can about chylothorax and heart disease. I did that with Spot and my diabetic cat Farly Velcro. Coming to the Catsite is a form of therapy for me. I think it's important to try to help others in their names. Hence, my name, farlyv. Each time I contribute my opinion on an issue here, I do it with my old friends in mind. As they say, if I help just one person, their death was not in vain. I can understand the pain. Been through it soooooo many times. You write so descriptively about your little friend, I feel I know her. Only time will help. I hope you are able to keep her ashes. That will be a comfort for you. If I was there, I'd give you a big hug and put a flower on her grave. We all are thinking of you and praying for you and Vill. God bless and keep us informed of your progress. Villy was quite a girl, and you are quite a mom! Shannon
post #33 of 53
She certainly was a gorgeous girl. Also read her story. You were so dedicated to her from the start. Loved the pics. Her in the garden shrubs was great. I bet it was one of her favorite places to stalk the wild beasts!She looks alot like my cat Slick. There is something about a black and white kitty! Telling her story hopefully makes you feel better. We love hearing about her and we will always remember that little cat from England who touch our lives in the states and around the world. Be proud mom!!
post #34 of 53
Thread Starter 
Thanks Shannon.

It's lovely to know that we have support from all the way in New York.

Thanks for getting in touch, I'm sorry your furbaby was affected by this awful disease too.

I'll never know, what if I'd let them do that one more surgery - would she have had a few more years? Or would it have simply extended the suffering? I worry that I made a decision too quickly, although it was something that I'd thought about a lot. Her chest was completely fluid - the vet could barely hear her heart sounds for all the fluid muffling the sounds, so we had to decide quickly. We could have drained her chest and then had a couple more days to decide. But then even a chest drain and going in an oxygen chamber would have been more trauma for her, more time alone in the scary vets.

I can't change it now. I miss her so much. I keep forgetting that she's not there, and i'll save her some butter from my toast, or make mashed potato, which she used to love, and i'll think, oh, I'll give Villy some of that - oh no I won't :-( I keep waking up at 3am, looking across at her bed and wondering where she is.

xx
post #35 of 53
Please don't second-guess yourself Jessy. I believe you absolutely did the right thing to prevent her suffering. Waiting would only have prolonged it. It is natural to wonder "what if". We all do it when we have to make that awful decision. Villy is at peace now. You helped her do that and she loves you for it.

I know it is impossible right now and you will never stop missing her, but eventually you will be able to remember the good times more than the bad.

post #36 of 53
Thread Starter 
Thank you.

I have a locket and I have put a picture of Villy in it on one side, and a picture of Roxy on the other so that they are still together in there. It's comforting to have my girls with me all the time.

post #37 of 53
the "ultimate kindness" I had the same regrets and questions. I drove myself crazy for months over sweet Spot. I cried all the time it seems. She was only 2 years old and had lived as a feral for 1 of those years. I kept thinking, should I have brought her in sooner, WHY didn't I bring her in sooner. I still do. But as I said, research this nasty disease. Knowledge is power. It will give you power over the second thoughts you are now having. Everytime I read how devastating this disease is, I felt a bit stronger. A piece of doubt fell away from my heart. I searched this site for anyone who may have had the same problem. I think there was only 1 or 2. It is that rare. Villy had a good long life. She never wanted for anything in your care. Sit back, smile and look up at Heaven. Go outside and breathe deeply and give thanks to God that he gave her to you. I truly believe she is in Heaven, maybe with sweet Spot. If you ever want, PM me and I will give you my e mail address. Maybe between us, we can help others with support. God Bless you, Villy and Roxie.
post #38 of 53
if you haven't already, explain things to Roxy... also, another companion [whenever you feel able] will probably help her.
sorry about Villy - you did the right thing, tho, & i know she thanks you for loving her enough to do it.
post #39 of 53
Thread Starter 
Dear Villy,
1 week and 1 day further on. I miss you so much. Roxy misses you too, and so does everyone else.
I hope you are playing happily at the Rainbow Bridge. Say Hi to Brain when you see him up there.
I love you my baby, thank you so much for the wonderfull time we spent together xxx
post #40 of 53
Oh gosh Im so sorry for you. I was thinking about you and Villy today but for some reason didnt want to come into here and read anything because I was so worried for you both. I hope you and Roxy are ok and coping together and Villy many happy walks over the bridge thru your own special garden!! Im sending you all love and happiness from Pa...Im so sorry for your loss Jessy.
post #41 of 53
that you are now on. But every day I hope you feel a little better. I have been on that journey many times. And I know I will take it again many times. I thought it might get easier, but it does not. Did you decide on a final resting place for Villy? I have a little cemetery behind my barn. Each one of my fur babes has a cross with their names carved on. Still think of you and wondered how you are doing. Hugs to Roxie and yourself. God Bless Villy.
post #42 of 53
I`m so sorry to come back and read about poor sweet Villy

Sending you lots of hugs and prayers at such a sad time
post #43 of 53
Thread Starter 
Hi all,

I could really use some help.

Villy is back from the crematorium, and is in her little casket, ready to be buried.

I live in rented accommodation.

I lived in a house for 3 years, and that's where Villy spent most of her time with me. My ex is still in the house, and will be for a few years. He's happy for her to be buried there, or

shall I bury her in a pot in my garden, that way I can take her with me.....

What shall I do?
post #44 of 53
read your thoughts on where to place Villy, I immediately thought you should place her in a pot in your garden. Who is to say your ex may move in a few years. You would have no access to pay respects to her if new people lived in the house. They may even landscape and, horror of horrors, disturb her resting place. Peace of mind is everything. I would hate to see you loose her again. All my cats are in our little graveyard behind our barn. As will be my and my husbands ashes too. Hope you are feeling better. Sadly, life does go on but happily our love and smiles of memory stay with us. Your friend across the pond.
post #45 of 53
Why do you need to bury her ashes? There are people who actually keep the ashes in the house. Sometimes in a place of honor say the mantle or a sunny spot where Villy used to like to lay. I'am sure you could find a proper vessel for her. Maybe something with a cat carved on it and her name and dates. Hope these suggestions help. YFATP
post #46 of 53
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Originally Posted by farleyv View Post
Why do you need to bury her ashes? There are people who actually keep the ashes in the house. Sometimes in a place of honor say the mantle or a sunny spot where Villy used to like to lay. I'am sure you could find a proper vessel for her. Maybe something with a cat carved on it and her name and dates. Hope these suggestions help. YFATP

I 2nd the idea of keeping her ashes in the house. That way whatever your living situation, she will be with you.
post #47 of 53
I'm so sorry for your loss Jessy.
post #48 of 53
Thread Starter 
It's two years on and I still think of my sweet baby all the time. I was blessed to have her in my life, and she's forged the path for my current and future feline friends :-)
We've lit a candle for her tonight.
I also have a beautiful little black and White bundle of 8 week old kitten snuggled up sleeping on me. Roxy has a black and white companion again.
I love you so much Villy, and hope you are playing happily at the rainbow bridge.
I have her ashes in a casket upstairs. I'm so glad I could keep her with me.
Love you always Villy xxxx
post #49 of 53
I haven't logged in for a long time but got e-mailed to say you'd replied to this thread. I remember Villy and you very well and am happy you've given another kitten a great home. I hope you, Roxy and the new kitten have a long, healthy and happy life!
post #50 of 53

Villy
post #51 of 53
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Originally Posted by Jessy View Post
It's two years on and I still think of my sweet baby all the time. I was blessed to have her in my life, and she's forged the path for my current and future feline friends :-)
We've lit a candle for her tonight.
I also have a beautiful little black and White bundle of 8 week old kitten snuggled up sleeping on me. Roxy has a black and white companion again.
I love you so much Villy, and hope you are playing happily at the rainbow bridge.
I have her ashes in a casket upstairs. I'm so glad I could keep her with me.
Love you always Villy xxxx
Aw...I was JUST thinking of you a couple days ago! I found your Christmas card with Roxy and Villy...awww...Do you have the little Villy statue still?
post #52 of 53
I certainly remember Villy and all you went through.

The sharp pain becomes a dull ache, combined with a few smiles as time goes by.

To have brought another little one into your life is a tribute to Villy and the love you had.....it is being passed on. A great gift to her.

God bless.
post #53 of 53
Aw Sweetie , I am sorry for Villy's passing. You and Villy fought a very tough battle, very courageous. The pain after they are gone is just unbearable. Give Roxy lots of love, I think you both need eachother so much right now. Villy will come to you and is with you everyday in spirit Believe......

RIP sweet Villy
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